To be or not to be Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 To the married men that have had affairs: What happened in your situation when your long term AP ended it when you were not ready too? How did you retrieve back to your marriage, knowing that you were only staying for the kids? Are you still in a marriage that you long ago checked out of but are ready to leave and are just waiting for your spouse to make the decision to divorce? (cowardly) As the OW, I ended my affair and would just like to know how you cope. I'm at 11 days (somewhat) NC and I struggle with a lot of questions, these are just a few. He's text me one liners this week. One day was : Just wanted to say hi. ( I did not reply) The next day: So your not talking huh? I did reply with : I thought we cleared it last week that we aren't gonna talk until your divorced. He replys with : oh ok, sorry to have bothered you. I don't get that!? We said our good byes last week and I clearly said he could call me when he's moved out and divorced. He didn't want it to end and was upset but said that he respected my wishes and it was for the best. Ok then... why is he texting me a week later?
OpenBook Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 My vote - He is testing your boundaries. He wants to go back to the way it was before, which was the best of both worlds for him. Good for you for sticking to your boundaries! You don't want him walking all over you. No man should get away with that.
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