Lani Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 So, heading into the weekend, I'd love some advice on how to attract guys. Generally, I'm not great at it. And I'm not trying to be all 'wahh wah, guys never like me, blah blah', just stating facts. I'm headed out with a bunch of friends tonight for one of their birthdays, and I tend to get caught up in catching up with all of them when we're out. Is staying around your group of friends a bad idea, given that it may make it a little harder to approach me? Or does concentrating on them, and not other guys around, make me seem like I'm easy going and not too eager and with my man goggles on trying to spy whatever I can? Really, I just want some advice on what are the big should and should not's when out.
charlietheginger Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Wear pink dont go over board with it. Pink sends a Signal to the brain of warmth and kindness Smile a smile shows your happy and inviting. dont wear any rings. Be eazy to talk to engage into conversation and interact in public places with everyone a guy that can see your Friendly with strangers will be more likely to approach or ease into conversations with you.Don't act fake be yourself.
Author Lani Posted January 18, 2013 Author Posted January 18, 2013 Wear pink dont go over board with it. Pink sends a Signal to the brain of warmth and kindness Smile a smile shows your happy and inviting. dont wear any rings. Be eazy to talk to engage into conversation and interact in public places with everyone a guy that can see your Friendly with strangers will be more likely to approach or ease into conversations with you.Don't act fake be yourself. what, why not?
charlietheginger Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 what, why not? Guys often see rings on the middle fingers from a distance Not really paying attention if its left or right hand and Wont approach. 2
MrCastle Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Guys often see rings on the middle fingers from a distance Not really paying attention if its left or right hand and Wont approach. ^^^^^^^^^^^
Author Lani Posted January 18, 2013 Author Posted January 18, 2013 ok.. no rings. I'm not wearing pink, I can't pull it off. Anyone else have advice? I'm reluctant to take too much from redneck seeking Charlie..
charlietheginger Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 ok.. no rings. I'm not wearing pink, I can't pull it off. Anyone else have advice? I'm reluctant to take too much from redneck seeking Charlie.. Pink is the color of female sexuality. Lips vagina nipples are all pink. Google How to attract a man pink. You will See tons of articles on it. pink is supposed to be the biggest eye Catcher . A pink sweater pink shirt pink is associated with love and affection
Author Lani Posted January 18, 2013 Author Posted January 18, 2013 Well I'll definitely be wearing my nipples and vagina. But probably no other pink, it looks awful on me. And it's mid summer here, definitely not sweater time! 2
MrCastle Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Where are you going? A bar? If you see a guy you like by the bar, walk up to get a drink and smile at him as you walk past him, or even sit next to him if he's sitting by the bar and say hello. That should be enough for him to get the picture and open up for conversation. I don't approach women who are in groups as they're like a pack of wolves, and if one of them disapproves of you, the sheep mentality takes over and they all rule you out. I wait for a girl to be away from her friends before I approach. As far as what to wear and whatnot, different guys like different things. For instance, I couldn't care less about boobs. If a girl walked in topless I wouldn't blink an eye. I prefer something that shows off and compliments the ass and legs. I prefer minimal makeup and straight hair worn down. Not in a ponytail, or a bun, or whatever. Just straight down. I don't know what else to say.
Keenly Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 All you have to do... LITERALLY ALL all you have to do. Just walk up to a guy, any guy, every guy, it doesn't matter. Just talk to him. Who cares what its about. Who cares if it might seem scary. That is all a woman has to do, and if a guy doesn't completely suck at dating, you two can add your signals together to find out if he is potential dating material or not.
thatone Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Pink is for whores and those who imitate the tasteless from pure lack of identity and self worth. Now that that's settled, yes ditch the crowd. Go sit at the bar for awhile by yourself or with one other girl. I'm never going to wade into a group of loud cackling women to try and approach one only to have the others instantly get jealous of not getting approached themselves and start to plot against me and the one (which will usually be the case). 1
MrCastle Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Pink is for whores and those who imitate the tasteless from pure lack of identity and self worth. It's just a color 2
Author Lani Posted January 18, 2013 Author Posted January 18, 2013 Where are you going? A bar? If you see a guy you like by the bar, walk up to get a drink and smile at him as you walk past him, or even sit next to him if he's sitting by the bar and say hello. That should be enough for him to get the picture and open up for conversation. I don't approach women who are in groups as they're like a pack of wolves, and if one of them disapproves of you, the sheep mentality takes over and they all rule you out. I wait for a girl to be away from her friends before I approach. As far as what to wear and whatnot, different guys like different things. For instance, I couldn't care less about boobs. If a girl walked in topless I wouldn't blink an eye. I prefer something that shows off and compliments the ass and legs. I prefer minimal makeup and straight hair worn down. Not in a ponytail, or a bun, or whatever. Just straight down. I don't know what else to say. Well I have boobs, that are unavoidable, topless or not. But I'm not one to put them on display so much. I'll keep the ass thing in mind, but it's too hot for jeans or anything like that. Yep, going to a bar. Our group is guys and girls, and I like to think we're all pretty approachable and friendly. But you're right, the whole 'pack mentality' thing intimidates me so I can imagine it's the same for others. All you have to do... LITERALLY ALL all you have to do. Just walk up to a guy, any guy, every guy, it doesn't matter. Just talk to him. Who cares what its about. Who cares if it might seem scary. That is all a woman has to do, and if a guy doesn't completely suck at dating, you two can add your signals together to find out if he is potential dating material or not. Well, to me that seems really scary. I can be super awkward around guys I find attractive, which I guess is one of my downfalls. I get quiet and lame. But a couple of drinks should help me here. The crowd should be big enough that if I do walk up to a guy and totally flake and it goes awfully, I can just dissolve into the crowd again and pretend it didn't happen.
Author Lani Posted January 18, 2013 Author Posted January 18, 2013 Pink is for whores and those who imitate the tasteless from pure lack of identity and self worth. This would be why it doesn't suit me!
thatone Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 It's just a color I'm biased, my GF has a teenage daughter. At this point I'm a potential terrorist aiming at glitter and pink fabric factories.
Author Lani Posted January 18, 2013 Author Posted January 18, 2013 Can you cook, can you clean, do you enjoy pleasing your man? Also do you look sexy? If so all you need to do is step out of your house to attract a guy... or atleast open the windows. The first sentence all applies to me. As for looking sexy, well, this is tough. Because although I want to be sexy (I mean, who doesn't?) I want to be taken more seriously than that.. But I guess I need it to get their attention in the first place?
Author Lani Posted January 18, 2013 Author Posted January 18, 2013 I'm a pretty happy and easy going person, and like to think I give off that vibe. If i'm not having a good time, or am pissed off for any reason, I tend to just stay/go home. My social circle is reasonable. I have a couple of different groups of friends, tonight there should be about 25 of us?
Author Lani Posted January 18, 2013 Author Posted January 18, 2013 I like a girl with no make up on. So when I said sexy I didn't mean put on make up and dress slutty. I just meant do you look good. I never dress slutty anyway. But yeah, I guess I do look good? I have been told I'm sexy, so I should just take that and go with it. Sexiness is more about just how I look, right? It's got to be part of how I carry and conduct myself.
thatone Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 I never dress slutty anyway. But yeah, I guess I do look good? I have been told I'm sexy, so I should just take that and go with it. Sexiness is more about just how I look, right? It's got to be part of how I carry and conduct myself. Indeed it is. I say don't worry about it. If you only go out in groups of other women that's why you don't get approached. Go places alone or with only one other female friend and you might be surprised...
Author Lani Posted January 18, 2013 Author Posted January 18, 2013 Can you do the walk. It's where your butt kinda bobs up and down. Guys go crazy for the walk. Haha, yeah I can.
Author Lani Posted January 18, 2013 Author Posted January 18, 2013 The walk is a very good tool for attracting guys. Also another good way to attract guys is to just stand by one you like and act like you're just thinking and doing nothing. Heck smile at him. When people are doing this, I always think it looks like they're sneaking out a fart.
thatone Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 When people are doing this, I always think it looks like they're sneaking out a fart. Maybe you'll catch a guy with a fart fetish. Could make for good stories!
Author Lani Posted January 18, 2013 Author Posted January 18, 2013 No the walk is really sexy. I meant the 'stand near them and pretend I'm thinking. Then smile.' Total fart scene. Post a picture. Ditch your friends once in a while. How do I post a picture?
veggirl Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Girl just go up to the bar alone to get your drink. a group of 25(!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!) is crazy inapproachable. so when you want a drink, go alone. 1
Author Lani Posted January 18, 2013 Author Posted January 18, 2013 Well of course I'm going to go to the bar alone. We're not going to walk in one big fat group blob to the bar! As fun as that would be. Some useful tips here though, thanks guys!
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