LostOne1 Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 So I don't know if I have been healing much. I started talking to new girls and all. I gotta say I have been getting my ass handed to me left front right and center LOL. I guess the good thing is after a LTR BU rejection isn't as bad, because you've gone through the worst rejection already. I felt like if I can find someone else, it will help me heal faster too. I hate to say it, but I am lately feeling lonely as hell. My classes are at night and most people don't talk much or have time to hang out. I've gone to school in the mornings, but even then without classes it's hard to chat with people without sounding like a creep. I think I might have even scared away my group partners.. was trying to be a bit funny and all.. but maybe it backfired on me lol. I haven't heard from them in 2 days. Like I said getting my ass handed to me by girls. I wonder how valentines day will go... On a side note my ex's bday is coming up. I think I've decided not to msg her at all. I don't see a point at all, it won't change anything. If anything it will be good for her too, she probably doesn't want to hear from me anyways. I guess this week I feel emotionless, I don't feel sad, happy, mad etc.. just blank for once almost like I don't care anymore for anyone or anything.
na49 Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 It is rough. I commute to a school where a lot of people either dorm or also commute. If they also commute, they go home after class. If they dorm, they only hang around on campus. Kind of sucks for me. Anyway, I gotta figure something out. I can't be this lonely through college or else I'll never get better. You have the right idea not messaging her for her birthday. It's not that she doesn't want to hear from you. I don't think she cares at all. Valentine's Day will probably suck for all of us. Another one of those times where we think "what could have been" if they were still with us. Not looking forward to that. AT ALL! 1
cavalier99 Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 (edited) Hang in there man! Life isn't always easy. At least you are trying. Maybe don't try so hard. But don't stop. I totally respect that your putting yourself out there some. It isn't easy to do that after being dumped. Sounds like your just a little depressed. On the bright side i don't detect it is really based on being tormented by the loss of your ex as much as before. Something good will happen in your life. Just keep on moving forward thru this. We are here for you and are rooting for you. Edited January 20, 2013 by cavalier99 1
Author LostOne1 Posted January 20, 2013 Author Posted January 20, 2013 It is rough. I commute to a school where a lot of people either dorm or also commute. If they also commute, they go home after class. If they dorm, they only hang around on campus. Kind of sucks for me. Anyway, I gotta figure something out. I can't be this lonely through college or else I'll never get better. You have the right idea not messaging her for her birthday. It's not that she doesn't want to hear from you. I don't think she cares at all. Valentine's Day will probably suck for all of us. Another one of those times where we think "what could have been" if they were still with us. Not looking forward to that. AT ALL! Well for me vday I plan to find SOMEONE to ask out or at least live a good impression. I know 2 or 3 girls I wouldn't mind giving a valentines day card to and let it go from there. I mean I'm used to getting rejected lately, so getting rejected again won't hurt as much. I think you should do the same. I don't know if it's creepy or not. But I think it can't hurt to go to a girl and hand her a valentines day if you have class or maybe even in general. It's a good way to break the ice I guess and what girl doesn't want a valentines day card? As for meeting people I agree it's tough. I don't know what I am gonna do yet. This new campus doesn't have many clubs compared to my old school. Which means less ways to interact with people. So I guess I'll have to figure it out too. I have noticed a few other people at school, who don't interact with many people either. The weird part is I used to be like that and be OKAY with it, But the last few months, all I want to do is socialize even a little. Kinda get some self esteem back that I am worth it too and can be well off myself.
Author LostOne1 Posted January 20, 2013 Author Posted January 20, 2013 Hang in there man! Life isn't always easy. At least you are trying. Maybe don't try so hard. But don't stop. I totally respect that your putting yourself out there some. It isn't easy to do that after being dumped. Sounds like your just a little depressed. On the bright side i don't detect it is really based on being tormented by the loss of your ex as much as before. Something good will happen in your life. Just keep on moving forward thru this. We are here for you and are rooting for you. thanks man. I guess I wouldn't say im depressed, but I am down. I honestly felt REALLY good and forgot about my ex when hanging with these girls or chatting with some. It kinda felt like I WON'T get my second chance with my ex, but maybe my second chance will come with someone else. But so far nothing special. There is one person I do like.. but I think she is ignoring me now. So I guess that is over with and done. Never got a chance with her to show the real me sadly... Kinda sad LOL.. my ex has some guy chasing after her. And me.. not even one person LOL.
cavalier99 Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 I have a simple solution. Meetup.com I haven't actually gone to anything yet but seems like there is a ton of stuff to do and groups to join. It is an instant in to a group even at a bar. As far as just handing out valentines..bad idea unless you want to feel even more rejected.
Author LostOne1 Posted January 21, 2013 Author Posted January 21, 2013 I have a simple solution. Meetup.com I haven't actually gone to anything yet but seems like there is a ton of stuff to do and groups to join. It is an instant in to a group even at a bar. As far as just handing out valentines..bad idea unless you want to feel even more rejected. Yeah I been looking at meetups, but haven't tried them out yet. Might only work on weekends for me, since at night I have classes. As for the vday thing.. I dunno. I was debating, because sure I can expect to get rejected. But I don't know if I care if it's someone I won't see around much. Though it depends I mean some girls will like it and I know some will find it odd or weird.
cavalier99 Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 I changed my mind. You have the right is idea. Hand out as many as you want and approach as many women as possible. Until rejection doesn't sting at all. Just try to be as non chalant as possible..non creepy.
Author LostOne1 Posted January 21, 2013 Author Posted January 21, 2013 Something interesting I read online somewhere Yes, you may get rejected, but what will that rejection do in the scheme of things? Absolutely nothing. Your life won't end; rejection happens to everybody at some point. Just keep on trying. You only live on average about 75 years, do you really want to waste precious moments being afraid of a girl? They're just as nervous. As a fall back plan you could always ask her out via myspace message or IM if that makes you feel more comfortable What that made me realize is 2 things. 1- That we are wasting our times dying over our ex's when life is already so short. I think we are crazy to waste years of our life getting over someone, when we could use that time for ourseleves or for something else or for someone else. 2 - that it's okay to go out and get rejected.. it doesn't do much because your STILL at the same spot as you were before you went out and asked out someone.
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