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I know you guys dont like to read a lot so ill keep this short. I could had made it 50 pages long.

 

We been dating for two years. On and off on and off until one final time i decided to hit her up again to get back on after one month nc and she said she already has a bf one month after that initial break up. She said she had sex and what not and i was shocked and devastated. She wanted to be friends but my stupid self accepted it and it made me hurt even more.

 

 

I loved her a lottt and still wanted to be with her although she did what she did.and she just kept pushing me away and only offered friends. I said ok.after two months of being friends We went out on like 5 dates And enjoyed them and kissed and i slept over (i guess she broke up with her bf by now because i dont know if she would do this while bing in a rel) i didn't ask her because i know if she said yes i would ask 8000 questions and be hurt more. We talked on the last date and agreed we would both get therapy and fix ourselves and then be back together.

 

 

 

 

I bought her 200$ boots and what not and i guess we were happy... As "friends" after a few i asked her if there is anything on her fb that would make me jealous she said no and was weird. It spooked me. I was in denial so i hacked her fb because i knew her email password and saw many dirty messages with like 4 guys from her college. I called her in tears and confronted her and she said " we are friends only. I have the right to do that. And im only speaking to them like that, i wont do anything for real" i just gave her her fb password and shut uped.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

After that i just got confirmation she is actually doing sexual stuff ( when she told me she had sex i was in denial and did not believe it ) but now i saw it with my eyes the dirty messages. I was suicidal.

 

 

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That happened exactly a week ago and now i went NC for a week. Nothing. No email no nothing. Then today in the morning she sent me one email saying "I miss u". I tried to keep strong and didn't reply.

 

 

 

 

If she really misses me wont she call? Wont she come up to my door? Wont she at least put a sad face next to that email?

 

 

I love the girl and really want to be with her and she knows that. What do i do? Do i reply or do i keep NC? (I want to be with her ).

 

If i reply what do i say?

If i keep no contact what will end up happening?

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puzzled1 Established Member

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Dont fall into her trap. She sounds selfish as hell!

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I know you guys dont like to read a lot so ill keep this short. I could had made it 50 pages long.

 

We been dating for two years. On and off on and off until one final time i decided to hit her up again to get back on after one month nc and she said she already has a bf one month after that initial break up. She said she had sex and what not and i was shocked and devastated. She wanted to be friends but my stupid self accepted it and it made me hurt even more.

 

 

I loved her a lottt and still wanted to be with her although she did what she did.and she just kept pushing me away and only offered friends. I said ok.after two months of being friends We went out on like 5 dates And enjoyed them and kissed and i slept over (i guess she broke up with her bf by now because i dont know if she would do this while bing in a rel) i didn't ask her because i know if she said yes i would ask 8000 questions and be hurt more. We talked on the last date and agreed we would both get therapy and fix ourselves and then be back together.

 

 

 

 

I bought her 200$ boots and what not and i guess we were happy... As "friends" after a few i asked her if there is anything on her fb that would make me jealous she said no and was weird. It spooked me. I was in denial so i hacked her fb because i knew her email password and saw many dirty messages with like 4 guys from her college. I called her in tears and confronted her and she said " we are friends only. I have the right to do that. And im only speaking to them like that, i wont do anything for real" i just gave her her fb password and shut uped.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

After that i just got confirmation she is actually doing sexual stuff ( when she told me she had sex i was in denial and did not believe it ) but now i saw it with my eyes the dirty messages. I was suicidal.

 

 

**************

 

 

That happened exactly a week ago and now i went NC for a week. Nothing. No email no nothing. Then today in the morning she sent me one email saying "I miss u". I tried to keep strong and didn't reply.

 

 

 

 

If she really misses me wont she call? Wont she come up to my door? Wont she at least put a sad face next to that email?

 

 

I love the girl and really want to be with her and she knows that. What do i do? Do i reply or do i keep NC? (I want to be with her ).

 

If i reply what do i say?

If i keep no contact what will end up happening?

 

 

From what you wrote, this chick seems dishonest and not very respectful of you. You have also made it clear that you cannot trust her, and rightfully so. Ask yourself, is this really the type of person you want to be with? Do you want a relationship like that? I know you say you really want to be with her, but I think before you do ANYTHING, you should really look at what you would actually be getting, and it would be very likely for her to hurt you again. Her text may indicate that she wants you back, or she may just be "fishing" to see if you are still there is she needs you. I say wait at least 24 hours, and if you still feel like you want to reply, do it, but say something very neutral. If she is receptive, maybe suggest a meet up for coffee where you can tell her exactly how you feel, how she has hurt you in the past, and what steps can be taken to regain the trust in your relationship. Communication is key, and that is the only shot I believe at this working. It's never going to work if you cannot trust you and she is doing things to make you not trust her, no matter how much you love her. Sorry for your pain and good luck

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I know all you want to do is get her back even if she's a complete mess. She seems immature. Like she hasn't grown up yet and just wants you there but not ready to commit. I think she knows she has other choices for now and your a patch of grass she's able to come graze on whenever.

This time I really suggest you to let her go. At least for awhile. let her experience the hardship and let the other guy break her heart. It's only then that if you really love her you will get 100% from

Her. If you just get her back now she will never realize what she's lost.

 

Don't spoil her by making her think she doesn't have to commit and get everything a relationship has.

veggirl Established Member

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she dumped you, got a new boyfriend, and so you bought her new boots?

 

:confused::confused::confused:

 

she is using you because you make it so very easy :( do not respond to her, please!!!

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na49 Established Member

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Do you buy 200 dollar boots for all of your friends?

 

She's screwing other guys now, but she doesn't want you the way you think she wants you. She might miss you as a sympathetic ear and an emotional tampon, but that's about it. She gets her emotional needs from you, and physical needs from another guy. How do you feel about that? If you're okay with that. Then tell her how much you miss her and how much you love her. If you have any dignity, you should ignore her. She probably doesn't want to lose you from her life completely. but she made that choice already. She either has you or she doesn't. You shouldn't settle. and you shouldn't buy her things anymore. It's not "nice" of you. It's DESPERATE!

 

Also, to give you a more realistic perspective. She doesn't owe you anything because you guys aren't dating. I know it hurts to think that she's with other guys, but what she does with those other guys has nothing to do with you at all. On the contrary, nothing you do with other girls has anything to do with her.

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Darren Steez Established Member

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Yup operative word DESPERATE!!

 

Also, clingy and whiny. Look this girl has made it clear but you like a ram keep headbutting this relationship thing..wait..not ram...more like a clingy koala all wide eyed, clinging to her, clinging to hope of a relationship.

 

Move on!

FailedFirstLove Established Member

FailedFirstLove

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Can I have $200 boots? I only want to be friends with you though, I rather date someone else.

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