Don't know so lost...

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I have been dating this guy exclusively since october he said we were boyfriend and girlfriend without the title. We met online at the end of august. I knew when I got involved with him that he has some baggage from past girlfriends because of what they did to him. Every so often I would bring up feelings and he would say he's not good at feelings and that they hadn't changed or grown they have stayed the same and that he likes me. This finally came to a head two weeks ago when I got frustrated with his answers and told him we were done because I told him there was no point in continuing if his feelings weren't growing like mine were. He told me to think it over and we would talk about it. I thought about it and was going to try to work it out with him. But he kept putting off talking and saying he wasn't ready to talk or hadn't thought about it or didn't want to talk about it.

 

Then I found out reactivated one of his online dating accounts. I confronted him and he told me it was because he was mad and upset at me and he also did look up his ex on there. Finally I can't get him to talk but he tells me that he can't do this and he's not ready for a relationship even though we had been in a relationship since october. We talked on the phone about it because he wanted to remain friends with me but I told him I couldn't either we would work on things and he would open up or he would lose me for good. He couldn't make up his mind and kept evading it on the phone. So eventually I told him good bye. He had a shirt of mine that I wanted back. I kept trying to get him either to give it back to me or I would go pick it up. Then one night he ignored me trying to pick it up and I told him it wasn't necessary to treat me that way I did nothing wrong he chose this. He told me the next day if it was ok to call me I told him it was. He started off the phone call talking about nothing important then he mentioned his ex because I looked at her online dating profile and she told him after they haven't talked in a few months because she stopped talking to him and told him they couldn't be friends anymore. So I told him this is what you wanted to talk about when you asked to call me. I mentioned I wanted to talk to him about why would a guy be on an online dating site when he didn't want a relationship. He told me he would call me back in 5 minutes.

 

Well an hour passes and I get fed up after trying to contact and I told him I was headed to his house to get my shirt. He told me no and I told him if he wanted to talk then he could then. He refused to meet me and wasn't picking up my phone call. So I turned around but he finally picked up and he wouldn't talk all he would say is I don't want to talk right now. He wouldn't give me nothing so I told him you not talking is telling me you don't want to talk to me and that its seriously over keep my shirt and you will never hear from me again and he told me to stop putting words in his mouth. I said good bye and hung up the phone. I sent him a nice text saying to have a nice life and good luck in school and to never contact me again. He read it and never replied and I told him that tells me what kind of person you are. He told me to stop please acting like this and to please not talk like this and calm down. He told me this a few times while I was going to his hosue. He told me to take a week to calm down and message him in a week. I replied back and told him why you haven't given me a reason to. Then I told him I am calm I don't need a week and that I really like and care about him and that the ball is in his court I am willing to take it slow but he needs to decide if he wants to work it out with me or let me go. He read the text but never replied. I have told him twice now good bye but he keeps trying to make me stay and hold onto me.

 

I have no idea what to do. He sends such mixed signals. I don't know if I should wait the week or just tell him no I am not and I am moving on. Please help me try to figure what he is thinking.