clairehud Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 If you love someone let them go. If they stay away then they were never yours to begin with. If they come back then they are yours to keep. Is this actually true?! I just want some opinions about it.
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 In some cases, sure. If you love yourself you will let them go too(if they are bad.) If they come back(it could be because it didn't work out with Mister or miss whomever), so you are now the fall back. Just remember. It is never only one thing. 1
sweetkiwi Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 I don't know if this is true. I let my ex go because I knew we weren't right for eachother. I love him very much. But I know that we both have growing to do. If we end up back together it will be because we have resolved our individual issues. And if we don't, I hope he finds a woman who will appreciate him as he is. 2
Author clairehud Posted January 18, 2013 Author Posted January 18, 2013 In some cases, sure. If you love yourself you will let them go too(if they are bad.) If they come back(it could be because it didn't work out with Mister or miss whomever), so you are now the fall back. Just remember. It is never only one thing. Yes, thats right! I knew that. What if i rephrase it a bit, this whole question? I mean I'd like some psychological answers if possible. What if one day you just want to test someone's feelings for you and just cut them off in any single way. You stop making any moves, any contacts...even thought they know you are crazy about them. Does it effects them in any way? I mean if the other side does likes you, and says it out loud, but treats you as an ******* and ignores you on moments. To be precises when words don't meet up with their actions, what to do? I comfronted it, but his words doesnt meet his actions
Author clairehud Posted January 18, 2013 Author Posted January 18, 2013 I don't know if this is true. I let my ex go because I knew we weren't right for eachother. I love him very much. But I know that we both have growing to do. If we end up back together it will be because we have resolved our individual issues. And if we don't, I hope he finds a woman who will appreciate him as he is. I get your point, but waiting is really painfull... what if you meet someone new and then he decides to come back. Just a mess. Anyway I wish you luck and I hope you'll get it right with him or someone else soon
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Yes, thats right! I knew that. What if i rephrase it a bit, this whole question? I mean I'd like some psychological answers if possible. What if one day you just want to test someone's feelings for you and just cut them off in any single way. You stop making any moves, any contacts...even thought they know you are crazy about them. Does it effects them in any way? I mean if the other side does likes you, and says it out loud, but treats you as an ******* and ignores you on moments. To be precises when words don't meet up with their actions, what to do? I comfronted it, but his words doesnt meet his actions If someone randomly cut me off, to test me or whatever else, I would go my merry way. I would find someone who isn't up for games. You should know how that person is you love or whatever. They you, without tests. If someone's words cannot match their actions(lie in otherwords), I wouldn't be with her. Simple as that. Doesn't always require expert advice. But why stay and be treated like sh*t 1
sweetkiwi Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 I get your point, but waiting is really painfull... what if you meet someone new and then he decides to come back. Just a mess. Anyway I wish you luck and I hope you'll get it right with him or someone else soon Thank you. But we're not waiting. The best way to grow is to live. And thats the only way we'll know for sure if we should be together. After we experience things and learn from them. And I have no doubt I will have happy relationships in the future. As will you
Author clairehud Posted January 18, 2013 Author Posted January 18, 2013 If someone randomly cut me off, to test me or whatever else, I would go my merry way. I would find someone who isn't up for games. You should know how that person is you love or whatever. They you, without tests. If someone's words cannot match their actions(lie in otherwords), I wouldn't be with her. Simple as that. Doesn't always require expert advice. But why stay and be treated like sh*t I think I am doing this, LMAO Just that in my case, he is not my boyfriend and he doesn't live close to me. He is just someone I know and I like very much, even thought we don't see each other. I just want some answers in general. What happens when someone who is so into someone stops giving them attention and ignore them out of the blue, what happens in their head? Would you leave it alone or go for it if you have any feelings? How long would you wait if you would go for that someone who stopped giving you attention? I think its obvious if there are no any feelings involved, we all know the answer to the question I mean is it backfire or what? And you dont need to reply, I wrote this in general term
Author clairehud Posted January 18, 2013 Author Posted January 18, 2013 Thank you. But we're not waiting. The best way to grow is to live. And thats the only way we'll know for sure if we should be together. After we experience things and learn from them. And I have no doubt I will have happy relationships in the future. As will you Yes I will! As soon as winter passes by More going outs, more fun, more opportunities
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 I think I am doing this, LMAO Just that in my case, he is not my boyfriend and he doesn't live close to me. He is just someone I know and I like very much, even thought we don't see each other. I just want some answers in general. What happens when someone who is so into someone stops giving them attention and ignore them out of the blue, what happens in their head? Would you leave it alone or go for it if you have any feelings? How long would you wait if you would go for that someone who stopped giving you attention? I think its obvious if there are no any feelings involved, we all know the answer to the question I mean is it backfire or what? And you dont need to reply, I wrote this in general term I gave you the answer. If you're going to be smart about it... Look. I am not waiting for someone who has lost interest in me. What's going through their head? Don't know. Sure isn't me though. So why care? You can like someone, but if they start losing feeling or disinterest, why bother?
newmoon Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 i think it's true. no one is 'yours to keep' as we don't belong to anyone, but if you give someone space and they come back, then yeah.. they're interested, and if they stay away... they probably never were fully invested 1
ScienceGal Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 I get your point, but waiting is really painfull... what if you meet someone new and then he decides to come back. Just a mess. This has happened to me more than once, which makes it even more painful right now. I know my ex loves me, but because of our issues, he has given up. We broke up just over two weeks ago and he went back and forth about it for a little over a week. Now, he is certain we're through. I would be heartbroken if he wanted to come back after I found someone new because I really thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with him.
Author clairehud Posted January 19, 2013 Author Posted January 19, 2013 I gave you the answer. If you're going to be smart about it... Look. I am not waiting for someone who has lost interest in me. What's going through their head? Don't know. Sure isn't me though. So why care? You can like someone, but if they start losing feeling or disinterest, why bother? You are once again...TOTALL RIGHT! And it is how I do it too. I mean I am good looking, smart enough to find someone better, but the thing what bothers me the most is when that someone is a mess. When people actually convince you they are so into you, then they just vanish for a couple of weeks and then they just come back out of the blue and so on, and so on. That why I was wondering about psychological side of this what I posted above, because I simply can't deal with the fact that there are so many emotional retards in this world/psychopats. Its so wrong! I think if you directly say to someone you are crazy about them, and explain them what you want, that they should just be honest and tell you to f...off or something. But claiming one thing and then doing other things is wrong I guess thats life
Author clairehud Posted January 19, 2013 Author Posted January 19, 2013 This has happened to me more than once, which makes it even more painful right now. I know my ex loves me, but because of our issues, he has given up. We broke up just over two weeks ago and he went back and forth about it for a little over a week. Now, he is certain we're through. I would be heartbroken if he wanted to come back after I found someone new because I really thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with him. Sorry to hear that But you'll be ok, I will be ok too. The more I think about this saying, the less I know and the more I think its wrong! I want a man who knows what he wants, not someone who is so insecure. Maybe at some point we need to let someone go in order they come back, but I think that true love doesnt need any brakes and tests Thats just my opinion. But in other cases you don't know what you had untill its gone forever, so its confusing situation
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