Keenly Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 At work there is a new girl. She's 18 (maybe 19) and ... I lack the words. It's not even a sexual kind of attraction, I have never even had a sexual thought about her... But god damn is she beautiful. Possibly the single most gorgeous girl I have ever seen. Basically I talk to her every time were near each other... and today we actually had a 1 on 1 pretty nice, flirty conversation with her, and hopefully scored a few points with something I left in her cubicle relating to what we discussed. The problem? This is not going to happen lol. I am not that lucky, and I have done this to myself before. I get all excited and then I watch as she has a boyfriend OR is not into guys like me or whatever of a billion reasons she wont like me. Keep in mind that I still fully intend to flirt with her and see if any signals or chemistry is there to pursue, but I am very doubtful. I would be TOO happy, and every time I get too happy, life has a way of smacking me across the face with a wet fish. How can I get her out of my head exactly? I'm trying to distract myself, but 44 videos trying to record some music later, and I keep messing up because she keeps popping into my head. What can I do here?
MrCastle Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Understand she has flaws like every human does. There is no perfect human being. She wakes up with morning breath, she takes dumps, she has those "not so fresh days". She's not a princess, she's not a goddess; she's a human being. Treat her like one. I'm sure you're not the first guy to fall at her feet and you won't be the last. Treat her like you don't care about her appearance. She's just like you and me; only hot. But so what?
Author Keenly Posted January 18, 2013 Author Posted January 18, 2013 I think your getting the wrong idea. I act just fine around her, quite smooth I say. What I need to do is stop thinking about her because its building up expectation for almost probable failure. I'm guessing maybe 20% chance I actually get a date with this girl, but, being an odds man, that's a pretty low chance. The problem is she just keeps popping back in my head, about every 20 seconds.
Author Keenly Posted January 18, 2013 Author Posted January 18, 2013 Positive mental attitude and all that jazz..... think, believe and act like its going to happen and you are already 100% better off..... I can't buy that, because every single relationship I have ever been in, I was positive that it wasn't going to happen, and it did. 1
Author Keenly Posted January 18, 2013 Author Posted January 18, 2013 Go see some strippers...? Interesting though, 23 and never been to a strip club
MrCastle Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 I don't know how smooth you're acting around her. You're certainly pedestalizing her on here. Interesting though, 23 and never been to a strip club Well that's not okay.
Author Keenly Posted January 18, 2013 Author Posted January 18, 2013 I don't know how smooth you're acting around her. You're certainly pedestalizing her on here. Well that's not okay. just dont want to pay to have it wagged in my face when there is porn on the interwebz for free You have to make the separation of whats going on in my head, and how I actually interact with her. We are flirty, and I am also witty, so its usually just flirting laughing about random stuff and I treat her just like every other co worker I have. But inside my head... Its going crazy
Lani Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Interesting though, 23 and never been to a strip club I don't think this is ok either. Get your buddies, head out for a night on the town. Check out some strippers, you don't always have to pay you know- only if you want 'special treatment'. It'll distract you, even if only for a little while. Other than that dude, there isn't really much you can do to get her out of your head. 1
MrCastle Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 just dont want to pay to have it wagged in my face when there is porn on the interwebz for free You have to make the separation of whats going on in my head, and how I actually interact with her. We are flirty, and I am also witty, so its usually just flirting laughing about random stuff and I treat her just like every other co worker I have. But inside my head... Its going crazy Well porn is just your hand and a computer screen. For me, interacting with strippers in my unsuccessful days gave me the confidence and exposure in dealing with/talking to seriously hot, naked females, and not being shy about female nudity. Even if you just go to talk and not get dry humped/blue balled, you're interacting with knockouts. When the time comes to approach females you are trying to date; it'll be nothing, because you've seen hotter women, naked, and spoke to them. Strippers are more than happy to talk to you. It breaks up the monotony of their job. Anyways enough about strippers. Just keep a positive mindset, if you expect failure; failure you will get.
Lani Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Anyways enough about strippers. Never enough about strippers. 1
MrCastle Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Never enough about strippers. For the sake of this thread! But agreed. Strippers
CC12 Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 How can I get her out of my head exactly? I'm trying to distract myself, but 44 videos trying to record some music later, and I keep messing up because she keeps popping into my head. What can I do here? You have a crush. It's really not that big of a deal. I mean, this is the part where it's supposed to be fun and exciting. You shouldn't have a lot riding on this and you're not supposed to be agonizing over it or predicting your failure. That's for later, when you're trying to muster the courage to ask her out or whatever. You should be enjoying the little crush you have on this girl. It's fun. You're like, pre-rejecting yourself. Stop that. Enjoy yourself. And go see some strippers. 1
StanMusial Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 I think your getting the wrong idea. I act just fine around her, quite smooth I say. What I need to do is stop thinking about her because its building up expectation for almost probable failure. I'm guessing maybe 20% chance I actually get a date with this girl, but, being an odds man, that's a pretty low chance. The problem is she just keeps popping back in my head, about every 20 seconds. A 20% chance with a hot girl is really good. You're basically saying 1 in 5 hot girls would go on a date with you. I'm liking those odds. And +1 on the strippers... way better than porn because the boobies are all up in your grill LOL. 1
tom22 Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Why not just ask her out? If you get rejected, thats what you expected anyway so you haven't lost anything, but if she says yes... happy days!
Author Keenly Posted January 18, 2013 Author Posted January 18, 2013 Like I said before... Just in case people are skipping through. I act just fine around her. I am confident , funny, witty , etc. The struggle is completely internal and only happens when she isn't around. When she IS around its all butterflies and me being unable to control the feelings I get. I Did not mean 20% with hot chicks, just this chick. If she shows up today , I should have a update. If she is there she will run to my cube to talk because I left her a little present that she is going to like. So I'm gonna sit back and wait for that. Can't seem too eager, I just met her.
ChatroomHero Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 I Did not mean 20% with hot chicks, just this chick. If she shows up today , I should have a update. If she is there she will run to my cube to talk because I left her a little present that she is going to like. So I'm gonna sit back and wait for that. Can't seem too eager, I just met her. I have a sinking feeling that she might not come by to talk about the gift and he'll be on suicide watch this weekend. 1
Author Keenly Posted January 18, 2013 Author Posted January 18, 2013 I have a sinking feeling that she might not come by to talk about the gift and he'll be on suicide watch this weekend. Sounds like a wager to me. I'd put money on her coming back. Suicide watch? I think I'll be alright. 1
FitChick Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 Channel your energy and desire into songwriting. It worked for Eric Clapton as well as many other singers and musicians. But don't play any songs you've written for or about her unless you two become exclusive. She will be embarrassed. Patti Boyd Harrison was very embarrassed the first time Clapton played Layla for her.
Bristolius Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 Keenly, is this the girl that inspired your giving up thread? Yikes. What happened? Sorry if you've already described it somewhere.
pbjbear Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 Perhaps the reason you keep scoring out is you keep going for "beautiful" women Not saying you should date an ugly woman though...but a girl who is really beautiful will be harder to get and vice versa for women
MrCastle Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 Perhaps the reason you keep scoring out is you keep going for "beautiful" women Not saying you should date an ugly woman though...but a girl who is really beautiful will be harder to get and vice versa for women You can't help who you like though. I don't go out actively seeking women who model or can model, but 9 times out of 10, the girls I approach are either 1.) tinkering with the idea of modeling or 2.) are already modeling. Face sends me over the moon, I love a great face. If I'm not attracted to your face I can't force attraction to work. You can have the body of a goddess, it just won't happen for us.
pbjbear Posted January 25, 2013 Posted January 25, 2013 You can't help who you like though. I don't go out actively seeking women who model or can model, but 9 times out of 10, the girls I approach are either 1.) tinkering with the idea of modeling or 2.) are already modeling. Face sends me over the moon, I love a great face. If I'm not attracted to your face I can't force attraction to work. You can have the body of a goddess, it just won't happen for us. Id say based on your posts you are attractive and have the game to attain them...this guy obviously doesnt based on his rants To get the beautiful women, you need to have the looks or if you dont, something else to make up for it. This guy doesnt and thats why he is so negative
Author Keenly Posted January 25, 2013 Author Posted January 25, 2013 Ha I think you are getting the wrong idea. That chick came back and I got her phone number like the day after. She turned out to be a little different than what I was expecting, in a bad way. I was quite sad at the amount of false excitement I was building with nothing to actually base it on. At least I have a texting buddy at work now lol.
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