mgirl213 Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 (edited) I'm sorry this is so long, but its gotten so complicated lately. And please, I don't want to hear about moving on and whatnot because I have tried and was succeeding until recent events. I would like tips on how to handle this and what to do to work towards getting back together. My ex broke up with me after being together for 2 years back at the end of July. Our relationship was in general really great and easy. We both loved each other more than anything else. People may say that we're just kids and we don't know what love is (we're juniors in high school now), but our relationship was different and more mature than other teens' relationships. Even adults around us could see that. When he broke up with me, he was very torn up and we were both crying. For the next couple weeks, I begged and pleaded and did everything bad basically. At first he would say that it was just a break and that he just needed time and that we would get back together sometime soon. He stopped saying that after a couple of weeks and ended up telling me that we would never get back together. When school started, it was absolutely awful for me. The last time we talked about getting back together was in august. He ended up saying that he wouldn't say yes or no about the possibility of getting back together and that he didn't know. I've held on to that this whole time. To sum up school for the past 5 months, he stares at me in the halls and checks me out all the time and watches me talk and laugh in class. It all confuses me so much. Not much had happened recently, especially since we went on winter break. But 2 weeks ago, in the middle of the night, he was tweeting lyrics and things about regret and feeling guilty and whatnot. First, he liked my picture on Facebook and commented "ugh" on it (we don't ever associate with each other on facebook anymore. No likes, comments on ANYTHING). About a minute later, he texted me asking if I hated him and that he still cares about me. I wasn't very nice and just kept questioning why he was saying all of these things. He fell asleep and the next morning started up the conversation again saying of course he cares about me and to not be surprised by that. He then went on to ask me if I still wanted to be friends and I told him that it wasn't a good idea. He said he completely understood. I told him that I didn't hate him though. It kind of made me angry, because after saying all of this, he tells me "not to over think it." Come to find out, he was REALLY drunk that night. A couple of days later, he deleted his comment on my picture too. School started the week after all of this, and he continued to glance at me in class all the time and to randomly make little comments to me. That weekend (a week ago now), he was tweeting things about self loathing and about messing things up and warning others that if they got involved with him, he would just break their hearts and hurt them. He finished these tweets up with one basically saying that its sickening to him because he knows that we are capable of making it work and being great together. This is where I get really confused. On monday night, I had this strong urge to talk to him about us. I'm glad I did, but so confused by it. Most people would think it gives me closure, but I have more questions now than before. I texted him and started asking what his opinion was on me and he said he tries not to have on since I don't want to be friends. I ended up asking if he missed us being close and why we couldn't try things again, but completely from scratch and slow. His excuse was that he just can't do it. He thought that I was over him though since I didn't even want to be friends and I explained that I couldn't because its too painful on me. He said he completely understands what I mean. I told him that I wanted to ask now because I would never know if I didn't try. I realized that he has never actually told me that he's over me or that he doesn't have feelings anymore, so I asked if he thought we could ever get back together and honestly if his feelings for me were completely gone. He said probably not and that he's doing better. Why won't he tell me if his feelings are gone? He's told other people that he's moved on, but never me. When I asked if the only reason we couldn't fix things was because of our past, he said yes. I just told him that I don't see why that has to affect it because it doesn't for me anymore (which is true) and that I want to have a completely new and different relationship. He quit responding to me after that. This past week at school, I thought he would completely quit with the glances and things like that, but he just continued. My friends and I ran into him in the hallway between classes once this week (I have dance classes at school so I was in my dance attire) and we really caught him off guard and he just kept looking at me and smiling as I went by. So last night, things got crazy for me. He started saying things on his twitter that would lead me to believe that he was on a date with one of my best friends who has taken to being better friends with him since the break up. Apparently I wasn't the only one to think this because some of his friends were getting mad at him for it. After me freaking out to myself and trying to stay calm, my friend who was at my house discovered that they went to a movie together, but that there are no romantic feelings there at all. Of course though, ANOTHER girl that likes him, got into a fight with him because she was confused about his feelings towards her (he doesn't like her like that either). He told this girl (who is good friends with the friend at my house) that he doesn't want to like anyone right now. The way I am thinking right now is that the past few weeks, he has really been missing me and regretting things, but he thought that I was over him and that he had no chance so he didn't try. For some reason now, he won't accept me and won't date anyone... I don't know if I should listen to him when he says that we'll never get back together because he has second guessed himself in that way before, as I mentioned above. Please just tell me what tactics I should try. So far I just plan on being sweet yet distant at school and acting like nothing is wrong. After all this time, I still love him so much. We were each other's first love, kiss, etc. (we're both still virgins though and he plans to stay abstinent until marriage). I want tips on what I should do to eventually get back together. Maybe even months from now, but just what I should do and try. Again, please forgive me for this being so long. I just needed to tell my whole story so I can get help! Edited January 21, 2013 by mgirl213
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