DefaultPlanB Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Hello long time reader, first time poster. OK so first off I'm single. Let's get that out of the way first and foremost as it's relevant to the predicament I'm currently in. Here we go. My friend (actual friend not a diversion meaning me) is not so happily married. She loves her husband with all her heart, but there are things that he does that she doesn't like or approve of. Me and her have been friends for as long as we could remember, even before we could remember since our parents were close friends. At some point towards the end of high school for me, and maybe in college we may have been attracted to each other. We caught back up with each other and she was pregnant with her first child. So out of respect for her and the father, I just ignored anything I felt for her. We became closer friends and talked about everything, I literally forced myself into the friend zone with no chance of escape. Fast forward a few years, they're married I'm good friends with both, and now the godfather of the children. But living together just isn't quite working out with her as he can't fully "perform" where it counts due to several injuries. I'm closer to her than him, and somewhere down the line she developed feelings for me assuming they were mutual. I really don't want to hurt her and neither of us want to hurt him. A mutual friend of her mentioned a clearly visible "tension" between us. Hugs became more involving, hands roamed, and finally about a week ago while drinking we kissed. Now... whether or not that's cheating or infidelity isn't the issue we agree it was wrong, nor do I wonder if the booze makes it excusable. The first kiss was after a long conversation and was a little awkward. So we were going to ignore it as "hey, it's booze didn't mean anything." The second was a mutual decision that until we did it again we'd be in "what if" mode so one last kiss to get it over and done with and out of our system. The problem is, that it has backfired horribly. Instead of ending the urge it opened flood gates. Since that one kiss, we've made out twice and now kissing is starting to be like a greeting between us even if we both say it's wrong and should stop. She can't stop wanting to kiss me, and vice versa. The problem with it all is her husband is oblivious, and trusts me more than anyone. I can show up at their house unannounced as we hang out regularly. He's left the house with just us there without a doubt in his mind that it may not be ok. I don't want to distant myself from either of them, and though I suggest we should stop it doesn't work. She feels extremely guilty and so do I. What if anything should I do? Should I have a sit down with her husband and come clean?
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