thezappa Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Hi all, I finally met a man after over 2 years that I want a relationship with. We've been on a few dates now and they were all brilliant. I was starting to really like the guy but... Basically after one of our dates i asked him a very simple question with which I know he lied about (has to do with a mutual friend) now the question was if he was ever friends with her on facebook. He said no but I know he was as he hs posts on her facebook and tagged in some of the photos. She also says they were and ive been friends with her for over 6 years so I trust her. I honestly don't care if he was or is etc but I don't get why he lied about it! So he basically flipped out when I asked him and said goodnight and goodbye and stop playing stupid games. I was hurt by this and we didn't talk for a few days. He is now texting me saying sorry and what is the deal with us. I said I dont know because I thought his reaction was a little un called for if im honest. He said he really likes me and wants to give me a chance but if their is anymore drama or assumptions he'll walk. For one I wasn't assuming nor creating drama, it was a simple question. He still says he wasn't friends with her though. I said I would think about it but im really not sure. I also don't like that'll he'll give ME a chance nor this walking if anything happened and I think it includes any fights. I don't like this walking bit nor his reaction. I am thinking of saying no though. What do you guys think?
Fondue Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Every single time I read a post/thread about facebook drama, I can't help but facepalm and believe our world is doomed.
Samilia Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Hi all, I finally met a man after over 2 years that I want a relationship with. We've been on a few dates now and they were all brilliant. I was starting to really like the guy but... Basically after one of our dates i asked him a very simple question with which I know he lied about (has to do with a mutual friend) now the question was if he was ever friends with her on facebook. He said no but I know he was as he hs posts on her facebook and tagged in some of the photos. She also says they were and ive been friends with her for over 6 years so I trust her. I honestly don't care if he was or is etc but I don't get why he lied about it! So he basically flipped out when I asked him and said goodnight and goodbye and stop playing stupid games. I was hurt by this and we didn't talk for a few days. He is now texting me saying sorry and what is the deal with us. I said I dont know because I thought his reaction was a little un called for if im honest. He said he really likes me and wants to give me a chance but if their is anymore drama or assumptions he'll walk. For one I wasn't assuming nor creating drama, it was a simple question. He still says he wasn't friends with her though. I said I would think about it but im really not sure. I also don't like that'll he'll give ME a chance nor this walking if anything happened and I think it includes any fights. I don't like this walking bit nor his reaction. I am thinking of saying no though. What do you guys think? I don't like lies, it's a deal breaker. That would make me question the amount of trust I can put in this guy and I'd be the one to walk. Unless the question is personal and you aren't allowed to pick into his life yet, doesn't appear to be the case. I have to agree with Fondue, FB is a drama pool, but I suppose that's irrelevant to your question.
Palominas Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Unless he posted on her wall often, I'd let it slide and see how it goes. To be honest, I have a rule that I don't add someone on my FB unless I met them in RL. I have 81 friends (which is considered small) and I have no freakin' clue anymore who's on there or not, unless I interact w/ them often.
Author thezappa Posted January 21, 2013 Author Posted January 21, 2013 Every single time I read a post/thread about facebook drama, I can't help but facepalm and believe our world is doomed. Hah yes I agree with you. As I said I honestly don't care if he was friends with her on it. I asked because he lied about it. He said he had never meet her before in RL but talked to on okc once. I only care that he lied about it and if he can lie about something so small that means nothing than he can easily lie about bigger things?
miss_jaclynrae Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Too soon for too much drama, that should be for him AND for you. Yeah, he lied, but if it didn't matter... why did you ask in the first place? Two wrongs done here, the one thing I will say that is a red flag is the way he handled being caught and turned it around onto you. Controlling behavior already. I would be gone.
Ninjainpajamas Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 He said he really likes me and wants to give me a chance but if their is anymore drama or assumptions he'll walk. For one I wasn't assuming nor creating drama, it was a simple question. He still says he wasn't friends with her though. I said I would think about it but im really not sure. I also don't like that'll he'll give ME a chance nor this walking if anything happened and I think it includes any fights. I don't like this walking bit nor his reaction. I am thinking of saying no though. What do you guys think? This guys an idiot...so he lies about something that is clearly public and then puts himself in that corner, and then says he'll give another chance before HE walks! LOL I have no idea how competent women have ability to dumb themselves down enough to even listen to something like that...ffs, guys got something to hide, it's clear as day and he's a moron on top it, this is really the guy you've been waiting for? You're a fool if you continue with this guy IMO, he's just exposed himself right there to me...go ahead, see the kind of crap he's going to pull in the future, he'll end up dropping you like a rock as soon as you outsmart him again because has the brain power of a chipmunk. This guy is going to be full of lies and manipulation...learn the hard way, you'll see. 1
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