polo girl Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 sorry about the length of this! just important that i give the full background. i met this guy on holidays. we hit it off straight away and it was simply platonic. he was in a relationship with a woman that he was going to break up with. we caught up again after he broke up with her. he told me that he was interested in being in a relationship again and he alluded to wanting one with me. however, within a number of days, he started hanging out with his friends all the time and never had time to fit me in to his schedule. he invited me out with his friends a number of times though. one night, we kissed and he told me how much he liked me and how interested he was. i needed to leave to find my friend as she was drunk. he did not walk me back to find my friend despite us being in a dangerous area and it being 3 am. he didn't want to leave his friends. i walked back alone and very frightened. the next day he texted me, not even a call. i would have thought that at minimum he would have called to see if i was ok. the texts were filled with inane conversations about coffee mugs etc but i played along. however, by the 4th day, i had to make mention to him about how hurt i was that he left me alone to walk in one of the most crime ridden streets in our city. instead of an apology, he blasted me calling me selfish, immature, inexperienced and not the cool girl he thought i was. that if i was decent, i would have never expected him to walk me the three city blocks at 3 am and that my worldview is different to his. he called me later that night profusely apologizing for being such a jerk and asked if we could start again. the next day he invited out. we had a great time together. the day after that, he called me and we had a great chat. that was friday. i specifically told him that i am no one's second prize and not to play games with me. he assured me that he does not play games and that he is interested. he was leaving to go away with his friends on monday. he told me on friday night that if he wasn't working on monday that we 'should' catch up before he leaves. i wondered about friday, saturday or sunday - couldn't he find time in his hectic social schedule for me then? i invited him out on friday but he had other plans. i haven't heard from him since friday and now it's sunday. do i even bother contacting him? do i tell him anything? he kept comparing me to his ex gf. we were opposite. she used to drink with him, i don't drink. we dressed differently, we spoke differently. personally i feel used. i never slept with him but i feel used that i spent so much time listening to him and helping him with her. he would always plan for us to do things together with his friends but at the last minute pull out, or worse, just neglected to do anything. i really want to tell him that i know that he played me, that he just used me to feel better about himself. but i already did that when he left me stranded. or do i just text him and say something? thanks
FitChick Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 Don't waste your time. If there is this much drama in the very beginning it will only get worse. And don't go to clubs in bad areas! No wonder you met this wanker.
Author polo girl Posted January 20, 2013 Author Posted January 20, 2013 thanks didn't actually meet him in a club but at the beach on vacation. we really did click it off was i so blind or was he just really good at being manipulative? he took me to that club i didn't even know it existed!
FitChick Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 he took me to that club i didn't even know it existed! That's even worse. He took you to a club in a dodgy area and then abandoned you? Double wanker!
Author polo girl Posted January 20, 2013 Author Posted January 20, 2013 and told me that i lacked experience etc. but hey, he complimented me on how i looked part of me still likes this guy - maybe because i saw another side to him when i met him on vacation. he is as silly as me and when not being a wanker, really easy to speak with.. what on earth did i do wrong from him going from 'i so like you' to NOTHING in less than 24 hours? haven't heard a word from him in 3 days.. this is from a guy that i would hear from 6-8 times a day via text.. now i just feel that every guy is going to play me
aussietigerwolf Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 That's even worse. He took you to a club in a dodgy area and then abandoned you? Double wanker! avoid the wanker
Author polo girl Posted January 20, 2013 Author Posted January 20, 2013 i just want to blast him though!! i just want him to know that i am aware that he played me and that he is a wanker!! i hate that fact that i will run into him somewhere and he will be all smarmy and oh so pleased with himself.. he so fooled me by introducing me to his family too feel like such a sucker.. part of me just wants to ignore, but the other part of me wants to walk away with my head up high.. is it pride? yes.. hell i told him that i had expectations from friendships - that it is mutual and not one way.. and he agreed with me! i'm so mad.. i honestly think he is narcissistic.. he keeps saying what a good guy he is and that everyone else is to blame.. he probably wouldn't care whether i ignored him or blasted him anyway..
FitChick Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 he probably wouldn't care whether i ignored him or blasted him anyway.. Exactly why you should ignore him. Why waste your time, energy, thoughts and emotion on someone who doesn't give a damn? There is a saying, "Living well is the best revenge." Have a fantastic life, look great, find a great guy who treats you well. If you ever run into him at that point in your life, you will first of all not remember his name, and will wonder why you were ever upset at all. Take a deep breath. Carry on! P.S. With a name like polo girl, you should move to Cirencester where the polo players are. All the ones I met were rich and cute!
Author polo girl Posted January 20, 2013 Author Posted January 20, 2013 ah he did have issues with my polo actually he kept saying that we were from two different backgrounds etc etc. i told him it was a whole load of rubbish and that he needs to get over himself with that! obviously he preferred his slutty uneducated girl as i'm sure he still pines for her. thanks! i might be due for a geographical move. pity i'm only 19
Author polo girl Posted January 21, 2013 Author Posted January 21, 2013 update: he texted me today.. apparently he lost his phone and couldn't contact me.. hmm, i do have facebook.. so he said to me that we really should catch up.. i ignored that.. then he listed all the days he would be busy with his friends - there wasn't a spare moment.. i just sent a smiley emoticon.. why is he doing this?
Lani Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Stop responding to him, he doesn't deserve your time. Silence says more than anything that could come out of your mouth. It shows you can't be bothered with crap like that, and you have better things to do with your time than even respond. He sounds like an a** you're better off without him.
FitChick Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 why is he doing this? He's stringing you along. In case his other booty calls don't work out, he wants to know he can still get laid. NEXT! I wanted to find a polo forum for you but only found ones for VW Polo cars. Well, horses and cars are both forms of transport. Surely you could chat to guys on a horse forum or similar. Set up a date to go riding.
Author polo girl Posted January 21, 2013 Author Posted January 21, 2013 great idea fitchick and thanks for thinking of me!! really need to do that.. this guy certainly doesn't ride a horse! btw, never slept with him. we only kissed.. i'm starting to believe that this isn't about him but really about my ego!! not used to rejection especially being rejected to girls who look like prostitutes..
Author polo girl Posted January 27, 2013 Author Posted January 27, 2013 a quick disclaimer: i'm ok with what i did. he texted me a number of times in a very platonic fashion. i responded back, somewhat friendly but curt. stupidly, in a moment of boredom and weakness, i texted that we should catch up sometime today. i thought that he would respond back saying something along the lines of 'am busy' or 'working' or 'tired'. no, he ignored me now, not meaning to sound conceited, but in terms of appearance, i'm what some would call attractive. i'm around his height, 5ft 10, and slim. his previous girlfriend was not even 5ft 1 and chubby so i'm assuming that it isn't my looks that he is not interested in. i'm ok with it as i ended up going on a date with another guy around 2 hours after i sent him the text. he has no idea that i went out with someone else, and i really don't want him to know anything about me again. if he texts me again, which inevitably he will, what do i say? i find it difficult to ignore
KungFuJoe Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 a quick disclaimer: i'm ok with what i did. he texted me a number of times in a very platonic fashion. i responded back, somewhat friendly but curt. stupidly, in a moment of boredom and weakness, i texted that we should catch up sometime today. i thought that he would respond back saying something along the lines of 'am busy' or 'working' or 'tired'. no, he ignored me now, not meaning to sound conceited, but in terms of appearance, i'm what some would call attractive. i'm around his height, 5ft 10, and slim. his previous girlfriend was not even 5ft 1 and chubby so i'm assuming that it isn't my looks that he is not interested in. i'm ok with it as i ended up going on a date with another guy around 2 hours after i sent him the text. he has no idea that i went out with someone else, and i really don't want him to know anything about me again. if he texts me again, which inevitably he will, what do i say? i find it difficult to ignore Why are you even asking? Everyone has already said to ignore the guy yet here you are asking HIM out. Have a little self respect please for Christs sake. 1
Author polo girl Posted January 27, 2013 Author Posted January 27, 2013 he kept texting me that's why. i'm an idiot. i'm new at being ignored and completely out of my depth with this.
Green Light Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Why are you even asking? Everyone has already said to ignore the guy yet here you are asking HIM out. Have a little self respect please for Christs sake. The flame is still a' burnin'!
Author polo girl Posted January 27, 2013 Author Posted January 27, 2013 is it a flame still burning or is it because he is ignoring me that i want him? i know he will text me eventually. i just want something final to text in response.
Green Light Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 is it a flame still burning or is it because he is ignoring me that i want him? I guess if you truly didn't care about him in some way, you wouldn't care if he ignored you.
KungFuJoe Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 is it a flame still burning or is it because he is ignoring me that i want him? i know he will text me eventually. i just want something final to text in response. No it's because of the second "sentence" in your post before this one.
Author polo girl Posted January 27, 2013 Author Posted January 27, 2013 i know i'm an idiot but i feel like i have lost control of the entire situation. this is a guy who was a complete geek in high school and then discovered his confidence through dating one girl. he is completely full of himself right now. i didn't handle it well when he told me he was interested. i was aloof and just smiled. now i think i actually like him and he clearly he doesn't like me anymore as he didn't even respond to my catch up request
Author polo girl Posted January 27, 2013 Author Posted January 27, 2013 i foresee two scenarios: 1) he texts me and i respond by telling him that "it was fine as i went out anyway" or what else can i say? 2) he doesn't text me again. do i text him and tell him that he is a moron who played me? i know i'm pathetic but this is a forum and you need to help all different kinds!
Green Light Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 i foresee two scenarios: 1) he texts me and i respond by telling him that "it was fine as i went out anyway" or what else can i say? 2) he doesn't text me again. do i text him and tell him that he is a moron who played me? i know i'm pathetic but this is a forum and you need to help all different kinds! 3) try to forget him and move on.
KungFuJoe Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 Op, I will admit...you ALMOST had me fooled. ALMOST. But your last post pretty much gave you away. I commend you on effort though.
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