Need some major :P

[MEEOP]

Hello guys! My name is Sanghoon (Andrew). I'm going to make this as compact as possible, I don't want to bore you guys with walls and walls of text. So, what I want to ask, is what this girl is feeling. You see, at the beginning of this year (keep in mind, I am in high school, junior, older than others =]), I confessed to a girl named Sohi in October. She is the best a person can ask for.....she is cute, charming, intelligent, kind/caring, silly yet reserved, and she really opens up when you get to know her (otherwise she is quiet....). It wasn't really the best decision to confess to her because I didn't actually know her too well, it was kind of like an instant attraction thing. So when I asked her, she said yes, and we started dating. We never really made it official until like November or something.....haha....Anyways, things were progressing fine, we both had feelings for each other. Now, during this, let us add an obstacle.

 

Before Sohi liked me, she liked another guy, but things didn't work out. She only dated him for like a day, and her parents didn't really accept him because he's not that smart, he's kind of poor, and he's a different culture (this is honestly what she said to me). She just doesn't want to date someone who is POOR. She is not a gold digger, we're in high school. Now, he comes back into the picture, and says he really likes her again, and she says she doesn't and he's all sad and hurt. The thing is, Sohi and I used to get into fights about him, me being the (sometimes) insecure person I am, I used to think she liked him or something, when she would always tell me no. Yeah.....we got into a couple of fights....me being insecure sometimes....but I got over it, and I really changed for the better. They're on bad terms now, and I think she hates him (for now).

 

Now let's get to the main point. Sohi and I are not dating right now, at this moment. Recently, we kind of like "broke up." I called her recently and talked to her about things, and it seems like she doesn't "like" me in a relationship kind of way anymore. She's super busy with school stuff, SAT stuff, midterms coming up, volunteer work, studying, she really over stressed about EVERYTHING, and everyone knows that. Her main goal in life is to go to a good college and earn a good living. She has had a pretty bad past, because her parents were almost on the verge of divorcing, although her relationship with her relatively OK now. I called her recently, and I've been saying some things like "yeah, I really like you, in a more than a friend kind of way" and stuff like that, and yeah she understands. She told me over the phone that it's best if I don't try to win her heart because she is just too stressed and busy with SO many things (the truth), and that she might not give the response that I want. What I'm questioning here, is whether she's just trying to be nice to me, trying not to hurt my feelings, rather than giving me a straight rejection. She always says "I don't know how I feel, I really don't understand myself AT ALL. I feel like all I want to do right now is focus on school work right now....!" Her best friend says that she thinks she does have feelings, and says Sohi is saying she doesn't really "think of me in that way" right now because she is so stressed and busy with too many things. She treats me differently than others, always giving me some sort of "cute" gnite like "Gnite Andrew, I hope u dream about giant mushrooms coming to eat u =]" and she also just treats me differently. She makes some time for me in her super busy day, and her best friend says to just wait and give it time, she probably does still have feelings for you, she just doesn't want to say she does yet because she is so busy with many things, and she's probably afraid that she can't return all the feelings right now when she is so stressed. She still displays signs that I am really important to her, but I'm going to try not to be hopeful. Sohi has never given me a flat out answer, she has always just "didn't really answer" meaning she has never clearly said anything. As of right now, it's kind of like no contact, my decision, but I still text gnite sometimes.

 

So guys, what do you think I should do?

 

P.S.---->Title is supposed to say "Need some major help please :P"

Thanks!

[MrNate 2.0]

Hello guys! My name is Sanghoon (Andrew). I'm going to make this as compact as possible, I don't want to bore you guys with walls and walls of text. So, what I want to ask, is what this girl is feeling. You see, at the beginning of this year (keep in mind, I am in high school, junior, older than others =]), I confessed to a girl named Sohi in October. She is the best a person can ask for.....she is cute, charming, intelligent, kind/caring, silly yet reserved, and she really opens up when you get to know her (otherwise she is quiet....). It wasn't really the best decision to confess to her because I didn't actually know her too well, it was kind of like an instant attraction thing. So when I asked her, she said yes, and we started dating. We never really made it official until like November or something.....haha....Anyways, things were progressing fine, we both had feelings for each other. Now, during this, let us add an obstacle.

 

Before Sohi liked me, she liked another guy, but things didn't work out. She only dated him for like a day, and her parents didn't really accept him because he's not that smart, he's kind of poor, and he's a different culture (this is honestly what she said to me). She just doesn't want to date someone who is POOR. She is not a gold digger, we're in high school. Now, he comes back into the picture, and says he really likes her again, and she says she doesn't and he's all sad and hurt. The thing is, Sohi and I used to get into fights about him, me being the (sometimes) insecure person I am, I used to think she liked him or something, when she would always tell me no. Yeah.....we got into a couple of fights....me being insecure sometimes....but I got over it, and I really changed for the better. They're on bad terms now, and I think she hates him (for now).

 

Now let's get to the main point. Sohi and I are not dating right now, at this moment. Recently, we kind of like "broke up." I called her recently and talked to her about things, and it seems like she doesn't "like" me in a relationship kind of way anymore. She's super busy with school stuff, SAT stuff, midterms coming up, volunteer work, studying, she really over stressed about EVERYTHING, and everyone knows that. Her main goal in life is to go to a good college and earn a good living. She has had a pretty bad past, because her parents were almost on the verge of divorcing, although her relationship with her relatively OK now. I called her recently, and I've been saying some things like "yeah, I really like you, in a more than a friend kind of way" and stuff like that, and yeah she understands. She told me over the phone that it's best if I don't try to win her heart because she is just too stressed and busy with SO many things (the truth), and that she might not give the response that I want. What I'm questioning here, is whether she's just trying to be nice to me, trying not to hurt my feelings, rather than giving me a straight rejection. She always says "I don't know how I feel, I really don't understand myself AT ALL. I feel like all I want to do right now is focus on school work right now....!" Her best friend says that she thinks she does have feelings, and says Sohi is saying she doesn't really "think of me in that way" right now because she is so stressed and busy with too many things. She treats me differently than others, always giving me some sort of "cute" gnite like "Gnite Andrew, I hope u dream about giant mushrooms coming to eat u =]" and she also just treats me differently. She makes some time for me in her super busy day, and her best friend says to just wait and give it time, she probably does still have feelings for you, she just doesn't want to say she does yet because she is so busy with many things, and she's probably afraid that she can't return all the feelings right now when she is so stressed. She still displays signs that I am really important to her, but I'm going to try not to be hopeful. Sohi has never given me a flat out answer, she has always just "didn't really answer" meaning she has never clearly said anything. As of right now, it's kind of like no contact, my decision, but I still text gnite sometimes.

 

So guys, what do you think I should do?

 

P.S.---->Title is supposed to say "Need some major help please :P"

Thanks!

 

Can we get a tl;dr version?

[miss_jaclynrae]

It's highschool, you are supposed to just figure it out!

 

 

I didn't have this stuff when I was in HS.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Seriously though, it was too long for me to read.

[MEEOP]

Yup I can put a tldr; soon if you guys want me to! As soon as I'm not busy!