Fryderyk_Franciszek Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 I have been dating this girl now for a couple of weeks. She lives about 50 miles away and for the past couple of weekends I have made the trip to go see her and stayed at her place. We are starting to hit this off rather well. Her parent's house is about 5 miles away from my house and she has been given the task of watching it for them while they are away in Florida for the winter. So she had made the agreement with them to go down every other weekend to watch the house. This works out quite well for us since this makes it fair. One weekend at her place 50 miles away and the next here in my hometown. The catch is that she has 2 dogs while I have 2 cats. At this moment, my place isn't very large and hosting her two dogs can be difficult. So she has offered me to go to her parents' house and hang out with her there. But she says that she has to be the one to pick me up and drive me there because she doesn't want her neighbors to see me. Apparently, her neighbors are very protective of the house and her? I also get the feeling that her neighbors would call her parents and tell them that she has someone staying hanging out with her. This girl I am seeing is 26 and I am 29...so I really haven't experienced this since high school. I am not a huge fan of sneaking around. And I would kind of like my car there so that I don't have to rely on her to drive me places. I want to respect her all the same though and am willing to do this. I am just worried that this may be a trend or it could just be because we are starting a relationship. From my understanding her mother may be overprotective....or something like that. How long should I let this go before I bring it up? Is this normal with females who are 26? I think it is a weird situation.
jlindemann Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Personally I don't think it's a weird situation. Since the neighbors are nosey and will likely tell the parents about activities that are going on in their house, she probalby feels it would be irresponsible to be having her boyfriend at her parent's place. I'm in my 30's, but if I was inviting my boyfriend over to my parent's house while they were away, I don't think they would like it too much. I would imagine she's doing this purely out of respect for her parents and their home. Especially since you're relationship is pretty new (a couple of weeks as you've stated), it's nothing long term and serious at this point, so her parents probably would be pretty upset knowing that she was having you there all weekend, doing "whatever" in their house. 1
The1Mechanic Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 It wouldn't bother me in the least, and it's completely understandable. Park you car at a nearby supermarket or something if it makes you feel better? 1
Author Fryderyk_Franciszek Posted January 22, 2013 Author Posted January 22, 2013 Thanks for the responses. I tend to over think things way too much sometimes. My mind feels a bit more at ease.
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