SpiralOut Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 I went to a meetup group today. We were doing photography outside and I thought I'd become separated from the group when I found myself walking beside someone else from the group. We started talking while walking. The conversation was good enough that we stopped at a coffee shop (his idea). Then he insisted on paying for my coffee. We stayed there and talked for quite a while, maybe an hour? We have a lot in common just in terms of our outlook on things, background, interests. He seemed eager about talking to me again and asked for my number or email (I gave him my email). He is new to the city. He said he's been having trouble meeting people, and how sometimes even the people at the meetup groups aren't very friendly or talkative and I'm one of the first he's actually talked to for more than 5 minutes. So my question is what just happened? I know that some people are just naturally friendly, but I felt like I was on a coffee date. I'm not sure of his intentions. Maybe he was just really happy to have found someone to talk to, but I dont' want to be someone he's only interested in because I'm the only one who has acted friendly. I mean he seems genuine and nice, so this may not be a bad thing. I have trust issues so I can't help wondering.
Author SpiralOut Posted January 20, 2013 Author Posted January 20, 2013 Actually you know what, he made a sarcastic remark about my name change (I accidentally introduced myself by my first name, then realized my mistake and told him my middle name. Then I explained I had just switched it). He said "okay good to know that you know who you are." Hmm. Maybe I shouldn't bother to talk to him again after all.
RachR Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 (edited) Actually you know what, he made a sarcastic remark about my name change (I accidentally introduced myself by my first name, then realized my mistake and told him my middle name. Then I explained I had just switched it). He said "okay good to know that you know who you are." Hmm. Maybe I shouldn't bother to talk to him again after all. Wait, what? Why? Are you taking it as an insult? Just sounds like bantering to me. You're being paranoid. Sounds like he's interested in you. I say that because he paid for your coffee. Then again, he could just be really friendly. It's too early to tell. What was the body language like? Anything flirty? But whether as a potential romantic interest or as a friend, yes, he was interested. Edited January 20, 2013 by RachR
JDP25 Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 Him saying that after you told him about your name is just a smart comment.. Nothing to be take to serious.. That is something I would of said to anyone that said oh my actual name is this rather than this... I would call you by both names you gave me, if we continued talking afterwards. Until you actually gave you real name... Its just a name everyone uses it.. I would be all paranoid about giving a stranger my actual first name.. Its just a name.
Author SpiralOut Posted January 20, 2013 Author Posted January 20, 2013 I used to always overlook bad behaviour from other people. I've attracted all sorts of "friends" who ended up just putting me down. I've got tons of threads about them on here. lol. So that's why I'm acting paranoid. I've got trust issues. No I don't think he was flirting with me. Then again I can be oblivious to that sometimes. He got all excited when I told him about a personal project that I'm working on because he's done that before. He was giving me advice and offering to help me with it if I wanted. He offered me a ride home too which I declined. I prefer to get to know someone better before getting in a car with them. Not that I think he's psycho, I'm sure that he's not, but better safe than sorry.
Author SpiralOut Posted January 20, 2013 Author Posted January 20, 2013 I'm confused. What's wrong with the guy? Nothing, I was just confused about his intentions because I felt like I was on a date with him. But I don't want to assume that he's into me romantically. For all I know he could just be a super friendly guy just looking for friends.
MrCastle Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 For all I know he could just be a super friendly guy just looking for friends. Lol yeah. That's uh, certainly one way to go.
Author SpiralOut Posted January 29, 2013 Author Posted January 29, 2013 (edited) So he sent me a bunch of emails and I told him it was making me feel uncomfortable. He just sent like, 3 of them in a period of 5 days before I even responded to the first one. He apologized and explained he's used to doing that with everyone. Okay. So maybe he's not a stalker, just an overly enthusiastic person. He invited me to do snowshoeing with him this coming weekend. I haven't responded yet, but I'll probably say yes just because why the hell not. He seems more normal and interesting than anyone else I've met so far. Maybe I need to relax. Except that he's got this really annoying habit of giving too much advice that I didn't ask for. He gave me a bunch of advice that sounded good then I realized later that I don't think he knows what he's talking about. Either that or he made the wrong assumption about what I'm trying to do. Edited January 29, 2013 by SpiralOut
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