thoughtyouweretheone Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 Have you had any "aha" moments where you realized "I'm going to be ok, I'm on the right track"? I'm talking about the little things, where you just take a second and smile because you know you're starting to feel better or gain powerful insight? I haven't noticed a lot of these with myself yet, but I'd like to share anyway. 1) Ever since my breakup (7 weeks ago) my room has been so cluttered and messy because i've been too preoccupied to care and maybe even found comfort in being surrounded in chaos. One morning I was brushing my teeth and looked around, laughed and went "what the hell am I doing? Time to pull yourself together girl!". I cleaned the entire room from top to bottom and it felt soooo good realizing that I come first no matter what! I thought of it as a wake-up to reality, which is a good sign of moving forward! 2) Also, I'd like to share a dream I had last night. I dreamt I was getting married to my ex and I was arguing with him because I felt like it was my idea and he didn't really propose to me. Out of curiosity, I looked up the dream online and came up with this: MARRIAGE: To dream that you are getting married to your ex, suggests that you have accepted aspects of that relationship and learned from those past mistakes. Alternatively, it means that a current relationship shares some commonality with your previous relationship with your ex. However, since you are aware of the similarities, you know not make those same mistakes. I thought this was neat! Share your "aha" moments!
incandescent Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 1) Singing in the car 2) CLEANING FRENZY! 3) Enjoying the company of friends 4) Feeling good about myself I have also had a lot of dreams about my ex, dreamt of getting back with her... It was quite nice actually, but when I woke up I wasn't too disappointed 1
favoritepills Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Yeah, cleaning my messy room was very therapeutic. One of the biggest breakthroughs for me was when I could finally sleep a full eight hours again. 1
stevie_23 Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Actually caring what I look like again. Bothering to style my hair like I used to everyday. NOT feeling the constant nausea, chest pain and depression that had been hanging over me for the weeks prior. Waking up from a nice dream about my ex and feeling happy for the memories instead of distressed over the fact there will be no more. Being able to care for him as a person and appreciate what we had while it lasted, and not having the end overshadow that. 1
PogoStick Posted January 21, 2013 Posted January 21, 2013 Simple acceptance, willingness to move on, and feeling sorry for her because she's lost a great man. Unfortunately that last one also shows that I still care.
Yamcha Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 It's hard to describe exactly what happened...it may have been the validation that me shutting down contact was the right thing to do. But now I know now that wallowing in the old emotions is the wrong thing to do and I should be letting my desire to be with her starve and die. No more feeding it. Because it feeds on me! 2
CdnClass88 Posted January 22, 2013 Posted January 22, 2013 It's hard to describe exactly what happened...it may have been the validation that me shutting down contact was the right thing to do. But now I know now that wallowing in the old emotions is the wrong thing to do and I should be letting my desire to be with her starve and die. No more feeding it. Because it feeds on me! You find Yamcha on LS and all you can do is laugh
Leegh Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Your mind is busy for several hours, then suddenly you realize you haven't thought of him. 1
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