Leegh Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 (edited) I would think it would be very hard for a married man to "cheat" nowadays with all of the modern technology. Even if a married man went out for a two hour period, his wife could text, email him, etc, and if he didn't reply almost immediately, she might get suspicious. Do these cheaters turn off their cell phones, etc. when they are with the other woman? In addition, if they cheat during their work hours, wouldn't their wife notice that there was not a full work week of pay on this paycheck? I'm just guessing, but it would seem like it was easier for a guy to cheat before all of the modern technology. How do married men find the time to form a new relationship with another woman, especially if they have kids? I'm not referring to marriages where there is an "open" relataionship, but I'm referring to the traditional marriages, where if he's caught cheating, his wife may divorce him. Edited January 18, 2013 by Leegh typo
Realist3 Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 It is not difficult at all. Why would there be a need to turn a phone off?
eleanorrigby Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 It is not difficult at all. Why would there be a need to turn a phone off? Why do you think cheating on your wife is so easy for you versus many other cheating spouses that have to go through lots of cloak and dagger?
Realist3 Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Why do you think cheating on your wife is so easy for you versus many other cheating spouses that have to go through lots of cloak and dagger? Oh, I go thrugh plenty of cloaking so she won't get caught. But when you get right down to it, it is not all that difficult if you know the most common means of discovery. Aside from the efforts to keep it secret, the actual carrying out of the affair is also easy in terms of time. Most people are not chained to their spouse's hip 24/7.
jwi71 Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 I would think it would be very hard for a married man to "cheat" nowadays with all of the modern technology. Some say technology helps them cheat. Even if a married man went out for a two hour period, his wife could text, email him, etc, and if he didn't reply almost immediately, she might get suspicious. "I'm working late and I'm under the gun here" "Dinner with client/boss" Do these cheaters turn off their cell phones, etc. when they are with the other woman? Why would they? In addition, if they cheat during their work hours, wouldn't their wife notice that there was not a full work week of pay on this paycheck? Does not apply for exempt employees I'm just guessing, but it would seem like it was easier for a guy to cheat before all of the modern technology. The exact opposite of what you opened with. How do married men find the time to form a new relationship with another woman, especially if they have kids? Working late Working in a position with travel, no traditional hours or on an on call basis. Being a business owner. Partaking in a hobby not involving the W So many ways this happens. 1
Yellowteacup Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 I've posted this on another thread but men and women will find a way to get together no matter what the technology is. However, modern day technology makes it easier with fake emails, throwaway phones, etc. It is usually carelessness that gets people caught.
Realist3 Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Partaking in a hobby not involving the W ^ This!!!! A hobby or three.
Realist3 Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 I've posted this on another thread but men and women will find a way to get together no matter what the technology is. However, modern day technology makes it easier with fake emails, throwaway phones, etc. It is usually carelessness that gets people caught. Yep. And as time goes on the more careless people tend to be.
neveragain34 Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 As a former OW, I can tell you what my exMM did in regards to technology... When we first met, I had no idea he was married. (His wife lived in another city with the kids so it was easy for him to hide). He did nothing suspicious with his phone and rarely looked at it. However, now when I think back, there were times he said he had to leave my house to Skype with his kids sometimes. He would also want to run to the store a few times and I'd stay behind so he probably called her then. When I discovered he was married (he went to visit his kids one weekend and contact became minimal so I thought this was weird and began to investigate), he convinced me to stay with by giving me the normal bulls*** reasons for not being able to divorce her at that time, saying they were in a loveless and sexless marriage but as an army officer he couldn't divorce her until he got out or he'd get in trouble with the military. Stupid me believed it and to make his life easier I told him he could text her and take her calls whenever he needed to so that she wouldn't grow suspicious of his affair. So to answer your question, if the OW knows he's married, he doesn't have to be sneaky around her, especially if the OW encourages him not to ignore the wife so he won't get in trouble (which could result in less time with the OW or even the end of the affair and sometimes that's the last thing the OW wants). If she doesn't know he's married, then that's another story and I'm sure it's hard for him to keep them both unsuspicious.
Realist3 Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Church choir LOL I wouldn't doubt it. Tennis, hiking, and rowing work just fine for me.
buckeyeblue Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 the actual carrying out of the affair is also easy in terms of time For once we agree. It's easy to find the time when your time is spent only on your (general) needs -- to heck with the kids, their homework, their basic needs, the wife, the housework, the cooking, etc......My children were so disgusted with my CS when they figured out that he was talking/sexting/screwing her instead of helping with college applications, scholarship searches, playing Wii with them, shooting hoops, etc. Like our oldest one told him -- "I sure hope the sex was worth the fact that you will never walk me down the aisle."
Decorative Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 I wouldn't doubt it. Tennis, hiking, and rowing work just fine for me. But you don't have to hide because your wife knows you're dating. Remember ? 3
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