Bromandudeguy Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 About two weeks ago my girlfriend of 3 and a half years told me she fell out of love with me. She said she's been feeling this way about a year. But she keeps telling me she loves me and always will and she wants to hang out with me, talk to me, and everything besides be my girlfriend. She did say she wants to see other things, see other people. She keeps telling me she can't be tied down at just 20. I am 21 btw. I love her like no other, she said she loved me the same but had doubts and never told me. And her feelings just changed. She told me she doesn't see herself marrying me and just wants to be alone. I have been trying to leave her alone but we ran into each other twice, and 4 times she has come to my house, for random reasons, delete photos, get her stuff, etc. Every time she is over she kisses me, like tries to make out. I of course am all choked up and upset and she tells me, that's why I don't kiss you or anything. Every time she is here. We have sex. She has started acting like she never met me. So much so that I feel like we didn't date for so long. But today she says she wants to hang out with me and everything. But not be my girlfriend. What do I do???? I am going crazy.
jcrew11 Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 maybe try to find another girl friend and make her jealous?
TaraMaiden Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 ONE: STOP having sex! No More! Finished!! TWO: Go No Contact. Read my signature/updated thread. The first post is the No Contact Guide. You must read it, and stick to it, absolutely 100%. The rest of the thread is how mixed up you get, if you don't.....
Casablanca Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 Cut your loses, and dont talk with her. Sex will only make it worse for you tomorrow. She probably is one of those people who seems to have been in a LTR at the beginning of their peak and wants to see what else is out there; it sucks, but there isn't anything you can do
HitMeNow Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 Ye sorry buddy. It's done. Take time off her and invest in yourself. In your school, career, body, mind, skills. You pick. Invest on YOU as this is your golden age. Whoever wants to be with you will come along for the ride. And don't worry too much (although I know sometimes it's hard). Practice meditation. It helps. Learn social skills and get out there. The more people you get to know the easier it will be to completely forget her. Cheers,
Saphira Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 I went through the same thing a boyfriend of mine. from a 2 year relationship. So i know how bad you must be feeling. If you love someone and they dont feel the same way then you cant remain friends while you have those feelings. it is just going to kill you inside to see them happy with other people while you are just longing for that person (i did it, trust me) you have to tell her that if she doesnt want you anymore then that is that. no friendship and no visits. she is just toying with you. she is not having sex with you because she loves you, she has told you that she doenst, she is having sex with you because now she has no boyfriend and you are giving her just what she needs. i,e- using you. you need to let her go, and let yourself start to heal. dont hang out with her. it is only going to mean more to you then it will to her. no need to torture yourself. if she wants to go away, the she needs to be gone. I hope you start to feel better soon
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