I feel like the guy that recently broke up with me is my soul mate. Am I wrong?

[Eeesh]

My boyfriend of two years broke up with me a week ago. I have been friends with him since our sophomore year of high school and two years ago we decided to take a chance and begin dating. It has been amazing. I have never felt more connected with another person that I ever did with him. Way more than I thought possible.

 

The past few months have gotten hard because he has been fighting with a depression that would come up every once in awhile that he could usually shake within a few weeks. When it eventually came to light that he wouldn't be able to handle this depression in the same manner, he broke up with me because he said that he doesn't want to drag me along through the process of finding out what is truly wrong with him and keep our relationship on the back burner because it isn't fair to me. He said it was the hardest decision he has ever had to make and that he misses me more than words can describe. He just feels like he needs to find how to make himself happy before anything else. I'm understanding, but it hurts that what I thought was forever, only lasted two years.

 

Trust me. I understand how juvenile and whiny this sounds. I've been doing my best to move forward and not focus on the break up. I've been keeping myself busy, and all the other things people suggest when experiencing a tough break up. I can't shake the feeling that he is something special to me. I believed that for seven years and I'm still hoping that is the truth. I guess what I'm asking is am I putting in false hope? We have talked a few times since the break up and he reiterates the fact each time how much he misses me and how hard it is not to be with me, but that he feels this is not a "love conquers all" situation. But, despite telling me these things, he has said that everything besides his work and school life is a grey area right now. My heart dropped when I heard that, because we have told each other countless times that this is real without a doubt. But he also has a lot of demons he needs to work through and I feel that is the right thing for him to do, being on his own through this.

 

I just want to believe that we have a future. That the past two years were a sample of what could be. Is that delusional, or am I justified? I apologize for this seeming all over the place; I'm just attempting to navigate through this the best I can.

[na49]

I think it's a little delusional. I know you guys had a good relationship. I had a good relationship with my ex. and then it ended. If we were meant to be together, we'd be together. I obviously don't know what the future holds, but I think it's safer to assume my future won't be with her than to expect her to come back to me. You should probably try to adopt a similar train of thought. Until you do, you won't be able to move on. Part of moving on is taking them off the pedestal we put them on and realizing that they weren't for us and that they aren't our "soul mate". Our soul mate wouldn't leave us. would they?

[Jiggy1975]

I think your ex has a very good point, with depression it's hard to be with someone, it's something you've got to do on your own, depression can take you to some very dark places and change you so much, it's not something you want a loved one to see, I know you probably feel you can be there for him through it, but if he keeps telling you he misses you, etc. he obviously still loves you, get on with your life as best you can, if it is meant to be, it will be, you don't have to forget about him or what you guys had together, but try to get on with your own life as best you can :)

[newmoon]

depends on your definition of soul mate - if you believe you just have one soul mate in life then yeah, you're going to feel crushed and upset that this guy left. but we encounter people in our lives all the time who we can connect with - they can be soul mates too. you can have a lot of people in your life who are 'soul mates' because they fill up a part of you that others cannot, for whatever reason. if he was in fact your one soul mate then he probably wouldn't have left