poisonedsoul Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 Hi everyone So I have a crush on this guy - he invited me to his birthday party and he is overall the sweetest, nicest guy ever, so I'd really like to get him something to say thank you for inviting me and just to make him happy. I'm not too good with knowing the "rules" about things like this. He told everyone not to get him any presents, but I don't want to risk showing up with nothing in case everyone else DOES. At the same time, I don't want to be the only one who does, and ends up looking like I'm trying way too hard to impress. I don't want to weird him out. What is a good safe gift which I can give without him feeling too burdened? The party's going to be at his place and we'll all probably head out to a bar later, but I don't want to show up with something huge in my hands. Help please? Thank you! Edit: if it makes any difference, I'm 22, and he's 28.
carhill Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 I'll use myself as an example... If someone was so kind as to grace me with a birthday card and a modest gift card to Autozone, as I'm well known as a car nut, I would think that a wonderfully generous and thoughtful gesture. Apply to the man in question. Good luck and welcome to LS
Author poisonedsoul Posted January 20, 2013 Author Posted January 20, 2013 I'll use myself as an example... If someone was so kind as to grace me with a birthday card and a modest gift card to Autozone, as I'm well known as a car nut, I would think that a wonderfully generous and thoughtful gesture. Apply to the man in question. Good luck and welcome to LS Thank you for the reply! How "modest" is modest though - $25? $50? Sorry, I'm quite nervous about messing this up, as you can probably tell, lol, but thanks again for the advice and for the welcome!
carhill Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 My opinion is that 25.00 and a nice birthday card is a very generous expression. Most of my friends are thrilled with a personally inscribed birthday card, as money/stuff is relatively irrelevant to them.
Author poisonedsoul Posted January 20, 2013 Author Posted January 20, 2013 My opinion is that 25.00 and a nice birthday card is a very generous expression. Most of my friends are thrilled with a personally inscribed birthday card, as money/stuff is relatively irrelevant to them. Great thank you so much! I'm going to get him a gift card for this sports shop, he's really into soccer, so hopefully he'll like it
RachR Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 Lol ok here's what I'd do. I'd buy something small that I can fit in my purse. Then, if I don't give it to him, take the receipt and return it.
veggirl Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 Do people typically show up at 28 year olds birthday parties with gifts? I mean if he was my best friend or boyfriend yes I'd get a gift, but just a guy I am interested in or friends with? no...I think if he said "no gifts" you should respect that. A card would be fine, but..he said no gifts.
carhill Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 I recall going to the 60th BD bash of a friend's wife last year and got her a nice card and a xxxx Home Depot gift card since they're always doing stuff on their beach house. Ha! Next time I visited, she stuffed it in my pocket and told me to use it on my own house. Response: 'You know I'll get you back for this' and I did! Nah, I never listen to friends when they say 'no gifts'. They know this. Very annoying, I imagine. OP, I'm assuming this guy who you're crushing on is someone you've known for awhile and you're not strangers, as he's invited you to his BD party. My advice to you was predicated upon my own style and that of my historical social circle and family so I'll modify it to suggest you stick to your historical style. If you normally do not bring acknowledgments/gifts to such parties, do that. If you bring gifts, do that. The best gift IMO is that of yourself and your time and care. In the long run, that's what most people remember.
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