M30USA Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 I just had a nice glass of Yellow Tail Shiraz...and I find myself kind of missing my ex wife. It's entirely emotional, I know, but it is what is, you know? Sometimes I wish I could've been freaking Superman, so that I could have handled her. But I'm not. Still doesn't change the fact that I find myself thinking about her now.
Mr. Lucky Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 Broke my left foot a couple of years ago and the strangest part was an almost complete numbness around the break. As I started rehab on it one day the numb area became very painful and tender. I was concerned until the Ortho doc explained that the pain was part of the healing process and that my foot would never fully heal without going through it. At least for me, divorce was the same way. And it wasn't until I started to feel again that I could move on. So be grateful for those emotions - they're part of the healing process... Mr. Lucky 4
Author M30USA Posted January 20, 2013 Author Posted January 20, 2013 Broke my left foot a couple of years ago and the strangest part was an almost complete numbness around the break. As I started rehab on it one day the numb area became very painful and tender. I was concerned until the Ortho doc explained that the pain was part of the healing process and that my foot would never fully heal without going through it. At least for me, divorce was the same way. And it wasn't until I started to feel again that I could move on. So be grateful for those emotions - they're part of the healing process... Mr. Lucky I guess what your therapist meant was that when nerves heal they cause pain? I know if a nerve is totally destroyed, there is complete numbness. I guess pain is a sign it's working, at least.
K Os Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 Sometimes I wish I could've been freaking Superman, so that I could have handled her. But I'm not. I'm very familiar with that thought I have follow-on thoughts too: ~ chance of the Superman who can actually cope with her being out there somewhere - 1 in several billion; ~ chances of her ever meeting him - so close to 0% that it's statistically insignificant. Then I feel a bit better.
Author M30USA Posted January 20, 2013 Author Posted January 20, 2013 I'm very familiar with that thought I have follow-on thoughts too: ~ chance of the Superman who can actually cope with her being out there somewhere - 1 in several billion; ~ chances of her ever meeting him - so close to 0% that it's statistically insignificant. Then I feel a bit better. Oh, I have no doubts that she will find another man. No doubts. She found me. She will find another. In fact, probably sooner than me, since she operates through manipulation while I don't.
K Os Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 In fact, probably sooner than me, since she operates through manipulation while I don't. The same's true with my wife. Just saying, whoever she does find won't be able to cope with her either.
ataloss8270 Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 (edited) I can't wait till I hit the point that my STBXW only pops in and out of my head every once and a great while with a nice glass of Jameson whisky on the rocks. Not big on wine lol. But as of right now she keeps popping in and out all the time. I know over time she will begin to lose her grasp not only on my heart but my mind as well. I just wish it could be sooner than later. But I know that pain is just part of the healing process and it will not only make me stronger but a better man in the long run. Edited January 20, 2013 by ataloss8270
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