ddlovexx Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 (edited) Hey there, A lot has been going on. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over 6 months, it's pretty serious. He was actually the one to say "I love you" first and always went of his way for me. He still assures me that he loves me more than anything but things have just been rough. He's 24 and I'm 22. He's been really distant and I haven't been handling it well at all. He went from texting me all day to not as much, and he just seems so far away. He would ignore my text but post on facebook, fall asleep when he knew I was waiting for him to come over... etc. He never used to do things like that, this is recent. We got in a pretty serious fight about a week ago, I just tried to tell him how I felt in a calm way and said that if he didn't have the time for me between work and all that stuff, that maybe we should take a break so he can get his priorities straight. I told him how hurt I was about him not really putting me first anymore. It turned into a fight and he put "single" on facebook. We didn't talk for a day and then he called, we bother apologized, and he said that we weren't broken up but he just needed a little space until his family situation got better. In short, things are really bad for him at home right now. His family is constantly fighting and I believe his parent are going through a divorce. Now, being a guy, he won't let me be there for him. I told him he doesn't have to talk about it if he doesn't want to, but that I'm here of course. So maybe I wasn't as sensitive as I should have been about that, because his family situation seems to really be taking a toll on him. So I'm trying to give him his space and let him deal and come around... but he's just being so distant. He rarely calling me babe the past few days and hasn't been texting me as much. He came over last night and honestly he was back to his old self, he was so sweet and nurturing and loving... he was so playful and kept telling me he loved me and loves seeing me smile, etc. and I started feeling heaps better... but today he's barely texting me. He's at work so I'm trying to leave it be, but after him texting me all day for 6 months even during work, to nothing, it just seems like he's making excuses. I always seem to be the one trying and I've been holding back now in hope that he will try more. I'm not a fan of playing games, I just want us to be okay. I've been trying to go out with the girls and spend time doing other things, but I can't stop overthinking and hurting somewhat. I know he loves me, should I just keep giving him some time and space until his life is sorted out? I love him more than anything and he always talks about our future together. We usually see each other every day, every other day, we'll spend some alone time and also go out with our friends. This past week I didn't see him at all because of what was going on. Also, not to be all mushy and girly but up until recently we've really had a beautiful relationship. He's absolutely been my Prince Charming. He says the corniest things sometimes and I think they're so cute. So loving, caring... takes care of me, treats me when he can, always wants to see me smile. We spend a lot of time with his family too... just not recently because there has been fighting so he doesn't want me there. Because he was so wonderful and normal last night, I keep telling myself I'm over-thinking. If he didn't want to be with me, he wouldn't be right? I realize I'm somewhat needy but things have just changed recently and it's so tough, I'm trying to take a step back, be an adult... wait it out a bit but I'm really broken over it. It's just so hard with him being so distant. Do I just give him more time and see what happens? Edited January 20, 2013 by ddlovexx
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