MissLY Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 I've been seeing this guy for 10 weeks. We usually hang out every week. Lately, we havent seen eachother for 2 weeks. Finally, we decide to get together on a sunday. I reach out to him on sunday and ask him if we're still on. He says he can't because he has to finish some work and be with family. I say ok. Then I say "i look forward to seeing you next time." I get no response from him until 4 hours later at 9pm. He texts me saying "Just got home and got in bed. Wish you were here." That annoyed me because all of a sudden now he's free?? I don't get it. I was thinking of responding with "Oh so at first you were busy but now you're available? Ok" but I'm not sure whether to send that or not. How would you guys respond to a text like that?
nessaaa Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 I would text him a pic of me showing the fk u sign 3
HitMeNow Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Lol he probably has a reason he can't see you. (Maybe a huge pimple on his dick lol). Point being it doesn't matter. He can't see you. The text seems affectionate and genuine. I would think if I wrote that to a girl (I'm not the lovie dovie type), she would think it's cute and understand that I like her... maybe I'm wrong though :|
harnold Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 I'm a guy, and although I'm not really familiar with your situation, all I'm going to add, is that if you were to send me a message saying "Oh so at first you were busy but now you're available? Ok", it would be a big turnoff. Don't send that. Especially since I interpret his text as a sign of affection.
Fondue Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 I don't understand. How are you saying he is available? It seems like those four hours, he was busy doing what he needed to do-- now he got home, ready for bed to rest. Maybe there is something I don't understand. 7
Author MissLY Posted January 21, 2013 Author Posted January 21, 2013 I don't understand. How are you saying he is available? It seems like those four hours, he was busy doing what he needed to do-- now he got home, ready for bed to rest. Maybe there is something I don't understand. We were planning to hang out sunday night. I reach out to him at 2pm asking if he still can. He tells me he can't. Then at 9pm he texts me saying he wishes i was there. See what I mean? Why is he "all of a sudden" free at 9pm? He should've told me that earlier but he chose not to.
Lani Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Well, I don't know about everyone else, but 9pm on a Sunday is pretty late to do something. Maybe he's only just become free, and is tired and going straight to bed. You're overreacting.
Fondue Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 We were planning to hang out sunday night. I reach out to him at 2pm asking if he still can. He tells me he can't. Then at 9pm he texts me saying he wishes i was there. See what I mean? Why is he "all of a sudden" free at 9pm? He should've told me that earlier but he chose not to. How do you know he wants to hang out with you? Can't he just be missing you without asking you to chill? People tell each other that they miss one another all the time. Can't this be one of those cases? I feel like you're making an issue where there isn't one-- are you looking for drama? 2
Mycteria Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 He was busy all day and now he's in bed. He wasn't telling you that he was free to hang out, he was saying he is going to bed and he's sorry he didn't get to see you. I don't get why you're upset. The only thing I'd be a little annoyed about is that he hadn't let you know by 2 pm that he couldn't see you. But you've been dating for over 2 months. If he's been reliable up to this point then I would let it slide. 2
Author MissLY Posted January 21, 2013 Author Posted January 21, 2013 How do you know he wants to hang out with you? Can't he just be missing you without asking you to chill? People tell each other that they miss one another all the time. Can't this be one of those cases? I feel like you're making an issue where there isn't one-- are you looking for drama? I'm not looking for drama, I'm just frustrated because it's been two weeks since we've seen eachother and I miss him. So the fact that we couldn't get together tonight annoys me. His text also came off like he was looking to have sex by saying "in bed. wish you were here." But most of you guys are seeing it as "affectionate". I sure hope you're right.
MrCastle Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Not a big deal. I really see no problem here. For the future though, when you're stuck as to what you should text--sometimes it's best to not text at all. Not every text requires an answer back on your part. Plus, it prevents you from having a foot-in-mouth moment or creating unnecessary tension.
charlietheginger Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Mislili for the sake of this mans sanity breakup with him. You sound like a overreacting drama queen hes better off with Someone else. Big deal he said at 2pm he could not hangout 9pm he Comes home goes to bed text u he misses you. Why do u wanna fight and argue over something that's Not a big deal? Why make drama why give this guy a headache
mesmerized Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 I don't see what's wrong and you sound crazy. Poor guy. 1
rocketman122 Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 where, in all what you wrote he texted you says he now is free and now wants to see you? he did what he had to do and got home and replied to your text. I myself would be more attentive and realize that after 2 weeks of not seeing each other you are itchy to meet and that you miss him. I wouldnt wait 4 hours to reply but thats me. if he would have stayed in contact with you throughout the evening you would have been more calm. you are needy for attention and thats ok, I can understand. my GF loves attention too and im like that as well sometimes. but I love to give her attention and affection. just tell him to not disappear on you like that and 2 weeks to not see him is hard. 4 hours to not hear from him when not seeing him for 2 weeks makes it difficult.
CptObvious Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 http://d24w6bsrhbeh9d.cloudfront.net/photo/5498348_700b.jpg
todreaminblue Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 things happen he said he had to do something and when he was finished doing what he had to do he texted you...i would be honest and say i missed seeing you today was looking forward to it.....hope we can catch up soon, thinking of ya...something like that....save the sarcasm its not necessary....he did nothing wrong in my opinion...sudden crops ups are common in life, cant be planned or put off....crap happens....tomorrow is a new day....deb 1
sydneysider1978 Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 I don't think you're annoyed by the 9:00 text, you're annoyed that he cancelled on you 2pm on the day you were supposed to meet up. And only on your prompt. Sure, stuff comes up. But I would find it a bit disrespectful of my time to cancel like that, unless there was something urgent. Are you cool with only seeing each other every one or two weeks? It sounds like there is a bigger problem that the "wish you were here" text. (Which I think is cute, or him trying to get on your good side) 1
RachR Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Wow, he was just saying how he missed you. Way to overreact. You never heard of someone saying "wish you were here" before? I hope you didn't send a text.
Cutiepie1976 Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 (edited) How is the level of communication otherwise? Is he still communicating and initiating as frequently as he was say at week 3 or 4? Look at whether blowing you off (which he did, since he promised you a date but didn't follow through) is an isolated event or part of a bigger picture. Typically things are picking up, and you are meeting more and more frequently at your stage of the game, spending greater periods of time together. You guys backtracked from weekly dates to not seeing each other in two weeks and then him blowing you off it seems. Why did you stop meeting as frequently? You? Him? Both? Is this part of a theme on his part? If so, he's fading. If this is isolated, don't worry about it. Was it urgent that he attend to whatever it was he chose to do instead? Then I would also let this go. At any rate, you don't have to answer that text. It's perfectly reasonable to expect an apology when someone blows you off, and they respect your relationship. Are you leaving out key details here? Did he provide one when you spoke? You don't say. The issue is the date, not the text, right? Edited January 21, 2013 by Cutiepie1976
silvermercy Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 I will take a different road and actually agree with the OP. I would also take it the wrong way and think of the text as being a fishing message to a booty call. Not affectionate at all. Especially if they cancelled on me earlier. Granted it may be a poor choice of words. I think you should step up your communication level. 2
Tally123 Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 I would say the fact you havent seen each other in two weeks speaks volumes!
veggirl Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 uhh no his text was NOT saying I miss you. I'm not sure why people are telling you that OP. People seem to not be getting that: --he hasn't seen you in TWO WEEKS --you guys MADE PLANS and then he said "can't have to see family" His wish you were here text was either a booty call or just something to appease you. If he MISSED YOU, he would follow through on his plans to see you. If he missed you, he wouldn't go 2 weeks w/o seeing you. Listen to me OP, ignore the others. They are wrong. I'd be annoyed by that text too. I wouldn't respond. 2
AlexDP Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 I don't see what's wrong and you sound crazy. Poor guy. Succint, true and with a hunch of malice. I liked your post.
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