fredly Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 Back story: We worked with each other about 6 years ago. We didn't talk for about 4 years in between when she moved to a different city. I ended up moving to the city and she connected with me over facebook. We ended up hooking up and eventually became exclusive then official over the course of 3 months. Why we aren't together.... Things were going great before we became official. Loved hanging out with each other and spending time together. She had issues with commitment but insisted on becoming official. Her issues mostly stem from her mother's death over a year ago. One night, she kept saying that I sounded annoyed with her when I wasn't. She kept going on about it, which made me raise my voice. She stormed out of my apartment. 10 minutes later, she tried to call me to fix things but I didn't think she was trying to so I hung up on her. She said this is what made her pull back 100%. She wanted to sweep it under the rug and I agreed not knowing it still bothered her up until the last day. Since then, it had been rocky. Small fights here and there about stupid things that added up. We had a communication issue and she often times shut down when we fought. It was incredibly hard to discuss things when she got like that because I didn't know what to do. So she came over last Friday night to break up. She said we had been fighting a lot. I understood and I told her our problem was lack of communication and that I want to fix it. She said we had nothing in common (which I don't agree with because we had a bunch), we were incompatible (which I think was a bit too early to decide), and we are both quick to get fired up. She was also bothered by the fact that I don't keep in contact with my exes because she is still friends with most of hers. She kept saying she doesn't know what to do and she laid on my shoulder. She asked if it would make it easier to break up now or give her more time to think. I obviously didn't want a break up so I gave her time to think. She came over the next day and said that she can't see it working out. This time she said that it is hard for her to be a healthy relationship because of her issues with depression. I explained that I knew about it and everything was going so well in the beginning and that I had a plan to fix our issues, because the stuff between us was so small. She eventually laid down on me again, kissed me a little. She got up to go after 20 minutes and I got up to hug her again. We made out a little and she said she needed to leave. I left it open for her to come back to me and to think about what I had said. That night she ended up sending me texts saying she was looking at my Facebook and that she was bummed. The next night she send a message saying her day has been really hard and asking how I was. I didn't respond. 2 days later, she sent a text telling me to respond to let her know I'm not dead in a ditch somewhere.. After that, I sent her a text saying that these texts are hurting me and that I wouldn't respond to anymore unless she wants to work things out. I deleted her from Facebook 2 days later. I feel like I'm going insane. After only a month, I usually don't care this much but I literally cannot do anything to get her off my mind. I feel a lot of regret because a lot of problems were so small. I can't get myself to move on yet because I feel like our problems could have easily been fixed if we tried, which I am still willing to do. It just didn't feel completely over like all my other relationships.
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