Any Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 I've been dating a guy for just under 3 months we met on match.com I'm a single mom he has met my kids, has been to my house, and I've been to his. Over Christmas he called when he was out of town and let me know he wanted to see me right away when he got back and he actually drove straight through 11 hours to my house and didn't even go home first. Shortly before Christmas he got a phone interview with a company in his home state (he hates the state we both live in) it's a company he has wanted to work for, for a long time and just this Monday he had a face to face interview he told me it went very well and he expects to get an offer. My problem is ever since he got offered the second interview he has been extremely distant, doesn't text back, doesn't call and doesn't set up a time to get together if I suggest a time he just doesn't respond and when I finally do hear from him he acts like he never even got the text about getting together. Yesterday I sent him a very polite text telling him obviously he has a ton going on in his life and lots of life decisions to make so if he finds himself still living in this state and with a little more free time to let me know but in the mean time I would be near his house Sunday and I'd like to pick up some of my stuff so if he could either be there or just leave it on the front porch thanks in advance. thIs was yesterday at 10:30 and still no response. Prior to Christmas and all over the Christmas and new year holiday he seemed to really like me now I'm getting nothing. Could I have been too needy? Or is it that he is trying to figure out what to do about the job? He was great before this helping me with my kids asking to hold the youngest (1 year old) and we had a lot of fun when we were around each other.... Although he has alway been crappy at texting back. What should I do? Back off and just not text, or call? I hate feeling like I'm chasing someone but he really is a great guy so I don't want to completely squash the relationship?
will1988 Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 If you have stuff at his place, I'd suggest calling. Even if it is purely to just get stuff. You are a single mother right? I am assuming he does not have kids, right? How far away is his home state? You two have only date for under 3 months... he knows that by him taking this job back home he will have to either dump you, do the LDR thing, or move you with him. After three months, he may love your kids and you, but I doubt he is ready for you to move your life across state lines, nor his life for that matter. So that only leaves dumping you or LDR. He may have an old flame back home, or he may just want to be single while moving back home. Or maybe the thought of being a step father scared him... You may not know his true reasons. But you should try to get your stuff back and I'd recommend splitting. You don't need someone who is flakey in your life, and especially not your kids' lives. This is why they always say never, ever, ever, introduce a new man to your children until after several months of dating and after you've already fallen in love. Not because it will turn a man off, but because he may like your kids, and not you, or vice versa and one party will get hurt which will cause all to get hurt. You don't want to put your kids through that. However, they will move on and forget him... assuming you leave him or vice versa. But honestly who knows the situation, he may be in the hospital, jail, or something worse. I don't want you to worry too much though about those possibilities. good luck
will1988 Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 I just read your other thread, are you talking about the same guy? If so, you should get out of the picture all together. If it is not the same guy, then this guy is probably ignoring you because of MM (maybe he found out).
Author Any Posted January 18, 2013 Author Posted January 18, 2013 Haha funny actually no.... MM is mine this guy is my sisters. She was stressing over the situation and I told her to ask on here. I didn't want to go to the trouble of a whole new user name ect. And didn't even think about the possible confusion.
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