Maybe1 Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 So I lasted five weeks and decided it to text him to see how he was doing. We texted back & forth with regular chit chat & then he asked me to catch up for a coffee soon. I've been flicking through some of the posts trying to get some sort of light shed on the situation. I mean we haven't spoken in five weeks, surely I should test the waters right? Who knows what could happen right? I'm just nervous I'll say the wrong thing or something, tips anyone?
TaraMaiden Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 B-R-E-A-D-C-R-U-M-B-S. He has no intention of becoming amorous, getting back with you, seeing if you can try again or anything else to do with reconciliation. he's being "kind". He's being a "Friend". Try reading the No Contact Guide - updated, in my signature. First post is the Definitive Guide to doing it 100% right. The rest of the thread is devoted to questions from members who want their exes back - and hose hopes keep getting dashed, time and again, by 'Breadcrumbs'. Bad - BAD - idea, breaking contact. he now thinks you are well and truly over him, and he thinks coffee is a great way of friend-zoning you.
Author Maybe1 Posted January 18, 2013 Author Posted January 18, 2013 I knew it was a bad idea when I did it but just couldn't stop myself. But thanks for the reply...I'll get into the long read now.
TaraMaiden Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 CALL him - don't text him - have a bit of self-respect - and tell him you've re-thought the 'coffee' idea. You've realised her's just being friendly, but you want much more from him, and you get the impression he doesn't want to try again, so - thanks, but no thanks. Don't get into meaningless chit-chat, or get drawn into discussing the whys and wherefores of your break-up, or what happened or why you guys can't be together (according to him). Just make it brief, say bye bye and leave it at that. Then, delete, block, ignore and don't - do - it - again!!!
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