Muffins85 Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 Well ill start by saying that we got married very fast. I had never been around anyone who used drugs so I never saw the signs. Turns out she was taking up to 10 pain pills a day. I tried to be a trusting husband, always believing the things she would tell me. Well when we lost our home due to bills not getting paid I again believed that our land lord had " got over on us". We spent a week in a hotel and then decided that we would stay with our sister a short period. Well immediately she grew distant. The once sweet flower I had grown to love stopped talking to me as much, wouldn't answer the phone for me. Turns out she had gotten back into meth and I also found out about the pills at this time. She had been running the streets, dragging her 11 year old around with her. She had been staying with this dealer and they both swore nothing was happening. I had her admitted to the hospital to get her clean and she was diagnosed with manic depression. She started acting ok for a while. He told me she had a appointment at a detox center but asked me not to go in because she was embarrassed. Turns out she was there visiting him. I took her out to her moms in the country to seclude her from the drugs while she recovered, turns out again she was still talking and seeing this guy and still couldn't tell me she wanted it to be over. She would constantly lash out on me whenever I would question what she was doing. Finally she told me it was over, but only because she wanted me happy. The same night changes her Facebook from married, to in a relationship with this guy. I have never felt so much pain my entire life as I have these last few weeks. I can't eat, can't sleep. I keep viewing her profile even though it rips my guts out. She had run me into the ground financially and emotionally and I'm just not sure how to continue.
TaraMaiden Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 I feel sorry for the kid. She doesn't care or give a hoot, and you can frankly, just walk away. What's being done to save the child from this disaster? 2
Author Muffins85 Posted January 19, 2013 Author Posted January 19, 2013 Yea that's what I'm afraid. I just can't accept it. She has 3 kids actually. 2 stay with their father and the 3rd is staying with a family friend. I called CPS and although she may hate me for it, I know it was the right thing.
TaraMaiden Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 All from the same father, no doubt..... File for divorce, and walk away. She's irreparable, and it's not your job to fix her. She patently, obviously doesn't want to be 'fixed'. She's amply demonstrated that in her actions. You did the right thing, with regard to CPS. Now, you have to protect yourself, and disengage. Big time, full time.
health Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 I'm sorry about this. It will hurt, just keep nc and don't look at her profile. she doesn't love herself and can't love anyone. She's a mess. Count your lucky stars and heal to the point you don't find a similar girl.
ataloss8270 Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 Hey muffin, Ill be honest this is the same way my sister is. My advise to you is just bail. She is more in love with the drugs than anything else in her life. Until she hits rock bottom, nothing in her life will stear her away from the drugs. And even then it takes a lot for them to pull themselves out of the hole they have dug, if they don't end up buried in it. Sorry if I am harsh but it true.
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