Sara Skay Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Hey! This is gonna be very long so i appreciate anyone who reads and responds to my problem. Thanks a lot. So here it is: I was 16 and my EX was 17 when we began dating and we were together for 2 yrs. I was very much in love with him but he mistreated me. He would break up with me every week on minor issues and when he was angry. I would cry and beg him to come back, cut myself, overdose on medicine that put me to sleep but he would cuss at me and then come back after a couple of days. I readily accepted him every time until I moved to Canada and he began ignoring me, fighting even more and I didn't take him back and we were over. After the breakup I became a lil wrecked, sensitive, needed affection and wanted to be with someone who'd be a fatherly figure to me. Now, guy.1 comes in. He lives int he states and we have met only 5 times.He is 3 years elder to me and he is amazing! He works, is responsible, independent, a great human being, caring, very good-looking and a fatherly figure. We are going to complete a year together BUT the problem is: He is not affectionate. He is loving but very very mildly and I am a very passionate and affectionate person and wana be loved and wana love abundantly. I keep trying to tell guy.1 that I need to be shown love but he just tells me that I have childish needs and he is always busy. We only talk for about 15-20 minutes everyday. He has no time for me and he hardly says anything more than "nice/cute" on me sending him 8943275874 of my pictures (considering the fact that I am very attractive and many guys approach me off and on). Now Guy.1 and I went on a break for a month a few months back because of a few constant arguments and he didn't want drama and wanted to get his priorities straight. All this time I didn't contact him since I was insecure and afraid that he would take me for granted just like my ex, so I was waiting and feeling terrible. During our break, i joined an academy to do a math course and guy.2 comes in. He is only one year elder to me and he is amazing! He loves nature, is cute, very considering and extremely passionate. We started off as friends but he later told me he had fallen for me at the first sight. I kept trying to keep my distance but I failed regardless of my innumerous attempts. He stuck around even though i was trying to push him away and he finally kissed me and it was MAGICAL! He touched me like im made of glass and looks at me like he has never seen be before. I just ADORE the way he is soo passionate and how he treats me but he is very stubborn and aggressive. When he's angry, he does treat me a little rough whereas guy.1 doesn't do that. So Over time, guy.2 and I became very attached and he fell in love with me and is ready to marry me int he future, Now, guy.1 comes back and I had missed him. Guy.1 also wants to marry me. I was crazy about guy.1 and he is an amazing person to be with but I just needed love. I kept trying to push guy.2 away but I can't. I really dunno what to do! Both these guys are truly different amazing! I feel strongly for both. I feel like I'm deceiving both of them but I can't afford to lose either of them. My heart burns when I think about anyone of them going away. I feel terrible. Please help me! I have always been loyal in every relation either frnds, family or my ex. I don't want to be unfair cause God is watching! I want to see both these guys happy! This is very serious. P.s. Its really really hard for me to leave guy.1 cause I have known him for over 5 years and he feels like family member
todreaminblue Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 (edited) Guy 1 is not for you ....guy 2 is ...in my opinion you want passion you want to be loved and feel love go for guy 2..guy 1 was meant to finish that is how you met guy 2 to begin with....move froward dont go backwards..sometimes "guy ones" come back when you are vulnerable or unsure or when you are on the verge of being happy....tell guy 1 as soon as possible ...its over .....and move on happiness awaits you just make the right choice.........best wishes......deb Edit there are three guys here not two.....that confused me.....guy two is actually guy one in yoru book and not your ex.....so i just confuzzled myself....so i understand your confusion... try guy one.....maybe i dont know you decide what is best for you and who makes you happiest choose the right one.....deb Edited January 18, 2013 by todreaminblue
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 The above posters advice seems rather right..Sara, follow it.
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