singlelife Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Both genders don't seem to understand that if you're not on your game there is alays somebody who is and will be attractive to someone you want. So if you're a guy make sure to be respectful and open doors, etc. If you're a lady make sure to not be hateful and selfish, etc. The point is, a lot of people out in the world seem to think they are the only person who can attract the person they are dating. Keep your looks up, be a go getter, and don't take who you like for granted. Especially in the early stages.
Keenly Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Well, I'm under the assumption that if the girl and I are exclusively dating, while that doesn't give me an excuse to ease up on the courtship process, means that she will not stray when another man hits on her... You know... respect. 3
trevzilla Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 as soon as game is mentioned my eyes glaze over. I've never found that to be the dynamic when speaking with foreign women, it was just an enjoyable conversation and they'd flirt and make lots of physical contact if interested; I even had a fantastic night with a Korean girl who asked me to dance a year ago, that has never happened with a local girl; they chase the douchebag bar stars. I just find it too much bother where I live and the local women. Makes me want to stab my eyes out.
nessaaa Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Im selfish as shiiiitttt and i do well in dating. 1
nessaaa Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Competeion is what makes fun. Or some kinna drama. 1
SilentVoice Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Competeion is what makes fun. Or some kinna drama. Haha... this is ****ed up and true. 1
Woggle Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 A woman creates drama for me and I will create me walking out the door. Those who get off on drama are just boring people who need to get a life or find a hobby or something. I have no time or tolerance for crap like that. Not saying that all or even most women like drama but if I were single those who do would not last more than a few months with me. 3
chex Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 I frequently tell people that if there is no drama in a relationship, a woman will create it. Drama fills the gaps between spaces in a relationship for a woman. But do people believe me? No. Depends on the woman. If she's some lazy high maintenance bitch, of course she'll make drama.
SilentVoice Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 I frequently tell people that if there is no drama in a relationship, a woman will create it. Drama fills the gaps between spaces in a relationship for a woman. But do people believe me? No. So are you saying guys seeks drama? Since I don't think the women are in relationships alone Oh you must be talking about lesbeins,
chex Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Depends on the woman. If she's some lazy high maintenance bitch, of course she'll make drama. Expanding on this, it seems like most of your experience(dargennes or whatever) is with said high maintenance bitches. Huh, silentvoice, I don't really get what you're saying, but most of the lesbians or bi gals I know are a lot less drama queenish than the straight girls. No offense to the straight girls who don't enjoy drama. You just have some bitchy peers.
SilentVoice Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Can you read? Two people are in a relationship' date=' but it only takes one to turn the thing south. When was the last time you saw a guy purposefully create drama anywhere? Do you ever hear a guy saying he likes drama? No. Yet here, we have one woman who admits she enjoys a "some kinna drama". I have never heard a man say in person or in text say they enjoy relationship drama. Do all women like drama? No. But they're the ones more likely to create it where it doesn't exist.[/quote'] :laugh::laugh:
chex Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Define high maintenance. Women who create drama where it doesn't exist. You defined it better than I could.
chex Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Bzzt. Wrong. Hmm, could you provide an alternate definition? My other thought was that they make a huge deal of everything and just cry to you about it. I.E. Create drama where there is none.
nessaaa Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 I put my hands up to creating drama. I dont know what it is about females. Even my a girl whos a friend creates drama... She'll be like.. "k im going to bed" and ill be like " ok" and she'll be like " k your mad.why"?- made me laugh so hard.
charlietheginger Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Women who create drama where it doesn't exist. You defined it better than I could. You mean like " do you think she is pretty " Who ? " that girl in line " She not ugly " is she prettier then me " Well she not ugly Quite car ride home......... Later in bed man wants sex..... Honey you wanna frisky " you expect sex after you been looking at women In line at the grocery store " Ah honey you asked me Wife rolls over pouts. Man can't figure out What he did wrong.... Rewind movie... Correct thing would have been to say this "is she prettier then me?" Oh no honey not my type i dont think shes pretty. Thats what you call unnecessary drama 1
Author singlelife Posted January 21, 2013 Author Posted January 21, 2013 I wasn't talking about in exclusive relationships. In general dating you have to lock that down.
MrCastle Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Competition is great. In any form of life. I get almost all my motivation from competition. It pushes you to be better. It motivates you to never stop improving. I don't want to get lazy with any part of my life. Seeing my competition in action clues me in to what works on certain girls, and where they're lacking. And let me tell you, men as a whole, are lacking. Which is great for me. 1
Author singlelife Posted January 21, 2013 Author Posted January 21, 2013 Men are lacking and they need to step their game up.
MrCastle Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Men are lacking and they need to step their game up. Both sexes do. I don't want men to step their game up though. Women have to. Men, stay the way you are
Imported Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 I've met some pretty cool dudes that are my "competition". We hi-five each other and got along great. Too many women out there to have problems with other dudes that have a similar and respectful approach as I. While I agree, some guys will go farther than me to get a girl, that doesn't mean I should feel the need to compete with them. I do what feels right for me and I treat a lady with respect and try to cherish her. I am not there to do a song and dance just because some other guy will. No, I am not the guy that worries about paying for a date or keep a score card on who has done more for who, but I am nobodies dancing monkey. If a girl expects that and another guy is will to do it, I am not standing in the way. There is competition. For her as well. I bring lots to the table, but I also have expectations. In my experience, there are more easy women out there than I know what to do with. If I allowed myself, I could really be glutinous at it. On the one hand it is just too easy. On the other hand it just seems too scary and impossible and opening up a can of worms that can only end horribly. However, "competition" is a non-issue. If you were driving around in a McLaren F1, you're probably not really worried about the 100000s of hoped up Honda Civics and Ford Mustangs out there that wants to race you. Sure, there are other cars that are faster and other McLaren F1's, but they are few and far between.
Sugarkane Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Generalizing much? This list made me laugh. I rarely cry (nit even in The Lion King), never emasculated anyone. My boyfriend asked me if I wanted to take advantage of the Boxing day sales- I was completely over it, I have 4 birthdays in my family near Xmas. Couldn't afford it. I've been dumped for being too easy going before. You guys are full of BS! Admit it you love drama, otherwise you dump us.
Mr_Flay Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 A prime example of drama: "Do these jeans make my butt look fat?" Answer wrong and you could be in a world of trouble. The woman creates the drama, the man fans the flames with his ignorance. "World of trouble"? Please. It takes two people to build drama. If you ignore her pouting and complaining, she will lose her power of drama over you. If she asks you whether you think she looks fat, reply with your favourite Yo Momma joke. Except she's the "Momma". Deflect her question with humour, show her that you don't care about her nagging. If she pouts or denies you sex or something, say you'll give her a couple of hours to calm down and then you'll talk like adults again. You'll live without sex, and she wants it as much as you anyway. If she does that often, perhaps it is time to reevaluate your relationship. You're adult enough not to be ensnared into yet another drama.
Sugarkane Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 If you hate drama so much, why keep dating thus sort of girl?
Pyro Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Both genders don't seem to understand that if you're not on your game there is alays somebody who is and will be attractive to someone you want. So if you're a guy make sure to be respectful and open doors, etc. If you're a lady make sure to not be hateful and selfish, etc. The point is, a lot of people out in the world seem to think they are the only person who can attract the person they are dating. Keep your looks up, be a go getter, and don't take who you like for granted. Especially in the early stages. On my game? No offense to you OP but to refer to it as a game makes it worthy. Instead of game it should be to just be yourself, or be however you are that caused your SO to be attracted to you in the first place. Competition does exist out there but I refuse to take part of it. What you see is what you get with me and if some girl were to stray away from me then screw her because it is her loss and my gain. Purposeful drama in a relationship? How sad and pathetic. Well, I'm under the assumption that if the girl and I are exclusively dating, while that doesn't give me an excuse to ease up on the courtship process, means that she will not stray when another man hits on her... You know... respect. Agree 1
DollWelch Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 A high maintenance woman usually creates drama but it is not out of the necessity to create drama, rather the drama occurs because of the friction between her shallow lifestyle and the poor hapless sap that she happens to be joined at the hip with currently. So you are partially right but not on the mark. 1. Emotionally needy. Everything is me, me, me. See "princess entitlement syndrome". 2. Likes to buy excessively and expensive things. Uses retail therapy as an outlet. 3. Solipsistic worldview, feels as if she is superior to most other women. 4. Always feels as if she can get a better man. 5. Demeans or emasculates boyfriend or significant other in front of others. Yet most men continue to date high maintenance women. Explain this to me. Much of the above 5 traits are overlooked by most men, unless the woman is either: 1. Psychotic, or 2. Unattractive. If she is hot or attractive, then none of what was mentioned applies. 2
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