boston88 Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 I'm not wanting to go into all the details due to it being a long story over the period of 5 months. I gave "myself" to them a month ago, we weren't dating.. just going with the flow. I had just trusted them and cared for them deeply to give them that part of me. I had stayed over last weekend and we had an amazing time together. I wanted to bring up the "talk" but I had choked and just didn't want to mess anything up. Result ended up being through text message. I wanted more, they didn't so I told them that anything else wouldn't work for me. Now they're avoiding me and I'm stuck wanting closure and answers to how they really feel. Texting/calling is not an option. I have this urge to drive an hour away, go to their house just so they wouldn't have an excuse to tell me no without it being face to face. I feel like this is what I need to do for myself. Whether I'll get what i'm looking for, or it ends horrible.. I will just know that I tried and just move on completely. I just want to know if I meant anything to them, anything at all and why did they do the things they did. Am I crazy insane to just show up at their house and politely ask to talk?
UStoUK Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 I can understand why you care so much, and no I don't think your crazy. What I can say is you asked for more, he rejected that, and I'm sure it wasn't the best feeling. If he's not going to give you what you need, then you need to focus on finding a good man that will. Don't spend your time focusing on what he might have felt for you, because in reality if he's not trying to make a future with you it's all worthless. You may think getting the answers to those questions are important, but I think it will just leave room for more questions to grow. Nobody likes the feeling of being rejected, and some men can't see the beauty in what they might of had. I say move on from it, if somethings meant to happen, it will. Just give it time, Good luck! 1
Chi townD Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Ummm... okay, confused! Who the hell is "them"?
DrStrangelove Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 As cliche as it might sound - absence makes the heart grow fonder. Sometimes we never get the closure we seek. If it is right he will come back. Give him some space, as it seems that is what he wants.
BiancaLDN Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 You're not crazy, no. I can understand you wanting to get some form of closure, but to some people (him) they just don't feel that need and to be honest, you may even embarrass yourself. I get the same feeling about my ex, I want to call her and 'have it out' but it will most likely end in some kind of argument. Why not wait a week, and then arrange to meet him for a coffee or something? When you're feeling a little less emotional?
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