terilaney Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 (edited) Ok... I'm jealous I have been living with him almost two years, he has been married three times and many relationships. The last wife was 30 yrs younger, he claims she was a gold digger, and a big mistake. well, she contacted him through email that she was pregnant, not his, so they started talking. She had baby in Nov. he sent he a Christmas gift to her, he didnt tell me, i found out by his email. I know my mistake.I got zip for holidays. I confronted him last night...now he wont talk to me. Edited January 20, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator cleaned up code
venusianx13 Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 Even in a nutshell, your story sounds alarming. You really got nothing for the holidays, yet he sent a gift to his ex? What was the nature of the gift, do you know? Snooping is really not healthy, terilany. Been there, done that, never liked what I found. What that taught me is that if I even feel the NEED to snoop, whether it be through my partner's email, phone, etc., then I need to trust my gut/instincts, that something is very wrong. You should, too. Your gut was sending you a message, and I understand you wanted to confirm that before you confronted him, but now that you have evidence that he is dishonest with you, do you think you'll really ever be able to trust him? The cheating/lying/manipulating ex-fiance I mentioned in my own post today was so dishonest to me, and for some reason, I stayed, only to confirm (yes, by snooping) time and time again, that my gut was telling me to get out for a reason! I will never torture myself like that again. You shouldn't, either. If you are not very invested in this man yet (i.e. you aren't married, or don't have children - I don't know the details) it is probably time to start distancing yourself and eventually make the final cut. He wouldn't speak with you after you confronted him about his dishonesty? Well, I read a quote recently that another user on this site has posted in their signature, which reads: "Only those who are living a lie will be angry with you for telling the truth." Think about that. It is universally true.
carhill Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 Welcome to LS Him not talking to you is your Christmas gift. Now give him the gift of your absence.
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