TheZebra Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 I was at an event, having a good time, and who do I see saying hi to me all of a sudden? My ex.... and his new girlfriend. I've been over him for months now, but I don't know if it was the shock of it or what but I felt a weird wave of emotions that I can't explain. I think it was mainly bitterness. He broke up with me so rapidly and suddenly, right when I needed him the most, and a little part of me wanted vengeance. I wanted to find someone new before he did, and the fact that he had so plainly moved on kinda shocked me. I wasn't expecting it. What also got to me was the type of girl she was. When we broke up he gave me a laundry list of reasons he didn't want to stay with me... I was considered too shy, we didn't have enough in common, etc. Well my first impression of this girl was that she is twice as shy as I used to be! I checked her FB and she doesn't do any of the things he broke up with me for not doing (hobby-wise). At the same time, I value myself and know I have a lot to offer a guy. I feel pretty confident in saying he traded me in for a cheaper model, but the fact that he did still pisses me off. Sorry, needed to rant somewhere.
Leigh 87 Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 I want to tell you a REALLY important lesson I learnt. PLEASE read this, as it took me a long time to figure this out: A guy who is truly into you and interested in staying with you, will NOT leave you because of things like: your too shy, not his type, are not into the same hobbies as he is..... No no no. If a guy is really into you and is falling in love with you, or if he already loves you: he will not care if you are not into the same things. .... Your guy broke up with you because he did not have enough emotions for you. If he did, he would not want to leave you for the reasons you outlined. He simply did not feel strongly enough about you, to get over things about your personality. The good news is: it has nothing to do with looks or status or what hobbies your into! You could be wonderful and beautiful and a lovely person - he could think very highly of you, but that does not mean he will fall in love with you. So do not take it personally please! You cannot help who you feel strongly towards, they could be everything you look for in a person, yet the guy will not ALWAYS be able to develop very strong feelings for you. 1
Author TheZebra Posted January 21, 2013 Author Posted January 21, 2013 Thanks Leigh! What you wrote makes sense. If those reasons he gave me for breaking up were indeed true then he probably would've never dated me in the first place, given that I didn't change THAT much in the course of 4 years. It just sucks feeling like you got lied to. Especially when he gave me the whole 'I want to be single for a while' speech. Didn't know a while = 4 months Well, just another hurdle for me to get over. There's plenty of fish out there... and at least one of those are for me
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