truman4 Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 You can read the first post here to better understand things so you dont get lost. Ive become weak to this woman... After grabbing my gym membership and focusing on myself she has appeared back on my phone blowing it up with apologies and emotions. I cant help but feel for her i mean this girl is one of my best friends in my eyes she's been there for me through thick and thin and so have i with her. We end up dating again and the first couple weeks are great, we go out, eat dinner watch movies have lots of sex but mid december i got a txt msgs while i was at work saying "drink my house tonight? you down" f**k yea im down i replied as i was leaving work. I got to her house and 3 of her friends were there drinking with her. As the night progresses she started becoming more and more drunk. She would whisper jealous remarks in my ear like "i seen you look at my friend do you wanna **** her? go ahead she's fat and ugly just the way you like them". I would say no, your drunk just focus on having fun lets not fight now. She would then yell out "**** white people!" at the party right next to me knowing that i am part german. I gave her a frustrated look and she whispered in my ear again "You got a problem with that? tough ****" then started laughing and partying with her friends. I had enough i up and left for her room to watch tv and rest as she parties with her friends downstairs. Not even 10 minutes of me relaxing, she comes in and asks me why are you here? you should be downstairs with us, your embarrassing me in front of my friends! I told her i just wanted to relax and be away from the party because of the way she was acting. She blew up and started yelling at me telling me to go **** my ex or other girls and i got pissed so i sat on the otherside of the room to get away from her but everywhere i go she would follow and yell in my face! I wasnt having this anymore so i packed my **** and started heading out her room. She then starts pushing me saying all i do is leave her and she's sick of it. I told her i do it because i dont want things to escalate into bad things, if she wanted to talk things through calmly i would do so but none of this name calling and bringing up the past we supposedly covered a year and half ago. So i sat back down on her bed as she followed me and continued to batter me with more hateful words about how her friends dont like me, why are we together, im unhappy with you. It just seemed to be her drunk strategy of pissing me off and i started chuckling to myself because it wasnt working. Once she noticed my humor to her drunk accusations she started trying to hit me on a personal level by saying things like " yea your good friend wanted me before, he wanted this ass but i didnt give him the time of day. but you bet your ass i could f**k him whenever i wanted to cuz he wants this (saying all this as she flaunts herself next to me)". I still laughed and said yea he probably did but if he seen you now it sure does change alot lol After i said that she lost it she said she hates me, so i did what anyone would do when someones acting like this. Leave or give them space. As i was heading towards the door she chased me and shoved me away from the door pushing and pushing me more and more telling me f**k you your an ******* you dont love me blah blah blah. I couldnt get out of her room without pushing her aside to open the door. So as i went up to the door again while she was blocking the door i said "look you need to let me leave before things get worst just let me leave. your drunk!" As i pulled the door open she would slam it shut next to me and push me away from it. I started forcefully walking and resisting her shoves and with brute force started turning the door knob and proceeding to opening the door while she tried to close it. As i got close to opening it she jumped on me and bit my arm till it bled. I then grabbed her by her shoulders and shoved her to the wall and said "just stop it wtf are you doing to me?" She was loosing it, i then backed off the door again and was in the middle of the room. I had an idea that if i pretend to film her acting like this that maybe she would feel as if the world would see her behind closed doors and she would stop embarrassing herself. So i grabbed my phone out my pocket and acted like i was filming her saying "if you dont stop hitting me the world will see what you really act like behind closed doors so let me leave now!" She was shocked she said "why would you do that to me? you know i have a family company and that reputation to worry about. Your so f**ked up!" By that time her friends heard the commotion and started opening the door and as they did i tried once more to proceed to go out. As i got close my gf jumped on my back and bit me two more times on the back of my arm. She then punched my face 4 times. I grabbed her and tackled her to the bed where i held her down. I told her friend at the door to hold her down as i leave. My gf now pinned by her friend is screaming at the top of her lungs saying "he set me up that a**hole he filmed me and provoked me and he hit me" her friends started looking at me like i did because she was crying. So before anything else happened i ran out the house...FINALLY! got to my truck and found my keys in my pocket to start it up and BOOM! here's my ex at the driver door crying, pulls the door open and i go to push her away telling her to leave me alone. She pulls my foot out of the truck and slams my leg with the drivers side door. I drop my keys outside and i said ok this is going too far i need to call the police. So i told her i called the cops she started yelling outside the neighborhood saying "why would you do that? you hit me? why are you trying to put me in jail when you hit me?" the cops came i told them its just a fight i needed them to bring a scare to her because i sure as heck aint gonna hit a girl and go to jail for it. As i was talking to them she barged in the convo drunk yelling "he hit me! he's a liar dont believe this a**hole he has footage of me doing all this, this is so unfair!" the cop then took her side of the story, found no harm done to her, came up to me and said "she said she hit you and i can see bit marks on your body, by law she's going to jail tonight you know that right?" I just told him no charges pressed im just gonna go home. i thanked them for comming and ended up having coffee down the road afterwards. Pretty cool cops i must say. 5 days after all that i call her mom letting her know the situation of the matter and apologizing to her for the commotion in her house. She said " oh i know how my daughter acts like when she's drunk. We all do, you too so you cant really blame her". My ex then calls my saying "this sucks i didnt mean to do any of that to you". I took her back only to spend christmas and new years with her on Jan 5th we made exactly 2 years just two days after that i get a phone call after work about her day with her friends. She said she feels like she is growing distant from her friends and isnt happy with the way her life is. Also telling me she feels distant towards me and that our relationship isnt perfect. I break it off with her telling her if she isnt happy then maybe she should take sometime to herself. so she did and didnt call me for 5 days straight. When i finally got around to calling her asking her how everything is she said "how you dumped me on tuesday was harsh, im talking to someone else and we both are taking things slow so i suggest you move on". Ive been depressed ever since then. i can barely eat,sleep or do anything that deals getting out of bed. I email her, txt her and call her without any response back. Ive fallen in this hole that i dug 100ft deep so no one can find me. I find myself stalking her FB, her house, her friends. Ive never been this way ever in my life. All i think about is the other man she is with and how many others she is with and how not even a week after 2 years she is able to sleep with someone that quick after two years of telling me im her best friend and love. its the biggest slap in the face ive ever received and even bigger blow to my self esteem. I even tried to rebound with another girl only to find out she still has feelings for her ex as well. My luck is **** right now. Shoot me already... your ex was physically abusive to you and verbally abusive,i say get a new chick,plus i believe she has taken down the "wall" since she started becoming abusive,and probably cheated months prior the breakup,some chicks just use this trick to make the breakup on you.Sir,its time to start over TD You couldnt have been more accurate with this fact... After we broke up again instead of getting back together again she said please move on i im talking to other guys and they're interested in me and im taking things slow with one of them.
fungusamungus Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 See a therapist. That is the most ****ed up relationship I've ever heard of.
Author truman4 Posted January 22, 2013 Author Posted January 22, 2013 Im currently in the proccess of seeing a therapist.. I know its alot to read. I put these out here to vent and hopefully show people to be careful and watch out for ppl like this. i pray to god that no one has to go through what ive gone through. To everyone that has read this i just want to say thank you...
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