beautiful Posted August 23, 2004 Posted August 23, 2004 Before you met your certain ex, you had a life. There were happy times and you had so much going for you. I have a new concept, let's forget about all this pain for a second and talk about the good stuff in your life!..................let's everyone share with each other , the great points in your life! What is great in your life? What are some of the things you are Blessed with? What do you want for your future?
manofmystrey Posted August 23, 2004 Posted August 23, 2004 hey beautiful Good for you for starting this post. Often times we feel so bad about what we are going through we overlook the good. So I will start and hopefully others will follow suite. Since my break up i have stoped drinking as much as i used to cause to be honest near the end the only way I could stand being around her was when i was drunk. Also I dont smoke as much. I am back in school working to finish my degree and then off to law school. Yah I know just what the world needs is another lawyer....LOL. Also i have reconnected with old friends that i lost touch with cause my ex did not like them and also my i am reconnecting with family that i have not seen in a long time. Plus the fact that i am not as stressed and there is no drama in my life right now. Plus i am meeting new people making new friends and that in the end can lead to me finding my special someone. The girl of my dreams is just around the corner but what corner only time will tell. Beautiful what is good in your life?
Jai Posted August 23, 2004 Posted August 23, 2004 Great idea for a post, Well, since my breakup I have had a lot of things going for me. I lost about 25 lbs and feel terrific. I already had my life going for me before the breakup but I seem to be able to concentrate more at work. I have met a lot of great people. I got my motorcycle license and bought a motorcycle. (HAHA the motorcycle was bought with her engagement ring money ). Getting a motorcycle was what I always wanted to do but my ex wouldn't allow it when we were together. I planned a 2 week trip to ride down to Daytona Beach next year. Can wait. I am also concentrating more on my studies and am really moving forward in my life. Like I said I had myself figured out before the breakup so the only void that needs to be filled is my heart. I am doing awesome and I owe it all to myself, friends and family........oh ya and to all of the people here on loveshack. Peace to all, Jai
ojibwaywmn Posted August 23, 2004 Posted August 23, 2004 Good thread! After breaking up with my ex (which was devastating) and going through all the "what ifs". I am learning a lot about myself through counselling, self-help books, and reading posts from various forums. To be more specific, I am seeing how much negativity I carried within myself, and how it has affected my life. Especially when it comes to relationships....romantic and otherwise. Also, I am much more appreciative of my parents and siblings. I recently had fall-outs with two people I considered close friends. They didn't seem to like my evolved emotional stance and chose to be upset rather discuss it. Going through that, I realize that my family loves me....no matter what I say or do. It is something I cherish. I can continue on what I appreciate. It is too bad that something such as the break-up of a relationship wakes you up and smell the coffee. It can be a humbling experience.
Author beautiful Posted August 23, 2004 Author Posted August 23, 2004 That's so great!! Good for you all! manofmystrey........................what's good in my life is my HP=God! I learned that without him nothing goes. Wow what a concept! I absolutely adore my life. I love myself, respect myself and truly take care of me. I have awesome friends, family and I am Blessed to be plain happy each day. You see I believe that people have a choice .....................when you get up in the A.M. , you have a choice for it to be a great happy day or a bad day, I chose happy! Life is absolutely fantastic. And it can be for each and everyone of you there. You deserve that you know. Please do not allow people to dictate your daily life. It is ok to hurt after a break up however please do move on. There is someone for you out there and guess what? When it is your time, you will meet them. We meet people for a reason, be it good or bad. Learn from both but never ever allow someone else to take your joy. Imagine how many awesome people you will attract with being totally happy no matter what has happened in your past.......................the past is over! It is your time now! Huggs
Starnette83 Posted August 24, 2004 Posted August 24, 2004 hmm since my breakup which was 5 weeks ago... Im now enrolled in a new school and for once planning to ace these classes.. im exercising, something i love and getting in really great shape.. im eating right im spending more time with my family:) talking more to friends meeting new people having more confidence and feeling stronger for the first time and i think im starting to see all the good qualities i had, something i didnt see as much before because i had low self esteem, im sweet, sexy, caring, funny, silly, good dancer, a great massage person, a great friend, a great gf, etc..:-p I havent contacted him and im proud of myself!! cant believe ive held on for 5 weeks already..before i couldnt even hold for a week!!! another thing im opening myself more to God:)
Mr.positive Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 Awesome. Hey my names mr. Positive thats great to. I'm blessed with the oppurtunity of a lifetime at my fingertips all I have to Do is go through with it. I hope the best for everyone else as well ,because of course everyone can do amazing things. I choose happy to. Great post . peace
smile95 Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 I am blessed with a home and a great new job and a loving family(and dog), & great health! Thanks for starting this post......I tend to forget all that I have going for me!
Blackfrost Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 This is a great thread idea!! Many times we forget the good things that we have For me, the great things are: My 5 year old daughter is the most amazing and wonderous little angel I have ever had the pleasure of watching grow up - in fact, after I write this thread, I'm going to go play barbies and my little pony with her - she be over the moon with elation. My wife actually still loves me after 10 years of marriage - now that's a statement, if you knew how insanely difficult of a person I can be to live with on a daily basis I'm going to Rarotonga for a 2 week vacation in October, to celebrate the last 4.5 months I have spent changing my body from pear shaped into very physically fit! I've lost just shy of 50 lbs and now have 9% bodyfat. My wife comments that she keeps feeling like she's having an affair with some new muscled boy toy hahaha And on most days, I actually enjoy what I do for a living Those are my good things. Cheers
sadgirlRN Posted August 20, 2005 Posted August 20, 2005 beautiful i love this thread!!! it is a much needed thing. on eof my favorite quotes by helen keller goes "When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door, that we do not see the one which has opened for us." It's time we all look at the opened door and realize how blessed we are. Yes we may have been through something devastating and so painful but life goes on and it is a blessing. There are so many things right now in my life that bring tears to my eyes but then I think about the love that comes to me from the Father and I know that I will make it through. and i start to see that my heartache is the least of my problems. Life is hard right now and it actually sucks, but at the same time it is so good. It is good because the sufferings we are blessed with in this life help us to be better people and bring so much growth to our lives. So while I can sit here and feel sorry for myself, instead Im holding my head high and I know this too shall pass. i will get through it all and i will be stronger because of it.
lostinmymind Posted August 20, 2005 Posted August 20, 2005 Let's see, what is good in my life? I've done tons of fun things this summer. I am moving into a super nice apartment in about 7 days, I'm excited (except for the whole money part)! I've changed my major to biomedical engineering. I'm more and more starting to see good qualities in myself. I don't need someone else to validate that. I have realized the things in my life that I want to change. I'm really motivated to meet new people next year at school.
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