1 month+ of NC

[Victoria Lake]

Hey,

 

 

So it’s been a little over one month of NC. I’m fine… I definitely feel better, but – I don’t know how to explain this – I’m not doing great, I’m not super happy or excited, know what I mean?

 

NC is working fine; I haven’t seen him since last year I also avoid him like the plague (I stated in a previous post that there are big chances to accidentally meet him at his workplace or where he lives). I assume he’s fine, but I don’t wanna find out anything about this.

 

I remember reading a post here on LS, and the user was saying that sometimes we have to move on not because we want to, but because we have no other option – it’s the same for me. I didn’t want to abandon our relationship, I wanted a chance (for us), I always had the hope that it will work out – but apparently he made up his mind, and I can’t change anything anymore (nor do I want to at this point). I know I have to move on, and this is exactly what I’m trying to do. I mind my own business, I’m very busy with school, I try to go out and have fun… but deep inside, he’s still in my thoughts, like he’s part of me. Sometimes I’m very happy that a new chapter in my life has begun; I think with joy about my future and even about meeting someone else… but then I have these silly moments (not many though), when I get very lonely and I miss him a lot – I miss him coming over, I miss his laugh, I miss sitting with him on the couch, looking outside the window and chatting… And then I think that he’s happy with his new girlfriend, while I no longer make part of his life. I’m not angry at him, I’m not upset that he’s happy with someone else, I’m just sad because of the situation…

[flitzanu]

perfectly normal. it's going to take time, and everyone heals differently. no one ever completely disappears from our mind if we love(d) them, at least i hope not. even horrible ex gfs i've had, i do still miss them occasionally. we do have emotions after all, you just learn to stop dwelling in them as the days move past.

[iouaname]

All of that is completely normal, and honestly, you're in a much better place after just one month of no contact than a lot of people are several months after a break up.

 

It's going to take a long time to get over the feelings that you have about him, and even longer to get rid of the thoughts about him. They will fade eventually though. When you're ready and you're meant to, you'll meet someone else and he'll be just a distant memory.