Sigmille Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 (edited) I've been seeing this guy for the past 4 weeks. All of our (5) dates have been 8+ hours and have been really wonderful. We have a lot in common and have hit it off very well. We've already slept together (that was 2nd date after a 12+ hour date out on the town, lunch, dinner) and our last date (last weekend) I stayed at his place until he had to leave the next morning to go out of town for work for the week. He was very romantic during this last date and there was no hint or sign of anything being wrong. He was talking about future plans involving both of us and made many comments as to how great I was and that he enjoyed spending time with me. During the time we've been dating, we text back and forth, mostly joking and banter every day. Somewhere around 2 to 3 texts a day or so. Where I started to get kinda worried was yesterday. Friday morning, he replied to a text of mine from the night before and I replied back, this was around 10:00 am or so. I still hadn't received a reply Saturday so I figured maybe that was the day he was coming back in town, as he didn't really tell me when he was coming back in town. Saturdays so far are also when we've gotten together for our dates so that we could spend as long as possible together before the work week. I started to think that maybe my text didn't go through and perhaps he thought I was ignoring him and didn't reply to his text, so I sent him one this morning. He replied almost instantly and we went back and forth for an hour or so. I did notice that his replies were slightly different than before, not as inviting for playfulness. Then I asked him when I might have the pleasure of seeing him again, and I get no reply at all. Normally I would think he'd be busy, but since we had been going back and forth without much break between texts this morning, I am kind of taking it as a sign he might not be interested any more/doesn't plan to see me again. Because if he really did not answer my text after 2 days from Friday, then it seems like that might've been a sign as well, especially since we have been seeing each other on the weekends. Is this something that I'm over thinking or from your perspectives does it seem like he lost interest? Or maybe he thought things were moving too fast? I just don't know why things suddenly changed on Friday. I don't plan on following up my question with another text, as I don't want to seem needy or like I don't have other options. I am kind of perplexed, though, as to what might have happened for things to change so quickly. I've really enjoyed my time with him and I'm kinda bummed about this. Edited January 20, 2013 by Sigmille
miss_jaclynrae Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 I totally understand the over thinking, as women it happens, especially in the early stages of dating someone who you actually like. I say just wait to see what he says and try not to think about it. For all you know he could have had a ****ty day. Do you guys ever talk on the phone? That to me seems odd.
Author Sigmille Posted January 20, 2013 Author Posted January 20, 2013 Hehe, yes, I do have to confirm with myself every now and then and make sure I'm not over thinking things. But since this was a change in pattern/behavior, it's kinda rocked my boat. That's true, I have no idea how his day has gone. Though I do think that he would've at least replied at some point,"Maybe next weekend," or really anything at all. It's the not replying at all that gets me. We've talked on the phone a couple of times, but mostly text during the work week. I'm not a super huge fan of talking on the phone and I kinda sense that he's the same way.
miss_jaclynrae Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Hehe, yes, I do have to confirm with myself every now and then and make sure I'm not over thinking things. But since this was a change in pattern/behavior, it's kinda rocked my boat. That's true, I have no idea how his day has gone. Though I do think that he would've at least replied at some point,"Maybe next weekend," or really anything at all. It's the not replying at all that gets me. We've talked on the phone a couple of times, but mostly text during the work week. I'm not a super huge fan of talking on the phone and I kinda sense that he's the same way. Well just wait for now, I know how it is, I hope it works out!
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