ImperfectionisBeauty Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 So I think I mentioned a few weeks ago about how he messaged me and told me he felt horrible about ignoring me and wanted to make it up to me by doing some sexual favors.. Well I haven't really talked to him, a little but it is very casual. He texts me everyday pretty much just saying "Hey" or how he is thinking about me. He said he wants to be friends if nothing else. Do you think I can manage to just be his friend? It is nice to have someone to talk to, especially a guy, I talk to him about a lot of stuff, like how sad I am about being single sometimes and how much I want to meet someone and have babies. He has 2 kids so he always is telling me about his children and how he is so happy to be a young dad -_- lol. I don't know, something about him pulls me in but I am not really thinking about hooking up with him, even though he hints at it a lot. I don't know I like having him kind of even if he isn't mine he is nice to me and he is cute! He invited me to come to his house for some party (like his fiancee sells Avon or scentsy or something like that) he said he really wanted me to come. I doubt that I will because it is awkward. Just don't know how I feel about that one..? He seems like he actually cares though, and I don't want to be a bitch and tell him to not contact me.
Mr Scorpio Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 So I think I mentioned a few weeks ago about how he messaged me and told me he felt horrible about ignoring me and wanted to make it up to me by doing some sexual favors. Do you think I can manage to just be his friend? Yeah. The kind of friend who he cheats on his fiance with. 1
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted January 19, 2013 Author Posted January 19, 2013 Yeah. The kind of friend who he cheats on his fiance with. But I don't want to do that, I think I have self control.. I can manage to say no I think.
Mr Scorpio Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 But I don't want to do that, I think I have self control.. I can manage to say no I think. Why even put yourself in that situation? Look at it this way: no guy makes sexual hints towards a woman who he just wants to "be friends" with. The fact that he is making those comments to you, while he is engaged to another woman, is all the character evidence you should need to judge him. 5
veggirl Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 girl he texts you and stuff cause you tell him you are unhappy and want babies and all that. to him that is "cha-ching, say the right thing and she'll put out" he has shown you his character...he is ENGAGED and talking to another woman (you) inappropriately (yes "hinting" is inappropriate). there is nothing flattering about what he says to you. he is a dog. 4
CarrieT Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 Men like that don't have women as friends; he is grooming you as an affair partner. Keeping the lines of communication open is a recipe for disaster. As long as you answer his texts, he will keep trying to get you in bed. 3
whichwayisup Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 Why do you have such a hard time just telling him to leave you alone? Why are you so afraid of hurting his feelings? You seem like the type of person who has no problems telling others how you feel and why, and you're quite harsh/blunt at it too --- Put him on block! Stop reading and answering his texts. Also, what's these questions? You've been on here and read enough to know all the answers... You've certainly given your 2 cents to other women on here and their affairs, so again, you know what's what. I will say it clearly. No you two cannot be friends. You two were never 'friends.' Infact, you're an enemy to his upcoming marriage. You are not IN his life, a true friend, not around his wife. So there's no friendship to even save. IMP, I'm telling you, he will not care. You will not hurt his feelings. Maybe his ego but not his feelings or his heart.
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted January 19, 2013 Author Posted January 19, 2013 I'll tell you what's goign to happen here based on what happened a few months ago. You are going to flirt and tease around with him, nearly push past the boundaries and everyone is going to try and help you. Then you are going to say "oh no.. I'd never do THAT" and call us all whores. Again. So yeah... good luck. If you really want him to stop texting you, stop responding and he'll get bored. Problem solved. In a couple months, after you do have the affair, when you come here all upset about how you didn't see it coming and you're crying in your cornflakes, send me a PM. I'll link you to this post abd then we can discuss again how you'd never do that. I don't remember calling anyone a whore but ok
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted January 19, 2013 Author Posted January 19, 2013 Why do you have such a hard time just telling him to leave you alone? Why are you so afraid of hurting his feelings? You seem like the type of person who has no problems telling others how you feel and why, and you're quite harsh/blunt at it too --- Put him on block! Stop reading and answering his texts. Also, what's these questions? You've been on here and read enough to know all the answers... You've certainly given your 2 cents to other women on here and their affairs, so again, you know what's what. I will say it clearly. No you two cannot be friends. You two were never 'friends.' Infact, you're an enemy to his upcoming marriage. You are not IN his life, a true friend, not around his wife. So there's no friendship to even save. IMP, I'm telling you, he will not care. You will not hurt his feelings. Maybe his ego but not his feelings or his heart. Yeah.. He totally cut me off and ignored me last time back in September so if I ignore him so what.. He shouldn't care at all
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted January 19, 2013 Author Posted January 19, 2013 Oh I remember it quite clearly. I bet a lot of other people do too. AFTER I supported your indecision and confusion and even shared something on here about myself that I hadn't before then. I was worried for you, others were too. I'm not this time. There's not many people here on LS that I think enjoy playing with people. I'm pretty sure you're one of them. That's fine if that's what makes you happy, but I prefer to direct my energy towards those that actually want help in whatever fashion they need it. I don't remember still, if I called anyone anything it was a post to that Alligator person? I probably did call her a whore, or in my teen mom post I pretty much called all teen moms whores... But if you aren't Alligator, or a teen mom I don't think I did. But ok
twinsmom Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 So do you really believe that all teen moms are whores?? 2
whichwayisup Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 Yeah.. He totally cut me off and ignored me last time back in September so if I ignore him so what.. He shouldn't care at all Then why are you giving this f..cktard any thought???? He cut YOU out of his life, ignored you.... Now he's fishing and you're considering? Sorry, but if someone did that to me, I wouldn't be chomping at the bit trying to see if we could still be friends. Where's your anger and self respect? Just tell him to F off and not to contact you again. Come on. 1
whichwayisup Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 But I don't want to do that, I think I have self control.. I can manage to say no I think. IMP, is this truly you? What's with the "i think". Should be I CAN and I AM.
twinsmom Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 Then why are you giving this f..cktard any thought???? He cut YOU out of his life, ignored you.... Now he's fishing and you're considering? Because then there wouldn't be anything to post about. 4
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted January 19, 2013 Author Posted January 19, 2013 IMP, is this truly you? What's with the "i think". Should be I CAN and I AM. Because I always say I am going to do something or not do something and then go back on my word I would rather start small by saying "I think" if that makes sense? I know I don't want to hook up with him, I know I told myself I am not having sex until I am in a relationship (it's been 4 months ) so if I keep thinking the way I am right this second I will absolutely not sleep with him or talk sexual to him at all but I like to just start small with the confidence in myself.
whichwayisup Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 Good that you explained that. Because it really came off a certain way like you're passive and insecure.
Mount Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 Agree... as the post from OP is kind of meanless or pointless, just to "show off" some other woman's fiance texted the OP. According to the text content, it even does not seem that the guy is interested to OP, apparently he is just wanting to get some free #$%. Again, even OWs get emotional investment or or other kind of material investment from MMs WHICH proves that at least MMs display the gesture that they are investing part of them into OWs, but those kinds of booty call or whatever text only humilate OP. p.s. If MM dares to send me that kind of text, he will be dead for sure.:D:D:D Because then there wouldn't be anything to post about.
MissBee Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 girl he texts you and stuff cause you tell him you are unhappy and want babies and all that. to him that is "cha-ching, say the right thing and she'll put out" he has shown you his character...he is ENGAGED and talking to another woman (you) inappropriately (yes "hinting" is inappropriate). there is nothing flattering about what he says to you. he is a dog. Ditto. He is fully aware that you seem a bit desperate to have a "nice, cute" guy to talk to, even if he "isn't yours" and probably feels like you're an easy lay who will eventually give in because you want him in your life so much or any man in your life really. He doesn't want to be friends. He doesn't have your best interest at heart. He doesn't respect you. He simply finds you to be a girl who is preoccupied with wanting a man, who slept with him before and obviously doesn't seem to mind him having a fiance and that in his mind translates as "easy kill". He is quite despicable frankly and I really would run the other way. 6
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted January 19, 2013 Author Posted January 19, 2013 Agree... as the post from OP is kind of meanless or pointless, just to "show off" some other woman's fiance texted the OP. According to the text content, it even does not seem that the guy is interested to OP, apparently he is just wanting to get some free #$%. Again, even OWs get emotional investment or or other kind of material investment from MMs WHICH proves that at least MMs display the gesture that they are investing part of them into OWs, but those kinds of booty call or whatever text only humilate OP. p.s. If MM dares to send me that kind of text, he will be dead for sure.:D:D:D So now there is some type of... rules or signs of respect in being the other woman? Ok then? Either way I don't want it. I don't want him to emotionally invest in me or materially invest in me because I don't want to be an OW it's pointless. I do appreciate his interest in me but I wouldn't do it.
Mount Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 For what I am seeing is that you brought the topic up means you do care his action towards you even it is very disrepectful (worse than the interaction with an OW, if you know what I mean), and you do want to reciprocate. So now there is some type of... rules or signs of respect in being the other woman? Ok then? Either way I don't want it. I don't want him to emotionally invest in me or materially invest in me because I don't want to be an OW it's pointless. I do appreciate his interest in me but I wouldn't do it.
sweetkiwi Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 You should totally tempt fate and walk the line of extreme stupidity. WTF guys can do just about anything with you huh.
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted January 19, 2013 Author Posted January 19, 2013 You should totally tempt fate and walk the line of extreme stupidity. WTF guys can do just about anything with you huh. No they can't do anything with me...
KathyM Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 I think you should inform his fiance that he has been contacting you and offering sexual favors, before she invests her life in someone who is not faithful to her. Inform the fiance, and that should put a stop to his contact with you. Why would you want a cheater in your life anyway? Life is too short to waste it on someone who has no boundaries and no respect for his commited relationship. 5
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted January 19, 2013 Author Posted January 19, 2013 They can - and he IS - as long as you keep the lines of communication open. Are you this frigg'n stupid to not see that? :confused: I thought I was doing good keeping it non sexual. I get it though I just have to not talk to him 2
CarrieT Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 I thought I was doing good keeping it non sexual. I get it though I just have to not talk to him There is non-sexual and there are statements like being sad you are single and wanting babies. A player like this reads that sort of thing as BEGGING FOR SEX. Seriously.... 2
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