cavalier99 Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Sorry your hurting but this seems pretty clear to me. 1) he cheated on you and disrespected you and flirted with other women ecetera 2) he doesn't want to communicate with you and blows you off when you contact him So in summary he doesn't want a relationship with you and doesn't want to be your friend. And you correctly got rid of this douchebag from your life. So just move on and stop reaching out. It is over and has been over. Find someone who cares for you. He is ancient history except in your mind.
FailedFirstLove Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 He will end up regretting what he did to you Can't tell you when. It could be in a few days or few years when he realizes there's no one that cares for him like you did. When the girls who he hooked up with no longer plays with him
cavalier99 Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 I mean it is cool that you forgive him etcetera. But forgiveness is for yourself to move on and not hold resentments. Not so you can get back to an unhealthy relationship that he doesn't want anyway with you. So not only forgive but also more importantly LET GO of the idea that you will ever be friends or have a relationship. If he want to reach out fine. But is doesn't seem healthy for you to have him in your life now.
Author GingerVixen Posted January 18, 2013 Author Posted January 18, 2013 So in summary he doesn't want a relationship with you and doesn't want to be your friend. And you correctly got rid of this douchebag from your life. So just move on and stop reaching out. It is over and has been over. Find someone who cares for you. He is ancient history except in your mind. Yes, you're right. I should do that. Just thought that maybe we could have a decent talk one day. My mistake. Won't happen again. I've decided to ignore him for good. He will end up regretting what he did to you Can't tell you when. It could be in a few days or few years when he realizes there's no one that cares for him like you did. When the girls who he hooked up with no longer plays with him I only doubt it because he's really black-hearted. Honestly, taking his attitude towards me I don't even think he's able to feel anything good for anyone, or regret. But we'll see it later on... Thank you for your words, guys
FailedFirstLove Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 Trust me, I understand how it feels to still love someone an care for them even when they have done a lot hurt you. If I could change that I would make myself not look back for a second. the only good thing is that you had the chance to make the choice to dump him. take that as A confidence boost! It's going to be too difficult If you contact him while you still feel this way. It will make you question your decision to let him go. Don't question it. You did what was right in every way. My ex left me the worse way possible. And I'm still struggling to be angry at his actions. Seems like time makes bad memories fade and urges you to try again.
Author GingerVixen Posted January 18, 2013 Author Posted January 18, 2013 Trust me, I understand how it feels to still love someone an care for them even when they have done a lot hurt you. If I could change that I would make myself not look back for a second. the only good thing is that you had the chance to make the choice to dump him. take that as A confidence boost! It's going to be too difficult If you contact him while you still feel this way. It will make you question your decision to let him go. Don't question it. You did what was right in every way. My ex left me the worse way possible. And I'm still struggling to be angry at his actions. Seems like time makes bad memories fade and urges you to try again. I feel stupid for recontacting him but yes you're right, at least I broke up with him once. I feel like he's using me as a doormat/ego booster and I only talked to him last week because in my stupidity I thought he really wanted to talk to me again in an adult, mature, decent way. I understand you. I believe you have to urge to recontact and try again because after all you just want things to be well again, you don't want to see the misery about it, you can't accept that everything would end up in such a terrible way. Because I do feel the same. *hugs*
FailedFirstLove Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 I feel stupid for recontacting him but yes you're right, at least I broke up with him once. I feel like he's using me as a doormat/ego booster and I only talked to him last week because in my stupidity I thought he really wanted to talk to me again in an adult, mature, decent way. I understand you. I believe you have to urge to recontact and try again because after all you just want things to be well again, you don't want to see the misery about it, you can't accept that everything would end up in such a terrible way. Because I do feel the same. *hugs* Aww *hugs*. I wish all dumpers were like you. Here they stil cared. Mines probably out partying and going out enjoying his life. Bet you anything they feel free without someone to keep them grounded. our only choice is to leave this up to fate to brim us the right person. So miserable thinking about him if he comes crawling back make sure you give it back to his face ok. Satisfaction is needed.
Author GingerVixen Posted January 18, 2013 Author Posted January 18, 2013 (edited) Aww *hugs*. I wish all dumpers were like you. Here they stil cared. Mines probably out partying and going out enjoying his life. Bet you anything they feel free without someone to keep them grounded. our only choice is to leave this up to fate to brim us the right person. So miserable thinking about him Lol, if he recontacts me again I'll do just like he always did to me: ignore him. Yes, yes you're 100% right . It's difficult to accept this at first but we have to deal with the fact that life prepares us better things, I'm a religious (I'm not a fanatic one but I do believe in God) person and I believe God wants us to be happy, if something went away it's because He wanted us to have something better. Difficult to use this in my life because of my stupid mixed feelings, but I've improved a lot compared to the crying mess I used to be last year. I only broke up with him because he's cheated on me. I don't even think I'm the dumper because the moment you cheat on your gf, you're automatically saying you don't want a decent relationship with her so you're almost dumping her. I'm sure you'll find someone amazing. Ignore the fact I'm not taking the medicine i'm prescribing right now, but please face your situation this way: you didn't lose him, you just got RID of the terrible things he made you go through. Edited January 18, 2013 by GingerVixen 1
Coping Vortex Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 my ex dumped me then tried to friend zone me. That's just cruel. It's like taking coca cola from me and then Handing me Pepsi and saying here you go take this instead. Why take the coke from me!!!!!!!!!! I got the "i want to still be friends line just today" The hell with that.
FailedFirstLove Posted January 18, 2013 Posted January 18, 2013 I got the "i want to still be friends line just today" The hell with that. Throw the flat Pepsi away!!!!!! It will only give you gas and a bad stomach ache. If you can't have the coke don't settle for the Pepsiols
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