FailedFirstLove Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Im literally hitting rock bottom. The pain is really bad. I miss him like crazy. I feel as if my life isn't getting anywhere. I want to call him but I don't know what to say and what to expect him to say. I just want to hear his soothing comforting voice. It's so hard that my parents don't understand. They expect me to be over him. They think I'm weird still crying after a month. I tried avoiding everything's out him and my mum would get annoyed at me. They also get annoyed cause i mope around or go out. Im trying to fet better. Yes Seems like im lazy but i cant get myself to cope with the loss! It's really had to not have him tell me everythin is going to be ok. I want him to come back and call me
jovan Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Do not call him. Your just going to hurt your self even more. So why bother? Be patient and time will slowly heal your every wound
Amelie1980 Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Do not call him. Your just going to hurt your self even more. So why bother? Be patient and time will slowly heal your every wound Time doesn't heal wounds ...just lessens the impact. I still feel the pain from my abusive bf if I think about it enough and that was 14 years ago.
Author FailedFirstLove Posted January 18, 2013 Author Posted January 18, 2013 it doesn't seem to be healing mine either... I'm living day by day. Thinking to myself that I won't contact today ill just do it tomorrow. And keep post poning it. Sometimes it's unbearable. So I think one day I will just crack. I hope that day won't be too late.
TaraMaiden Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 I hate that phrase. "Time is a great healer." It's Bullschytt. Time does nothing of the sort. All time does, is 'pass'. The healing process is a voluntary one implemented by us. Effort is the key, believe it or not (and I know I'm going to get slammed by some, for that one.) Healing depends entirely on the person, and their true volition to let go and move on. If you don't loosen the grip, you'll keep hurting more, just like a person grasping a knife by the blade. The tighter you grab it, the more it will cut you to ribbons.
jovan Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 OMG you guy's are in so deep! Snap out of it. When I was a kid, my cat died and I though I will never ever love another cat. But in time it becomes just a memory and hurt slowly disappears. So stop thinking that it won't get better case it will. It really does get better in time!!!! 1
MyAngel Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 No you are not lazy and you're not a failure for still crying after a month. Guess what? You LOVED this person. You actually loved this person and they chose to walk out of your life and now you have a huge gaping hole where they once were and nothing to fill it with. The pain is normal. It's natural to feel this way. It's been like a month and a half for me and I am still thinking of her, still crying, still trying to piece together what happened an wrap my head around it. I am much better than what I was though and if you are honest with yourself I'd say you are better too. You will never fully heal until you get this person out of your life, accept that they are not coming back. For a long time I was still in denial and I partly still am but as each day passes that feeling gets less and less. I am moving forward ever so slightly because I HAVE to. I cannot spend the rest of my life pining over someone who walked out of my life. And neither can you. I know you miss him, I know you love him, but that doesn't mean anything now. The person you love has gone. He left when he left you. He is not that same person anymore. You will get through this. It hasn't been a lot of time get. Give yourself a break, go easy on yourself and know you need to recover and move on. 1
crashvector Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 I will keep this simple and devoid of platitudes. FIGHT. FIGHT the desire to give up...because you CANT give up. Find your reason to WANT to move on....the fact you know that you WILL find love again.
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