Author CantgetoveritNY Posted January 18, 2013 Author Posted January 18, 2013 WOW, your "wife" sounds like my x-wife. I'd consult an attorney and make sure that just because she is too lazy to work if that would be reason enough you'd have to pay alimony. For the most part, not everywhere, and it depends on just how rich the guy is, alimony is pretty much a thing of the past, but there are exceptions. So if you find out from an attorney and he/she says you won't be having to pay any, then DUMP HER!!!! If you have kids, you'll pay child support, but you pay for them anyway. Or if you can prove her to be a lazy slug, you could get custody. And when she realizes she has to finally go out and get a job, it will hit her like a ton of bricks, like it did my x-wife. She didn't think I'd actually divorce her because she didn't think I wanted the expense. I told her "divorce is expensive because its worth it". At least consult an attorney for an hour and get his/her thoughts. I have an attorney. I would have to pay for three to five years. And the reason is B/C I let her not work for so long. I hope anyone reading this understands, being good to your wife while married will cost you later if you want to dump her. Not to be sexist, it is the same for a woman that supports a guy. And that does happen. I've read about it and even know one case personally where the woman is now very hesitant to divorce her cheating husband b/c he got hurt on the job and has not worked for years but she has a good paying job. She's looking at it like, why divorce him and have to pay him money when she can just ignore him on the couch for free. But I'm with you nofool. It might cost me but if I decide reconciliation is not happening I'm not going to let her sit on the couch just to avoid paying alimony. Its only 3 to 5 anyway. I can do 3 to 5 one handed.
Thegameoflife Posted January 19, 2013 Posted January 19, 2013 It doesn't sound like cheating is really your main problem here at all. The problem is that you have no role in your family. Men really only have one role in a family, and that's leadership. I'm not being sexist but it's all we have. See, your wife is the mom, and the kids need her. But if you aren't the leader, what are you? You're simply just a slave for the family, earning cash to sustain a mom and her kids, but you have no position of honor or respect. If you ask any man that is unhappy at work or in his marriage, it's because they aren't respected. In our society, it's common for men to have the only role we have in a family taken from us. It's sad
Author CantgetoveritNY Posted January 19, 2013 Author Posted January 19, 2013 It doesn't sound like cheating is really your main problem here at all. The problem is that you have no role in your family. Men really only have one role in a family, and that's leadership. I'm not being sexist but it's all we have. See, your wife is the mom, and the kids need her. But if you aren't the leader, what are you? You're simply just a slave for the family, earning cash to sustain a mom and her kids, but you have no position of honor or respect. If you ask any man that is unhappy at work or in his marriage, it's because they aren't respected. In our society, it's common for men to have the only role we have in a family taken from us. It's sad She is not that great a mom. She hates being a mom. Loves the kids but hates the mom role. So I'm pretty important to the kids. But no, WW does not honor or respect me.
Thegameoflife Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 She is not that great a mom. She hates being a mom. Loves the kids but hates the mom role. So I'm pretty important to the kids. But no, WW does not honor or respect me. This is actually a worse state of things if she's not a good MOM either. This means she's avoiding her role of running the house, and denying your role as the leader. Your family has no foundation. How would your office function if there was no boss, or employee ladder. You're all just pitching in the hopes things will work out. Your business wouldn't be around long. My suggestion would be to get counseling for you guys to re-establish your family roles, and get the respect you need. If she won't co-operate, use her infidelity as the reason for filing divorce. Take out cash money and hide it somewhere, just in case things get ugly. Good Luck.
Author CantgetoveritNY Posted January 20, 2013 Author Posted January 20, 2013 Take out cash money and hide it somewhere, just in case things get ugly. Good Luck. That would be,,,, cheating. I can't believe you would suggest that. Here of all places. The rest of your postings are good so I hope you will look at this as counter to the rest of what you post.
Darren Steez Posted January 20, 2013 Posted January 20, 2013 She is not that great a mom. She hates being a mom. Loves the kids but hates the mom role. So I'm pretty important to the kids. But no, WW does not honor or respect me. Doesn't work, hates the mom role, wife does not honor or respect you, she cheated on you, wants a bigger house and car... WHY are you with her again?
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