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I got back together with my LDbf and he claims he wants us to get married...it's a huge change from the way he used to be and while he has told all his family and friends, bought a ring and wants it done ASAP I am still very weary of the whole thing.

 

It doesn't help that I'm not even sure of what I feel anymore, he knows this and doesn't blame me for it. It just feels weird to me, I used to have a burning passion for him and now it seems we have switched sides. I am relaxed and he is the super passionate lover.

 

So is this how it is for men, they are unstable about marriage and then one day they just decide they want it and it's 100% go time...or should I expect another relapse from him.

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RED FLAG.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Marriage is a MUCH bigger deal than how you both are making it sound.

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In my culture we generally marry once, for life, so I know it's a big deal and we are still miles from the alter it's just strange how he suddenly decided we need to get married when before he didn't feel it was necessary.

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It is easier to leave someone when you aren't married. Now that you are the one not feeling as strongly it's a good tactic out of fear of losing you.

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Yeah, that seems about right. Thank goodness I haven't given any official answer and nobody on my side knows that he has started proposing...

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Maybe the breakup made him realize how much he loves you?

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How old are you two?

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That's what he says, that he was unsure but our last break up made him realize some things. I'm very neutral about all this

 

He is 30 I am 27.

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