BornToDie Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 I've been dating my boyfriend for about 3 years and one month. We started dating at 16, and now, we're 20. The first time we dated, it was for 2 and a half years. We had been unhappy, and I finally broke it off. We went NC for a 2 months or so before he came back into my life. We started hanging out again. At first, there was a little uncertainty, but we finally got back together at the beginning of November and are now happier than ever. I've noticed a lot of awesome differences in him now, but the truth is, I still get terrified that he will stop loving me. I can be insecure. I'll elaborate on our relationship then and now, and basically, I want to know if my worrying is justified or just ridiculous. Pretty much, the first time around, I wasn't appreciated at all. The problem was, he said he never really knew what love was and if he felt that way for me. Now that we're back together, he always gives me a "thank you" or a "wow, you're the best girlfriend, I'm so lucky to have you." While we were broken up, he was working away from home and living by himself. He hung out with his ex a few times. He says now that being around her made him realize that a good girl like me is hard to come across and that I should be appreciated. He says that having to work and live by himself made him grow up and be more responsible. He says that before, he cared about me a lot but wasn't sure about spending his whole future with me, but now, he knows he loves me very much because "he can feel it" and that he doesn't think he's going to stop loving me. He says that the time we spent apart has made him so much more certain (as it has with me). He asks me now about where I want to live after college and what kind of career I'm getting (hinting around about spending his future with me). On Christmas, I woke up to a $700 diamond ring. He spent most of the money he made at work on the ring. Another sign that shows me he's serious is the fact that he's so into camping. We've invested a lot of money into camping gear because I guess it's our "lifestyle." He says he wants to be doing that with me for a long time. He says he wants the ring to let me know that he isn't going anywhere and that he's serious about me. His mom even asked how he was going to beat that ring "when he asked me to marry him," and he replied that he'd cross that bridge when he got to it. Whenever I get upset, he says, "Do you think I'd put that on your finger if I didn't love you as much as I do?" He isn't worried about the past, but I guess I just have my inhibitions. I just don't want my occasional insecurity to scare him away.
miss_jaclynrae Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 I've been dating my boyfriend for about 3 years and one month. We started dating at 16, and now, we're 20. The first time we dated, it was for 2 and a half years. We had been unhappy, and I finally broke it off. We went NC for a 2 months or so before he came back into my life. We started hanging out again. At first, there was a little uncertainty, but we finally got back together at the beginning of November and are now happier than ever. I've noticed a lot of awesome differences in him now, but the truth is, I still get terrified that he will stop loving me. I can be insecure. I'll elaborate on our relationship then and now, and basically, I want to know if my worrying is justified or just ridiculous. Pretty much, the first time around, I wasn't appreciated at all. The problem was, he said he never really knew what love was and if he felt that way for me. Now that we're back together, he always gives me a "thank you" or a "wow, you're the best girlfriend, I'm so lucky to have you." While we were broken up, he was working away from home and living by himself. He hung out with his ex a few times. He says now that being around her made him realize that a good girl like me is hard to come across and that I should be appreciated. He says that having to work and live by himself made him grow up and be more responsible. He says that before, he cared about me a lot but wasn't sure about spending his whole future with me, but now, he knows he loves me very much because "he can feel it" and that he doesn't think he's going to stop loving me. He says that the time we spent apart has made him so much more certain (as it has with me). He asks me now about where I want to live after college and what kind of career I'm getting (hinting around about spending his future with me). On Christmas, I woke up to a $700 diamond ring. He spent most of the money he made at work on the ring. Another sign that shows me he's serious is the fact that he's so into camping. We've invested a lot of money into camping gear because I guess it's our "lifestyle." He says he wants to be doing that with me for a long time. He says he wants the ring to let me know that he isn't going anywhere and that he's serious about me. His mom even asked how he was going to beat that ring "when he asked me to marry him," and he replied that he'd cross that bridge when he got to it. Whenever I get upset, he says, "Do you think I'd put that on your finger if I didn't love you as much as I do?" He isn't worried about the past, but I guess I just have my inhibitions. I just don't want my occasional insecurity to scare him away. Whats the question exactly? Sounds like the ring is more of a "to keep her around" thing. IDK though, that is just my suspicions based on the story.
Author BornToDie Posted January 20, 2013 Author Posted January 20, 2013 I'm just trying to figure out if I should be worried or if I should just relax because everything is going to be all right. I doubt he'd spend $700 just to keep me around. He's just not the kind of person to spend a ton of money.
miss_jaclynrae Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 I'm just trying to figure out if I should be worried or if I should just relax because everything is going to be all right. I doubt he'd spend $700 just to keep me around. He's just not the kind of person to spend a ton of money. 700 for a engagement ring? Oh darling, that isn't anything at all. As someone who was married once, this all sounds far too familiar.
mammasita Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 700 for a engagement ring? Oh darling, that isn't anything at all. As someone who was married once, this all sounds far too familiar. It was just a gift not an engagement ring. I say go with the flow and enjoy. If it was meant to be, it will be.
miss_jaclynrae Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 It was just a gift not an engagement ring. I say go with the flow and enjoy. If it was meant to be, it will be. Wait... if it was just a gift then what is the issue here... I am so confuseddd!
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