kaylan Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 I have wondered if a bi man would be ideal for me. A bisexual man may have crossover sexual tastes (likes things that a lot of straight guys don't like) that match my sexual preferences. Coming from a culture where it's taboo to be homosexual or bisexual, I can totally understand why someone would hide it. I wouldn't shame someone for being discreet about their sexual orientation. I think it's an American idea to be blunt and honest about everything (Yes, I'm going to get in trouble with that comment!). Nah the last comment was fine. However, Americans can be as discreet as anyone. Hell, our society is built upon lots of lying and a lack of honesty. We are masters of lying cheating and divorce.
nessaaa Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 I dont think thats something a stranger needs to know right off the bat, it doesnt matter. And no i would noooottt date a bi sexual guy. A man taking it in the ass is a turn off.
Author Seductive Posted January 18, 2013 Author Posted January 18, 2013 Nah the last comment was fine. However, Americans can be as discreet as anyone. Hell, our society is built upon lots of lying and a lack of honesty. We are masters of lying cheating and divorce. Haha, okay. I can definitely say that some men have been able to tell that I was bi by noticing how I look at other women. These posts are interesting in this thread, because it shows that not all men want a bi woman. It's a myth that a bi woman is every man's dream. Another male friend that does well with the ladies said he would have a hard time seeing someone that he cares about deeply having sex with another woman.
Mrlonelyone Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 I have wondered if a bi man would be ideal for me. A bisexual man may have crossover sexual tastes (likes things that a lot of straight guys don't like) that match my sexual preferences. Coming from a culture where it's taboo to be homosexual or bisexual, I can totally understand why someone would hide it. I wouldn't shame someone for being discreet about their sexual orientation. I think it's an American idea to be blunt and honest about everything (Yes, I'm going to get in trouble with that comment!). Maybe and maybe not. I've thought the same sort of thing...that my best bet might be to go to bi events or get involved with the bi community such as it is and perhaps meet someone there. Many queer couples of all stripes on the flag meet through activism. Another plus would be having a partner who's comfortable with being viewed as at least associated with the queer side of life. A straight partner of any gender will likely harbor some internal unprocessed homophobia, fear and doubt. On the other hand the thing about being bi (and about being trans) is that in a way one is opened to a larger pool of possible mates than a Lesbian or Gay. At the very least we are open to dating straight people. Finding a straight person willing to accept that side of you is the trick there. Most won't, but if one does it can work out beautifully. I've seen that happen.
Imported Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 (edited) I have been with a couple women that were bi-sexual and I didn't really think that till they ****ed around with other girls thinking I shouldn't have a problem since they weren't ****ing around with other guys. I was the bad guy for trying to control them, since I thought cheating is cheating. Didn't matter that they wanted me to join, because I am not into watching someone I am in a relationship with **** another person. OP, you don't want to have your time wasted by dudes that want you for sex because you think guys believe bi-sexual women to be easy. So you are ready to lie to guys and then finally tell them the truth when you think they're ready. You are far far far worst than the dudes that think bi-sexual girls are easy and try to get with them for easy sex. So sorry for thinking you should tell the truth. God forbid someone is honest with people they think of as relationship worthy. manipulating them till you think they are ready to hear you finally tell the truth sounds like a grand plan. Edited January 19, 2013 by Imported
kaylan Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 (edited) I dont think thats something a stranger needs to know right off the bat, it doesnt matter. And no i would noooottt date a bi sexual guy. A man taking it in the ass is a turn off. Um yes they do need to know, especially if romantic interest is involved. And youre bi right? If so, good job being a bi girl whos a double standard hypocrite.Haha, okay. I can definitely say that some men have been able to tell that I was bi by noticing how I look at other women. These posts are interesting in this thread, because it shows that not all men want a bi woman. It's a myth that a bi woman is every man's dream. Another male friend that does well with the ladies said he would have a hard time seeing someone that he cares about deeply having sex with another woman. The reality is that many men want a bi women for sex and fun. But if you ask a lot of guys who they want to settle down with, most will say a straight chick. And for many guys, they want a straight chick because theyll never have to worry about not being able to give her something she desires sexually. And I agree with your last male friend. I couldnt see my girl with anyone else, male or female. Im only ok sharing women I dont care about. Edited January 19, 2013 by kaylan 1
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 That would be pointless for me because I don't want a girl to message me.
Mrlonelyone Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 I dont think thats something a stranger needs to know right off the bat, it doesnt matter. And no i would noooottt date a bi sexual guy. A man taking it in the ass is a turn off. What if he mostly is the one putting it in the ass? How do you feel about anal sex between a man and a woman by the way? Is that also icky, if not why not? I'm just curious.
SilentVoice Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 It would not . Ok It should not matter if you are bi or not while in a relationship. I am guessing by serious you mean monogamous? Being bi doesn't mean you can go around banging a chick when you want. Are you looking for a open relationship. If you are bi - why arene't you looking for both men and women... logic.
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 If there is no baby to use as leverage what's the point, right? absolutely! A girl can't give me babies like I want.
SunsetRed Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 I haven't read all of the advice you've received, but my 2 cents worth is that you should NOT put it in your profile because you will attract the creeps who want to watch you w a woman or who want a threesome. Wait until you are with a man who has the integrity to listen to who you are before you tell him. He may not agree w where you are coming from, but if he's at least willing to listen that's a good sign. Plus, he may come around and learn to be more open about it.
kaylan Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 ^They generally cause problems in monogamous relationships. They are bad for certain couples and good for others. But again, usually they cause problems...and thats because most people dont like to share. I haven't read all of the advice you've received, but my 2 cents worth is that you should NOT put it in your profile because you will attract the creeps who want to watch you w a woman or who want a threesome. Wait until you are with a man who has the integrity to listen to who you are before you tell him. He may not agree w where you are coming from, but if he's at least willing to listen that's a good sign. Plus, he may come around and learn to be more open about it. Its still lying. And sexual orientation is pertinent info in a romantic pairing.
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 Even if her clitdick is really big and meaty like a penis? I vomited
MrCastle Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 Even if her clitdick is really big and meaty like a penis? Listen to me, there's really only room for one person to deliver inappropriate humor. And I'm it.
charlietheginger Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 i have known to types of bisexual women. Type 1 extrovert loves sex with men or women. Type 2 very picky woman that is attracted to men And women only has sex with very few people these Women are not picky in the sense of looks but picky In the sense they feel a real connection of love with That person be it male or female. These women look for kind gentle nurturing loving people to be with they Look past ones gender and seek love.
Mrlonelyone Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 i have known to types of bisexual women. Type 1 extrovert loves sex with men or women. Type 2 very picky woman that is attracted to men And women only has sex with very few people these Women are not picky in the sense of looks but picky In the sense they feel a real connection of love with That person be it male or female. These women look for kind gentle nurturing loving people to be with they Look past ones gender and seek love. That would apply to bisexuals of any gender and either sex. I would be the second of those types. It's why I take it so hard when things don't work out.
irc333 Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 You should put bi-sexual so guys that have no interest in bi-sexual women don't waste time with you in their pursuit of a real relationship. Yeah, I know of a couple of Bi's and they're wack jobs or aren't really "soft" (when I say that , I mean "feminine") they seem abrasive. There's this one I know somewhat well, she's a big fitness nut, and has posed photos of herself in lingerie Ironically, she has, "No, dont email me for a THREESOME!" Apparently some Bi's aren't up for adding a 3rd? I thought that was their thing?
Author Seductive Posted January 19, 2013 Author Posted January 19, 2013 (edited) Not all bisexual people like three-somes, just like how many straight women aren't into MMF three-somes. Likewise, some men don't want three-somes when they're stereotyped so. Many people like to focus on one person during sex, and they have that right. I'm surprised to see some of the bitterness and emotional reactiveness towards bisexuals on this forum, but I'm lucky I haven't experienced it within my close group of friends and past relationships. As for abrasiveness and masculinity, I've been told all of my life that I come off as shy, fragile and "too girly." But, I also come from a culture where women are expected to be demure, soft-spoken and not in your face. I would say my straight girlfriends are actually more ball-busting. In my family, being an in your face type of woman was frowned upon. Edited January 19, 2013 by Seductive
Imported Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 I guess I could have sounded bitter. And I don't think all bi-sexuals want threesomes, but from my experience, the two girls that I dated for a while that were actually bi-sexual and not just kissing up on other girls in front of me to turn me on, felt entitled to carry on with women even though they were dating me. It wasn't cheating to them so long as they weren't messing around with other dudes. They thought they were entitled to **** around with other women and it was none of my concern. That is unacceptable to me. Personally, I'd rather just be with a straight girl and not even get into a mess with a bi-sexual girl. I am sure there are guys out there that will be all into it, most of which probably because they only know it as a fantasy. Lying to a person you want to have a relationship with, manipulating them till you think they can hear the truth and then farther lying to make it seem like it just occurred to you that you are "bi" seems like a horrible way to deal with someone you supposedly love. It is just cruel, mean spirited, callous disregard and completely dishonest. But hey, I guess if that is acceptable to you, than who really cares.
Author Seductive Posted January 19, 2013 Author Posted January 19, 2013 I guess I could have sounded bitter. And I don't think all bi-sexuals want threesomes, but from my experience, the two girls that I dated for a while that were actually bi-sexual and not just kissing up on other girls in front of me to turn me on, felt entitled to carry on with women even though they were dating me. It wasn't cheating to them so long as they weren't messing around with other dudes. They thought they were entitled to **** around with other women and it was none of my concern. That is unacceptable to me. Personally, I'd rather just be with a straight girl and not even get into a mess with a bi-sexual girl. I am sure there are guys out there that will be all into it, most of which probably because they only know it as a fantasy. Lying to a person you want to have a relationship with, manipulating them till you think they can hear the truth and then farther lying to make it seem like it just occurred to you that you are "bi" seems like a horrible way to deal with someone you supposedly love. It is just cruel, mean spirited, callous disregard and completely dishonest. But hey, I guess if that is acceptable to you, than who really cares. I suggest that you set the standard that you want the relationship to be monogamous. I have been monogamous in my relationships with men, even though I felt attraction towards women. I don't believe in messing with a woman where it makes the man upset or where he has no knowledge of it. I even asked a man once, "You don't mind me talking about hot girls, do you? I want to make sure I'm being considerate towards you." Some people don't like it when their partner talks about the attractiveness of others. This man said he didn't mind.
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