HarryLaff Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Hi Guys, A little backstory about me. I'm recently out of a divorce where I was married five years. The whole thing had a massive toll on me and im just strating to feel better and want to get out there a mix with new people. I have massive issues with rejection (not that I've been rejected a lot but when I do i see it as a personal reflection of something being wrong with me physically or otherwise). Anyways I had a meeting in town today with a company who have been working on a project for us. The project is nearing an end and so I went to their offices to sign it off. There will be no reason for me to return back there again. When i was at the offices I was introduced to their project manager, someone Ive had breif conversations with in the past but thats all. Today was the first time I've actually seen her in person and my god she blew me away. It wasnt just her physical appearance but who she was and how she carried herself. Long story short I would love to get to know her better outside of work and see if there was anything deeper there not I think she would be a really cool person to just hang out with - we are both pretty creative and work in similar industries so i think we would have a lot in common. Problem is I dont know whether she has a boyfriend, Facebook doesnt give much away :-) and I know nothing about her other than seeing her today. Having only met someone today and not knowing her at all and the fact that its a client relationship how can I move things forward with her? Email? How should I approach this?
jlindemann Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 I would make it simple. You don't want to put yourself out there too much for fear of rejection. And you don't even know her story. I suggest maybe giving her your card, and write your cell number and personal email on the back of it. Just casually give it to her, tell her it was a pleasure to work with her and hope to do it again in the future. Give her your card, let her know you wrote your cell and email on the back and to call you if she wants to get together for a drink or something. This will either prompt her to say she is already in a relationship. You've lost nothing at that point...not even a blow to your ego. Now you've left the ball in her court...and if she is interested as well, she WILL call. 1
jcrew11 Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 well, you have to find out if she has a boyfriend first. See if she has a wedding ring. I wouldn't rush into asking her out because it could backfire on you.
EasyHeart Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 You said you've had conversations before, so that means you have her phone number. Call her and ask her on a date. Call -- don't text and don't email. And make sure she knows it's a date. BUT: wait until whatever business you have with her is complete. You don't want to mix pleasure with business.
andersonsmith969 Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 I would make it simple. You don't want to put yourself out there too much for fear of rejection. The only way you'll get over rejection is to risk it. It's not even that big a deal--there are many women out there. Email? How should I approach this? Absolutely not. Once your business with her is complete, tell her you are interested in seeing her again, taking her out, whatever. Don't bull****. Tell her you will call her and plan a date right there and then if you can. Problem is I dont know whether she has a boyfriend, Facebook doesnt give much away :-) So? If she says she has a boyfriend after you ask her out, then you'll know. No Facebook or email bull**** that wastes your valuable time. and I know nothing about her other than seeing her today. That's why you ask her out--to get to know her.
Samilia Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 I would make it simple. You don't want to put yourself out there too much for fear of rejection. And you don't even know her story. I suggest maybe giving her your card, and write your cell number and personal email on the back of it. Just casually give it to her, tell her it was a pleasure to work with her and hope to do it again in the future. Give her your card, let her know you wrote your cell and email on the back and to call you if she wants to get together for a drink or something. This will either prompt her to say she is already in a relationship. You've lost nothing at that point...not even a blow to your ego. Now you've left the ball in her court...and if she is interested as well, she WILL call. That's good
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