Pyro Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Yet most men continue to date high maintenance women. Explain this to me. Much of the above 5 traits are overlooked by most men, unless the woman is either: 1. Psychotic, or 2. Unattractive. If she is hot or attractive, then none of what was mentioned applies. Can't speak for any other men but I experienced the above definition of high maintenance once before when I was younger and that was more than enough for me to never want to experience it again. Any repeat offenders makes me shake my head in shame.
ascendotum Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Yet most men continue to date high maintenance women. Explain this to me. Much of the above 5 traits are overlooked by most men, unless the woman is either: 1. Psychotic, or 2. Unattractive. If she is hot or attractive, then none of what was mentioned applies. I half agree with agree with you. Yes many men will continue to date or chase high maintenance women, but imo overwhelmingly its because of her beauty/feminine charms that leads them into the relationship. The bit I don't agree with is when you say 'then none of what was mentioned applies'. Why does the reason alter Argennes 5 drama pointers?
Sugarkane Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 I'll remember this if I get dumped again for being low maintenacne. I'll also file this with "women nag too much". Even though I've been dumped more than once for being too quiet. What the hell do men really want?
DollWelch Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 I half agree with agree with you. Yes many men will continue to date or chase high maintenance women, but imo overwhelmingly its because of her beauty/feminine charms that leads them into the relationship. The bit I don't agree with is when you say 'then none of what was mentioned applies'. Why does the reason alter Argennes 5 drama pointers? Mhhm. I don't have the answers, but I do know we are all shallow. Human beings by nature are curious, instinctive and visual creatures. Perhaps this is the bitter half of myself talking, but it is fairly true to some extent. There are men out there who will reject women with the above 5 traits, I'm not denying that, but few and far in-between. Fascinating how, though, women are far more competitive amongst themselves than men.
phineas Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Im selfish as shiiiitttt and i do well in dating. Say's the chick with the stalker.
phineas Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Yet most men continue to date high maintenance women. Explain this to me. Much of the above 5 traits are overlooked by most men, unless the woman is either: 1. Psychotic, or 2. Unattractive. If she is hot or attractive, then none of what was mentioned applies. But, do those guys marry them? Some of the dumber one's do. But 9/10 those women have a new BF every 7-12 months. Why? As mentioned, they are hot so guys want to sleep with them, but not many want to wife them up. 2
Author singlelife Posted January 21, 2013 Author Posted January 21, 2013 Competetion is good for everyone. If not you get complacent. And then you're no good to anybody even yourself. This is just basic human living 101. Whether at work, in sports, and especially dating and even if the relationship goes fulltime. You can't allow your skills to get behind.
fortyninethousand322 Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Both genders don't seem to understand that if you're not on your game there is alays somebody who is and will be attractive to someone you want. So if you're a guy make sure to be respectful and open doors, etc. If you're a lady make sure to not be hateful and selfish, etc. The point is, a lot of people out in the world seem to think they are the only person who can attract the person they are dating. Keep your looks up, be a go getter, and don't take who you like for granted. Especially in the early stages. Oh I understand there's competition. It just seems like to me I'm the only one who has to do the competing. I've never met a woman who felt like she had to be "on her game" to get my attention. Note: I don't mean that as a gender thing, I think it's a "me" thing.
Author singlelife Posted January 21, 2013 Author Posted January 21, 2013 Oh I understand there's competition. It just seems like to me I'm the only one who has to do the competing. I've never met a woman who felt like she had to be "on her game" to get my attention. Note: I don't mean that as a gender thing, I think it's a "me" thing. There's women out there that believe the have to be on their A game. It's only natural.
candie13 Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 A prime example of drama: "Do these jeans make my butt look fat?" Answer wrong and you could be in a world of trouble. The woman creates the drama, the man fans the flames with his ignorance. Man, I don't know where you find these girls... and why they keep comin' to you. Where I'm coming from, the answer is obvious: A. She doesn't need your opinion because she knows better B. Her ass prob looks fabulous in any pair of jeans, trousers or skirts I don't understand why you'd take the trouble to put up with this **** - a nagging, insecure person. I'd leave like there was no tomorrow. Not all girls are insecure, not all girls look for drama, not all girls want the alpha males, thanks Lord. I'll tell you what I always tell my gfs: "watch your standards" ! And to answer the topic of the thread: of course there's competition in dating... if you're doing it like a sport. There is little competition when it comes to feelings, so if you date someone whom you have feelings towards or who really interests you, the rest of the dating scene won't look just as appealing. So I guess it all depends on why you're dating and what you're getting out of it... beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, that's my take.
candie13 Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Not really fascinating. Not really surprising. Just simple biology. Intrasexual competition for mates will always be higher among women because women are hard-wired to go for alpha males. You don't see women climbing all over themselves for beta males. Women have an imperative for alpha seed' date=' beta feed. The alpha provides the children, the beta provides the lodging. This is evolutionarily hard-wired into us since the dawn of our species and this stubborn programming hasn't gone away since.[/quote'] Define alpha! Is it the millionaire who provides security or the sexy hot shot who can make healthy babies? who's sexy and "alpha" in MIT? who's alpha in UEFA? and I've never heard of anything more ridiculous than women and "intrasexual competition" - must be an American concept. Desperation stinks stronger than a dead body, jeeesh! And to follow your train of thought, any respectable alpha male won't pick a desperate woman! ever! He'll chase her! jeesh! such a weird post, I swear to God !
Treasa Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 I frequently tell people that if there is no drama in a relationship, a woman will create it. Drama fills the gaps between spaces in a relationship for a woman. But do people believe me? No. It's much more fun to replace drama with sex and sports.
TouchedByViolet Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 I don't agree with the competition view. I just want a single woman who I am emotionally and physically attracted too. I don't actively compare women to each other. 1
Author singlelife Posted January 21, 2013 Author Posted January 21, 2013 Not really fascinating. Not really surprising. Just simple biology. Intrasexual competition for mates will always be higher among women because women are hard-wired to go for alpha males. You don't see women climbing all over themselves for beta males. Women have an imperative for alpha seed' date=' beta feed. The alpha provides the children, the beta provides the lodging. This is evolutionarily hard-wired into us since the dawn of our species and this stubborn programming hasn't gone away since.[/quote'] And women who live at home and are lazy are not going to keep an alpha males attention for long.
El Brujo Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 There's "red ocean" and there's "blue ocean". Red ocean is the high-competition area. In dating, this means there are certain things you're supposed to want enough to compete for them. Blue ocean is the low-competition area. These are the niche qualities that some of us want, but here the challenge is not so much whether you're willing to compete for them, as make your mind up what you want and go after it. For some of us, our toughest competitor is our own laziness, or our unwillingness to try something different.
Author singlelife Posted January 21, 2013 Author Posted January 21, 2013 There's "red ocean" and there's "blue ocean". Red ocean is the high-competition area. In dating, this means there are certain things you're supposed to want enough to compete for them. Blue ocean is the low-competition area. These are the niche qualities that some of us want, but here the challenge is not so much whether you're willing to compete for them, as make your mind up what you want and go after it. For some of us, our toughest competitor is our own laziness, or our unwillingness to try something different. Excellent explanation. And some people need to look at themselves for wht they are and not live in fantasy land.
Author singlelife Posted January 21, 2013 Author Posted January 21, 2013 There's "red ocean" and there's "blue ocean". Red ocean is the high-competition area. In dating, this means there are certain things you're supposed to want enough to compete for them. Blue ocean is the low-competition area. These are the niche qualities that some of us want, but here the challenge is not so much whether you're willing to compete for them, as make your mind up what you want and go after it. For some of us, our toughest competitor is our own laziness, or our unwillingness to try something different. People just need to wake up.
Author singlelife Posted January 24, 2013 Author Posted January 24, 2013 I don't agree with the competition view. I just want a single woman who I am emotionally and physically attracted too. I don't actively compare women to each other. Interesting. As long as you're happy.
ImNotOliver Posted January 24, 2013 Posted January 24, 2013 … When was the last time you saw a guy purposefully create drama anywhere? Do you ever hear a guy saying he likes drama? No. Yet here, we have one woman who admits she enjoys a "some kinna drama". I have never heard a man say in person or in text say they enjoy relationship drama…. Well you asked for it. At times I do get a kick out of pushing buttons. There is a certain pleasure in the ensuing chaos when the crap hits the fan. The more people I can drag into it all the better. It is most fun to get two different women going at the same time, get them competing. When the ensuing drama takes on a life of it’s own I sit back and enjoy.
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