mortensorchid Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 A few weeks/months back, I had posted on this forum about this potential something I had for someone from my theater company. A mutual friend from said theater told me late last summer that I am this man's dream woman and that I should be with him. I said "Oh, ok." So after an email to her through Facebook, I said "How do we get the train rolling?", she responded "I don't know, ask him out." I didn't really think that was the best response for her to give, nor action to take because she was essentially saying she wanted to take control of it then lobbed the ball back in my court. After a few chats with him here and there, plus some IMs through Facebook, he mentioned that he had a gf already. Not a blocking motion like "Hey back off", but just in passing. I had suspected as such, since he was never doing the asking and that was that. So I moved on. But tonight, he sent a text message saying he was playing electronic trivia at a bar nearby and did I want to join? I said ok, and I met up with him and his girlfriend (unknown to me that she would be joining in). We had an evening before the machines, chatting and whatnot, then I went home. I could not help but think about what the gal had said initially, because she really was right. We seem like we are on the same wavelength about just about everything, while his gf seemed to be on the opposite side of it all. Ah well, that's the breaks I guess.
Pyro Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 If its meant to be then it will happen. He is with someone currently so move on and don't even think about it. 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 You mean you're going to let a little thing like a "girlfriend" prevent you from meeting your "soulmate"....what's next? avoiding married men! pfft What is the world coming to these days...after all it's not like if they cheated on their SO they'd never cheat on you, you're too special for that.
MrCastle Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 Before anyone rips me to shreds, my first post was said in jest. I'm not actually advocating she tries to sabotage a relationship.
Eternal Sunshine Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 I have seen LTRs come out of a situation like yours, but neither person was obsessed over this prospect before they were both single and available. Right now, forget about it.
Ninjainpajamas Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 Before anyone rips me to shreds, my first post was said in jest. I'm not actually advocating she tries to sabotage a relationship. Silence! Continue changing those profile pics....so far I approve of your...selections. 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 Silence! She seems a little too into this guy to the point of already considering MrCastle's proposal prior to initiating this discussion. Nooo youuuu! If you've seen her posts...she's kind of "that way"...obsessive over new love interest. Mr. Kermit the frog! who I can clearly see a hand on the left side (our right) of your froggy face...thanks for shattering the illusion!
Author mortensorchid Posted January 19, 2013 Author Posted January 19, 2013 I know no one was suggesting otherwise, I wouldn't even think about doing that because that's wrong on all kinds of levels. I'm ok with it, not whining by any means. Life goes on but just thought I would share on the events in question. Ah well, I'll just stay on my own because it's less drama that way.
Mrlonelyone Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 Just sit back and see what happens. What happens may not happen quickly. These things can take time to shake out. Just move on and do you for now. If he's available and your available in the future that will be different.
FitChick Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 Sounds odd that he would ask you to join him and his girlfriend. Is he looking for a threesome and wanted her to give you thumbs up? 1
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