Do we ever have a chance again? I really thought she was the one over time.

[Gambler1984]

We were involved with each other for almost two years. Honestly, we met online and I initially was not interested in her romantically. We started hanging out as friends first and it developed from there. I think that's the best way.

 

She had always talked about going to grad school and finally moved across the country to pursue her phd. I am still an undergrad and I know when you get a good offer, you need to act on it and she did. Prior to moving, she broke up with my twice and it always had something to do with her moving away and not wanting a long distance relationship for four years.

 

We communicated in some way after she left for about a month until she told me she had a bf. It was literally a month before she was in "a relationship"! I was devastated and hurt. I stopped talking to her, hid her FB profile and left it at that. I would periodically get contacted by her, once it was to tell me she was sorry my team lost the ALCS! She tried chatting with me one night on FB last November and basically blew her off after a few minutes. Right after Thanksgiving in 2011, I received a text from her and it was a picture of her cat, stating that the cat was saying "howdy" from Texas. I said "hi" back to the cat. Random, not sure what it was for. I was later told by my friend who knows her a little bit that her relationship status had gone blank at that time. In January '12, the same guy appeared again in her profile pic and again at the end of February, but still a blank relationship status. I didn't hear much from her, she would mainly post questions off and on on my FB wall. I did acidentally include her in a mass text for a pic of the car I bought. She replied immediately and it turned into a Q & A for about an hour with her asking me what I'm up to, still at the same job, etc, etc. I asked her nothing.

 

Early March, that guy vanished again from her profile pic suddenly. That was over a weekend and then suddenly, my FB page began to be overwhelmed by likes/comments. That same week, I received a random phone call from her which I missed, two weeks later, I got another pic of the cat, this time emailed to me. From mid March until about the end of May, she was liking/commenting on 75% of the stuff I was posting, I received random texts, including one 3 hours after a friend posted something about me and another woman. The timing of these things doesn't seem like a coincidence!

 

I ignored and responded with little interest to these things and soon discovered her on two dating sites listed as single. I don't know when she exactly got on them, but she talked about she moved 9 months ago. I would periodically check to see if she was still active on them and she was. I noticed through Google search, she updated it every so often, in August stating she moved a year ago and the last one I saw was in November 2012 and said she moved 1.5 years ago, then magically, having not seen this guy in her profile pic since early March 2012, she put up an old picture of them in mid November and then I noticed her dating profiles were gone. Sounds odd that she's back with him so many months later.

 

After seeing that, I disabled my FB profile, but will say that she was very active on my FB wall, would leave weird comments on posts that were important to me, like posts that were important to me. I had several people asking me why she's so active on my wall. Keep in mind, I never liked/commented on one thing she posted, I had her profile hidden. I also noticed my profile would get stalked from time to time. I did chat with her in August and she did all of the question asking, I asked nothing.

 

Now I still do love this woman and hope she does back and things work out for us. All of the women I talked to about this told me I messed up and should have been straight forward with her and not ignored these things she was doing and that maybe she had reconsidered a L-D relationship and maybe the grass wasn't greener on the other side like she thought it would be. Also, lonliness and insecurity they say could have played a role into getting back together with this other guy. I know I'm told she went out of state to see his family, idk when or what for though. Recently though, like Nov/Dec, after getting back together. Everyone tells me that means nothing, she likes to travel and meet people's families. Idk!