PhillyDude Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 Been getting to know someone for a week over text and talking on the phone. So today I decided to be silly and send a text saying......"Looking forward to seeing you tonight" She responds back.........."Who is this" I was like....No she did not delete my number when all our conversations have been pleasant" So I send a text back saying....You are a weirdo" and then she replies that she has a new phone and that she did't recognize the number. I don't know I;m kind of turned off by "who is this" text since I know I have only asked that when I deleted someone and moved on. I don't even recall us have a convo that would lead her to deleting my number.
SilentVoice Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 She shouldn't be turned off that you sent her a random message about meeting tonight? 1
TaraMaiden Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 Yup, it happens - a good friend of mine sent me a similar text ("Do I know you?") because she had me in her phone under my name, so when I called her, my name showed, not my number. Because of the way she had saved her contacts (on the 'phone, not on her SIM) she lost my details, as well as those of several others...., so when my number got through, she didn't connect it to me.... She was glad I'd got in touch though! 1
Author PhillyDude Posted January 19, 2013 Author Posted January 19, 2013 She shouldn't be turned off that you sent her a random message about meeting tonight? Not if I was joking around. If she knew who I was then I would have said...'I;m only joking" But I never had a chance to say I was joking because she responded with "WHO IS THIS"
Author PhillyDude Posted January 19, 2013 Author Posted January 19, 2013 did she know your real name? No, only the name I gave her. And see this is why I don't like using my real name because there is no guarantee you are going to meet face to face.
chex Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 Would I continue to talk to someone who thought I was lying because I said I got a new phone? You don't trust her at all, don't kid yourself. Might as well break it off now. 5
Mrlonelyone Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 You should have called her after that and spoken to her. Take a deep breath and go forward. Look at how you two resolve this as an early test of your possible relationship's true value. 2
Author PhillyDude Posted January 20, 2013 Author Posted January 20, 2013 You should have called her after that and spoken to her. Take a deep breath and go forward. Look at how you two resolve this as an early test of your possible relationship's true value. I was out in public on the bus and couldn't talk at the time
Keenly Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 I think, once again, you are over reacting and being paranoid. Personally, in the last 2 week, I have gone through 4 phones because the stupid manufacturing company keeps sending me phones with the exact same defect. Ill have a different phone on tuesday... and I'll be sending out a lot of texts. 2
MrCastle Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 Allow me to be the first petty person to say no, I wouldn't continue talking to her. Has no one ever changed phones before? You can either 1.) transfer all contacts to the phone if you have a sim card or 2.) transfer them manually, one by one, for the people you deem important. The last time I changed phones, I did it manually. There were about 5 people who didn't make the trip from my old phone to my new one. They just weren't relevent people in my life at that point. If she found you important enough, you would have been one of the people making the transfer. You weren't. 2
SilentVoice Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 Are some people missing the fact that he sent her a random text? Who know if the phone thing is true or not. However with a text that is so out of the blue when they had no plans to even meet up. Don't you think her asking "who is this" is justified? She probably was confused. Since it seems like he is testing her by sending her that off of the wall comment. 6
Author PhillyDude Posted January 20, 2013 Author Posted January 20, 2013 Philly, I never thought this would happen, but I have to agree with you on this one. Either you turned you off or she is multi-talking to many guys and forgot who you were. There is a slight possibility that she got a new phone, but in my experience, someone who answered like that would say: Hey im sorry I got a new phone, lost all my contacts instead of saying who is this. I agree her retarded a$$ has just been deleted
Disenchantedly Yours Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 PhillyDude, you are like the Jerry Seinfeld of the board. Now all I am thinking about is "man hands, man hands." You wanted her to fail your little test. 3
MrCastle Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 PhillyDude, you are like the Jerry Seinfeld of the board. Now all I am thinking about is "man hands, man hands." You wanted her to fail your little test. I like this post just because you referenced the greatest sitcom in history. 1
Maneater Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 you are definitely over reacting. I don't know peoples cell numbers who I'd consider my best friends. Let it go...
Disenchantedly Yours Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 I like this post just because you referenced the greatest sitcom in history. Lol, you know what is funny about this Mr.Castle, I only can reference it because of how often the men in my life how qouted it. It seems to be a really popular show with men. My dad liked it, my brother is always referencing it and a few ex's use to reference it too. 1
Queenie42 Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 Leaving the rest aside for a second, I've got to ask, had you actually made plans to meet her? Because if you had made plans, then she was being very rude. But if you hadn't and you just sent her a non sequitur of a text she probably was confused as in, "Who is this? Who did I make plans with? I don't remember this. What's going on?" As for the new phone excuse, it's certainly plausible. You didn't trust her so it's good to not lead her on. But sometimes it's worth giving people the benefit of the doubt, like this: Her: Who's this? Sorry I just got a new phone lol You: Um... it's PhillyDude. I was kidding earlier. Her: Oh cool, hi! *continues conversation like a normal person* 1
Star Gazer Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 Ugggg, another totally ridiculous over-reaction! My BFF since high school has sent me a "Who is this?" response to a text after getting a new phone, for crying out loud. If any guy I was talking to from an OLD site had "jokingly" sent me the text you did about looking forward to seeing me, I would have been creeped out. And your response of calling her a weirdo and then becoming irate just would have proved you to be unworthy of a date. 2
carhill Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 OP, IMO another missed opportunity for a little fun. As things worked out, no continuation would be appropriate but, at the point she responded 'who is this?', there was opportunity to continue in a different and perhaps more synergistic and humorous way than you did. If it or something similar happens again in the future, try something else and see what happens.
sid3 Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 Ugggg, another totally ridiculous over-reaction! Or just another clueless lady that didn't realise what a catch she was missing out on. 3
TheZebra Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 Or just another clueless lady that didn't realise what a catch she was missing out on. Clearly. Don't you know all women want men who lie about their names and then text them about meetings that don't exist? Posts like the OP's are a big reason I'll never try OLD 4
TaraMaiden Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 I was out in public on the bus and couldn't talk at the time What BS. I see so many people talking on their Mobile phones like their lives depended on it.... I serve at a checkout, and honestly, you wouldn't believe the number of people who stand in front of me executing a financial transaction, and purchasing a good quantity of groceries, while all the while balancing their lives with an electronic appliance stuck to their ear.... Actual discussion (I obviously couldn't help but overhear) only yesterday: "Yah...yah, I know..... well I told him, yeah? No, he said it was her elbow.....and then he said her mother called...... no she hasn't got a garden, that's the problem......" WTF.....? If people can discuss such banal mysteries with no qualms whatsoever, in front of several complete strangers/members of the public - damn right you could have spoken to her.....
TaraMaiden Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 Only in America. In the UK, anyone below the age of 20, texts. Adults here, still remember what a voice is for.
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