Drummerguy89 Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 So I met a girl on a plane ride back home. We really hit it off and I got her number- in fact she put it in my phone and seemed very interested. When we came back, we were texting and before I even asked she said "we should go out for drinks sometime this week" We met up at a pretty nice place for dinner and drinks, the date went well but very little chemistry from what we had on the plane. We talked a lot, and it was never awkward but something was missing..She mentioned (only when I brought up dating out here in the city and how it sucks) that about a year ago she got out of a 3 year relationship from college. She works about 3 jobs and is an actress. At the end of the night she said she had to wake up really early for work which she mentioned earlier...the date was about 2 hours long. I walked her to her car and we both said we had a good time and would do it again. The next day I texted her letting her know I had a great time and that we should go out again sometime soon. I let her know that since her schedule is a lot less flexible than mine that she can let me know anytime she wants to hang out. She took a day to get back to me which was a little out of the ordinary considering before the date we were always very quick responding. When she got back to me the next day, she said "absolutely we'll have to do that sometime! Have a good week!" The date wasn't really THAT amazing but I am still definitely willing to go on a second date with her. I waited until the next week. I texted her rather late in the evening at about 7pm and said "Hey, what are you up to?" to see if we could meet up or something. I had other plans but they fell through otherwise I wouldn't have texted her so late on a Saturday for plans.. She didn't respond and still hasn't a day later. It is only a day but I am just wondering what I should do now if she doesn't get back to me. Should I just never message her again or should I wait another week..and try again? I would really like to try again but I also don't want to hound her for a response. I was thinking of being brutally honest and just telling her straight out that I know i didn't really feel a strong connection but would like to try again and if nothing comes of it just be friends...what do you guys think?
Ami1uwant Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 sorry...but she didnt respond to you...she doesnt appear to be interested. You need to move on.
jimabele23 Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Yes i agree with Ami1uwant. I think she is not intrested on you.
DollWelch Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 I would say she lost interest. You might want to take this as learning experience. Ask yourself: 1. How did you handle yourself on the first date? 2. Did your personality shine through? 3. How did you keep her engaged in the conversation and the date itself? 4. Did your actions match up with your words? And how could you improve on this for next time? I think whenever you go out on a date, it is important to assess how well you performed. A woman that quickly loses interest in her date is because she wasn't impressed -or rather she expected more. And if he wasn't as charming as she thought he would be -i.e. you didn't keep her engaged through your personality in a way that made her eyes light up. Women like to be enthralled. And probably because you didn't go in for a kiss. Women want to see first hand if you are interested, and sometimes the way to do this is through being intimate. If the sparks fly for her, she'll be eager to text you back. Oh and texting "What are you up to?" right after a date isn't going to cut it. You have to step your game up. Those are my two cents. Food for thought, really. Good Luck!
Frogwife Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 I was thinking of being brutally honest and just telling her straight out that I know i didn't really feel a strong connection but would like to try again and if nothing comes of it just be friends... Wow, if this doesn't get her hot, I don't know what will!
Eternal Sunshine Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Wow, if this doesn't get her hot, I don't know what will! Yep, that's every girl's dream Why are you so persistent if you didn't feel a strong connection? Sounds like the feeling was mutual...
todreaminblue Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 So I met a girl on a plane ride back home. We really hit it off and I got her number- in fact she put it in my phone and seemed very interested. When we came back, we were texting and before I even asked she said "we should go out for drinks sometime this week" We met up at a pretty nice place for dinner and drinks, the date went well but very little chemistry from what we had on the plane. We talked a lot, and it was never awkward but something was missing..She mentioned (only when I brought up dating out here in the city and how it sucks) that about a year ago she got out of a 3 year relationship from college. She works about 3 jobs and is an actress. At the end of the night she said she had to wake up really early for work which she mentioned earlier...the date was about 2 hours long. I walked her to her car and we both said we had a good time and would do it again. The next day I texted her letting her know I had a great time and that we should go out again sometime soon. I let her know that since her schedule is a lot less flexible than mine that she can let me know anytime she wants to hang out. She took a day to get back to me which was a little out of the ordinary considering before the date we were always very quick responding. When she got back to me the next day, she said "absolutely we'll have to do that sometime! Have a good week!" The date wasn't really THAT amazing but I am still definitely willing to go on a second date with her. I waited until the next week. I texted her rather late in the evening at about 7pm and said "Hey, what are you up to?" to see if we could meet up or something. I had other plans but they fell through otherwise I wouldn't have texted her so late on a Saturday for plans.. She didn't respond and still hasn't a day later. It is only a day but I am just wondering what I should do now if she doesn't get back to me. Should I just never message her again or should I wait another week..and try again? I would really like to try again but I also don't want to hound her for a response. I was thinking of being brutally honest and just telling her straight out that I know i didn't really feel a strong connection but would like to try again and if nothing comes of it just be friends...what do you guys think? To me first dates are awkward, because you just don't know how its going to go, that is why i would always give more than one date, normally I have known the person a while anyway......i expect first dates to be a little nerve wracking even when i do know the person, so i am not expecting fireworks and ahhhhhh moments to shoot off into the atmosphere on a first date....if i keep the conversation lively i am happy....and i put in effort it takes two not one though.....the first dates are a stepping stone to me a little one, that's all....if i were you i would try the honesty approach she might find it refreshing...if she doesnt then ...you haven't really lost anything have you????..and if she accepts the second date you are going to feel more confident than the first.....if it doesnt work out...you gave it your best that is what is important...you gave it a shot...............best wishes....deb
Author Drummerguy89 Posted January 21, 2013 Author Posted January 21, 2013 Thanks for the advice everyone. Do you guys think if I take the honest approach I should wait a week or do it before this weekend?
Casablanca Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Thanks for the advice everyone. Do you guys think if I take the honest approach I should wait a week or do it before this weekend? She knows, I wouldn't really send anything else. At this point, ball is all in her court
StanMusial Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Thanks for the advice everyone. Do you guys think if I take the honest approach I should wait a week or do it before this weekend? Eh, let it go... it sounds like there wasn't much there from your end, probably even less from her end.
Samilia Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 So I met a girl on a plane ride back home. We really hit it off and I got her number- in fact she put it in my phone and seemed very interested. When we came back, we were texting and before I even asked she said "we should go out for drinks sometime this week" We met up at a pretty nice place for dinner and drinks, the date went well but very little chemistry from what we had on the plane. We talked a lot, and it was never awkward but something was missing..She mentioned (only when I brought up dating out here in the city and how it sucks) that about a year ago she got out of a 3 year relationship from college. She works about 3 jobs and is an actress. At the end of the night she said she had to wake up really early for work which she mentioned earlier...the date was about 2 hours long. I walked her to her car and we both said we had a good time and would do it again. The next day I texted her letting her know I had a great time and that we should go out again sometime soon. I let her know that since her schedule is a lot less flexible than mine that she can let me know anytime she wants to hang out. She took a day to get back to me which was a little out of the ordinary considering before the date we were always very quick responding. When she got back to me the next day, she said "absolutely we'll have to do that sometime! Have a good week!" The date wasn't really THAT amazing but I am still definitely willing to go on a second date with her. I waited until the next week. I texted her rather late in the evening at about 7pm and said "Hey, what are you up to?" to see if we could meet up or something. I had other plans but they fell through otherwise I wouldn't have texted her so late on a Saturday for plans.. She didn't respond and still hasn't a day later. It is only a day but I am just wondering what I should do now if she doesn't get back to me. Should I just never message her again or should I wait another week..and try again? I would really like to try again but I also don't want to hound her for a response. I was thinking of being brutally honest and just telling her straight out that I know i didn't really feel a strong connection but would like to try again and if nothing comes of it just be friends...what do you guys think? I wouldn't bother.
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