nevmx Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 My ex-girlfriend dumped me 3 days ago after 4.5 months. I'm about 70% over her now. The relationship has been pretty much one sided for the past month, I felt like she lost her interest for me. She has been totally ignoring my texts and giving me super short replies on facebook chat. Should I be glad that the relationship is over? I don't know if I'm actually happy it's over or if I'm convincing myself I'm glad it's over... We've been seeing each other about once every two weeks. She thought that it was normal. I thought it really wasn't enough as I was missing her too much. Every time I tried to set up a date to see her more than once per two weeks, she would either say she is too busy or get pissed at me. But then she ended up hanging out with her other (GUY!) friends instead. We live about 2 hours of public transport apart. I don't own a car neither did she. Dates always had to go by her rules. We only did things she was able to do, and the time limit for dates was always defined by her. When we hung out at the mall, she would always see her male friends and go to hug them in front of me. She kept texting her other guy friends on the phone too. One thing that just made me extremely mad at her was about our 4 months date together. We planned to go to the restaurant first and then to the movies. In between we had about an hour of spare time. Out of nowhere, she asks me if it's okay if we go see a (male) friend of her in the middle of our date. I of course felt forced to agree and we ended up spending an hour of our date together chatting with a male friend of her. I also felt like she was more excited about seeing her male friend than seeing me. It was pretty much me always bending backwards to suit her. Don't get me wrong though, we were REALLY in love and I could feel it when we were cuddling. (Even though we only cuddled twice back in early October...) I've been NC with her for 3 days now without any problem. Is it a good thing that all this is over now?
siris Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 I think that you should just let the normal range of emotions come and go. Like when one throws a stone in a pond and you see the ripple effect. Watching this ripple effect or small wave upon the water you begin to see things calm down and go back to normal. Your mind works like that. You said you are @ 70% so your more than half way there but I would say don't lie to yourself if you are not happy she is out of your life just let these feeling come and go; in due time she will fade and hopefully someone who is more mature will come into your life at some point. I wish you the best!
chndude Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 Dude Always remember. When you text a girl and she doesn't text back, it is pretty much over. Sometimes, girls like to take a day to text back, after simmering down. But, if you asked her out and she didn't respond for over a day, you should have ended it right there. Think about it man. You are not a cow or an animal. You sent a text to another human being and if they ignored it, they basically don't give a **** about you. Forget about this girl!
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