edgygirl Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 I've had a LDR a long time ago with this guy from my original country. He came to visit me in the country I was living in at the time. Then the relationship started to sour and we ended up fighting and cutting contact. After the fight he deleted me from social networks, etc. And then I think I last saw him before moving to the US and the last time we spoke at a nightclub I told him I got this job and was moving to another country. Fast forward to last night, I am visiting my country on vacation and unexpectedly see him at this nightclub's door. I am thinner and look better than when we were together and I know he was kinda looking. My friend talked with him a bit. I was taken aback by seeing him and decided to avoid eye contact and saying hello. I haven't planned what to do in case I saw him. He saw I seemed to be in a good place, looking good and with several friends around having fun so that felt really good. My good girlfriend says he still says hello to her every time they stumble. I've been thinking about him since. "Should I have said hello?" "Would things work if we tried again now that we're in different phases of our life?" and so on. And how it made no sense how we broke up back then, probably due to being long-distance, me being in a bad phase in life and the conflicts that come with those. I am afraid I will see him around while still here for a couple of weeks as we tend to go to the same places... and wondering if I should say hello, talk with him, etc. I am definitely still attracted to him and I miss having him as a friend at some level... so in a way, it could be dangerous. How do you guys feel about exes you haven't seen for a long time?
Author edgygirl Posted January 21, 2013 Author Posted January 21, 2013 I also wonder what guys feel when they're seeing an ex after so long (obviously it depends on the relationship, but still... would be good to hear)
Lani Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 I think you should contact him, if for no other reason than to apologise for not saying hello to him. Throw him a message along the lines of 'Hey Brad, sorry I didn't say hello the other night, I was a bit thrown by seeing you and hadn't really thought of how I'd handle that situation. I hope you're really well.' See what he responds with. If he doesn't reply, then thats ok, you made the right decision and you were the better person for apologizing for not saying hello (lets not forget that he didn't say hello to you either!). If he contacts you back, then you can take things from there.
Ami1uwant Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 I also wonder what guys feel when they're seeing an ex after so long (obviously it depends on the relationship, but still... would be good to hear) Are you sure he realized it was you? I wouldnt if I was him. I am not at all expecting to see you so I will think nothing of it.
FitChick Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 He saw you. Let him come looking for you. Then you will know there is some interest. Even if there was interest, you'd still be in a long distance relationship when your vacation is over so the troubles might resume.
Author edgygirl Posted January 21, 2013 Author Posted January 21, 2013 Thank you guys. Excellent advice from all of you and just what I needed to hear. I will do some thinking here. And yes, I am pretty sure he knew it was me. I look a little different than people around here plus we were together for almost a year I recognized him immediately. But then he's probably 6'4 and over 200 pounds lol.
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